silverfish Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Is there any way you can get a retrospective loan for your tuition fees? You could use the money then to get somewhere to live. I know you can't get student accomodation, but it's not that much cheaper than renting privately any more from what I've heard (been working with bloody students all Summer!) If you are living in the city, you can make a lot of money from waitressing if you pick the right place. I know they are mostly minimum wage jobs, but if you work on Fridays and Saturdays, you can easily make an extra £2 / £3 per hr in tips as well (plus it's paid in cash normally). You'll also meet people as restaurants are a great place to work for the social life as well as support etc. If you kept the weekdays free for studies, and worked, say 20 hours over the w/end, you could be earning around £150 - 170 per week. I know that this is a very hard course because my stepsister did it about 4 yrs ago. She's working in Bristol now for the CPS. She spent time doing work experience in Dartmoor prison as part of her course! I hope things are going better with your mum now, she really does need to pull her finger out and help you. Maybe give her something practical to do to help you? Hope you're feeling beter today Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 Well, the imediate threat of homelessness is over thank God. She has backed down after yet more screaming at me this morning. I'm still going to look at different options though, I cannot live like this anymore. I am overwhelmed by all the support everyone on here has given me, both on the board here and through PM. There are truely some lovely people in this world, some have even been kind enough to offer practical support such as looking after my cat for me, so thoughtful and caring, thank you. It's tough and yesterday I got very low, to that very dark place, it just seems it is so easy to slide back there at the moment, things just keep kicking me while I am down, but now I now how much love and support is there for me, thank you all of you. Just wanted to add, all your ex's are crazy to leave such a wonderful caring and compassionate group of people like you, some people just don't know when they are well off! Link to post Share on other sites
lupa Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Well, the imediate threat of homelessness is over thank God. She has backed down after yet more screaming at me this morning. I'm still going to look at different options though, I cannot live like this anymore. I am overwhelmed by all the support everyone on here has given me, both on the board here and through PM. There are truely some lovely people in this world, some have even been kind enough to offer practical support such as looking after my cat for me, so thoughtful and caring, thank you. It's tough and yesterday I got very low, to that very dark place, it just seems it is so easy to slide back there at the moment, things just keep kicking me while I am down, but now I now how much love and support is there for me, thank you all of you. Just wanted to add, all your ex's are crazy to leave such a wonderful caring and compassionate group of people like you, some people just don't know when they are well off! Stay strong, Lis, stay strong. You'll get yourself and your world together. We all will. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Every one of us has fallen into that dark place to some degree. Just know that there are people here who love you and are willing to reach down and pull you out! Glad your feeling better Lisa TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 WE love you lis!!! THIS will be a GREAT DAY! you will find what you need or at least some leads...i just know it! and me...well, you coming out of your darkness and reading all the posts yesteday and this morning..you are right...there so many amazing people here on LS... which has now inspired ME to get out of my APT. today...that i have been hole up in for 4 days now crying... so, you see, your posting and reaching out...saved me too! i am going to get up today, get dressed, put on make-up ( as you say to do..LOL) do my hair....and im outta here too... thank you lis....you know..i PMed you yesterday....so you know what i am going thru...and well, again, you being so strong and brave to post YOUR darkest moment and vulnerability...has made me see MY light and now i am coming out of my darkness as well.... have a FABULOUS day my sweet friend...i just know you are going to have a great productive day...i just know it;) we are ALL going to have a great day!....right:love: Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 p.s. tojaz...what would we ( me, lis, everyone on LS) do with out you:love: you too are always there to lift us ALL out of our darkest moments. i only hope that i/we are able to do the same for you as well dear friend:) Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 p.s. tojaz...what would we ( me, lis, everyone on LS) do with out you:love: you too are always there to lift us ALL out of our darkest moments. i only hope that i/we are able to do the same for you as well dear friend:) Serious blushing!! All I did was listen and care, the same thing all LSers do. If it hadn't been me, it would have been someone else here. LS is nothing but good hearted people that have helped me more then any of you will ever know. I'm just glad some of you are willing to allow me to return the favor. Dela by the way, you have been a big help to me, Thank You!! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Good to hear today is a little better for you Lisa....Just one day at a time girl. Link to post Share on other sites
