Oleander Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I have been seeing a guy for a little over two months. I had known him back in college briefly (nothing happened then). I got in touch with him with good old Facebook and since we have seeing each other three times in two months now. The second trip was a week where I visited him. He said he does not want anything intense etc right now bc he got hurt in a recent relationship that ended six months ago. I tried to lightly end things with him bc I do not want to get hurt. He flat out said basically to me he wants to have a good time and something to look forward to but would not like it if I lived in his city since he does not want to be with someone 7 days a week. So.... I thought it smart to say goodbye. He came back with "that made him very sad and he wanted to talk. So we did and he told me we were in a relationship he just is still not ready for something all out intense and serious. However, he likes me and likes seeing me. He does not date other ppl so he says. He also says he wants to take it one day at a time and who knows what might happen with us in the future. We do not talk on the phone but every few days and communicate through email and texts etc daily. When we are together he tells me the sweetest things and stares at me non-stop. Does anyone have any advice for me? I know you all have experience with this and hoped you could shed some light. I am a bit neurotic and analyze everything. That does not help in a LDR. Thanks in advance for any advice or insight and thanks for reading this long post! Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Caution on his part is understandable, because he recognises this could be a 'rebound'....I think he's scared to commit to anything, because he realises it might just be a seeking for comfort, as opposed to a new and improved relationship... So I can see why he's hesitating. I think taking it slow is a wise move. NOTE: If you were 6 years into a relationship with him and he was acting this way, he would be what we call a 'Commitmentphobe'.... but I don't think this is the case here. Link to post Share on other sites
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