A new challenging stage of a LDR..

[JaydaLeah]

Ok my bf and i have been in a LDR for a yr now.. we have been through those initial heartaches of being apart, all kinds of insecurities and what-nots... and so far, we managed to pull through... The last time we met, we talked more in depth about our future and it established our relaP deeper.

 

He promised me he will be back end of next year.. and these 2 yrs while he is away, he is trying to built up his career. So he told me its either he make it or break it. And if he doesnt pull through, he will just have to be back and get a job, start all over again.

 

Im probably gonna get lots of people judging me for this. It's gonna sound kinda ridiculous, but its bugging me, so i have to share it. I met this dentist, whom i am very much impressed with his professionalism and earnestness. I can sense that he enjoys my company (he seems to laugh at the things i say) and so do i. And there, all of a sudden, the thought of "hey, what if there is a possibility between this dentist and me?".

 

I feel like I want a guy who can give me security. This dentist is about 6 yrs older than i am, and stable in his job. My bf is a yr older than me and still craving out his career. Im 25 this yr and as much as i am so not ready to get married, I will want to see that whoever im gonna marry is one that will be financially stable. To some, money is not all. Its not all to me either. But we have to admit that it is important. I have seen many marriages fail because of monetary issues.

 

I feel materialistic. But yet, i feel that i have the right to choose what makes me feel secure for a partner. Of course, nothing is gonna come out btn Mr Dentist and me coz we are just... doc and patient. I still love my bf, i still think im sticking with him. But this sudden.. wave of .. i dunno wat i shld call it is making me... uncomfy about myself, my bf and what i really want. Shrugs. Could it be just a phase in my LDR?

[AnnPod]

Look, your boyfriend is your boyfriend, your dentist is your dentist.

 

I think the problem is not that you fancy this dentist so much, but that you feel you are not sure about your relationship. This is the issue with LDRs: You are in it and it's complicated, and you have no idea what you get out of it. Because love can do a lot, but not everything, and you need some concrete perspective sooner or later.

 

And no one can judge you for that. Because it's tough, very tough (as you know), and yeah, it's totally ok to think now and then if it's worth all the mess. And maybe distance is not the only problem, maybe you are somehow not sure if your boyfriend is the right person for you. Additionally, well, I always would make sure I earn enough money myself to get the life standard I want I can't imagine this is what you really want, if you have been serious with you boyfriend before.