MrMayI Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 stay strong lisa. we're getting there. we really are, and i don't want to get out of the tunnel only to realize we lost you in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 Hi all Thanks everyone for all the continued support, you have no idea how much it means. So, I've looked into a room in halls (dorm), the uni is still recruiting RA's, free accomodation, so I'm thingking of applying for that. Otherwise, a room starts from £74 a week plus food. I think I can cover that, but I cannot apply for a place until after term starts 26th September (my course started 1st September as it has to run longer due to Law Society regs, but my classes don't start until 26th, I have a two week ELSM, English Legal System methods course running from 14th until then), b/c of my current postcode (zipcode)! Either way, if I have to stay here, I will at least be out of the house everyday, I plan on camping out in the libary or on campus until as late as possible each day. If she starts again and throws me out, then I will have to find accomodation then, but I am not giving up uni, it is my only chance for a good stable future. Right, so lets chat hey, b/c I am camping out in my room from now until next Monady! LOL Going to uni tomo as well, going to call into the accomodation office and check out houseshares etc. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 stay strong lisa. we're getting there. we really are, and i don't want to get out of the tunnel only to realize we lost you in there. Lisa? Left behind? Like hell, sounds like she s leading the way!!! As usual! Link to post Share on other sites
MrMayI Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Lisa? Left behind? Like hell, sounds like she s leading the way!!! As usual! hell yeah!!! i spoke way too soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 Hardly, it's only with all your support here that I am able to find the strength to carry on. I dread to think if it hadn't been for LS yesterday, just to have that support and caring has picked me up from the jaws of despair. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 We are all on a life hike. Sometime we will stumble & sometimes we get knocked down & for some they say; WTF was that? How did I get here & what can I do to get back on the path? Others will just lay there & wait for someone to come help them, most people on LS will not wait & that includes you my dear Lisa!!!!! It is so good to hear the positive voice in your posts....Yes we all go thru the same thing, even us that have been separated/divorce for a year or for years still get setbacks. Looking forward to hearing more good news later on, so proud of you Lisa for getting up, dusting off your knees & saying; I'm sorry mom/world/ex you aren't going to get the best of me!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Nomad1 Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 somebody said, I was crying because I had no shoes, until I found somebody who had no feet! It is all a matter of perspective. It is true that some people handle crises better than others. The difference is hope and possibility. Things are tough right now, for sure, but don't let that halt your progress. At 33, you still have lots of mileage, a whole life ahead of you. You MUST complete your course by any means necessary, for therein lies the solution to your current problems. Set little measurable targets. You can study and work. I know people who worked long hours throughout medical school! You CAN do it! Good luck! Nomad1 Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Hardly, it's only with all your support here that I am able to find the strength to carry on. I dread to think if it hadn't been for LS yesterday, just to have that support and caring has picked me up from the jaws of despair. Thank you. Lisa, those who helped you yesterday are the same people whose hand you held the day before. You personally pulled me into the light on more then one occasion! Were here together. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Auroracoladybug Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 I haven't been posting here Lisa but I have been following...good to hear the cheer! Care bears stare! LOL just had to add that one because you are my age Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 I haven't been posting here Lisa but I have been following...good to hear the cheer! Care bears stare! LOL just had to add that one because you are my age OMG, CAREBEARS!!!? I may need to change my avatar now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 Tojaz, what in the h**l is that! It has a skull on it, that's not the care bears I remember from childhood! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 To the left, that's care bears! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 But look at that care bear stare! Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 LisaUk I have noticed your avatar has gone form a cartoon character to something a bit more furious. That's a good indication of someone starting to fright for what matters to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 LisaUk I have noticed your avatar has gone form a cartoon character to something a bit more furious. That's a good indication of someone starting to fright for what matters to her. I am fighting Grayclouds your right. But I should explain the avatar, it's b/c Tojaz just got an e-mail from a dating service from a vampire, see MrmayI's thread. My apologies, it was a joke. I'll change it now, try and find one that reflects how I am feeling, I think I have one saved on my computer already. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 You seem pretty happy to me Lis, what happened to Angel Lisa? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 You seem pretty happy to me Lis, what happened to Angel Lisa? I took that one down b/c Gallon said he has the impression I am a good girl, I thought it was giving out the wrong signal that particular day! Link to post Share on other sites
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