meandonlyme Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Hi everyone, I am new to this forum. But it looks like i can get some advice on my situation. I dont know who else to talk to..So here goes... I have been with my bf for almost 2 years. I have never had any issues with him, or questions as to if he was faithful to me or not. I got divorced over my exhusband cheating on me not once but twice. Therefore he knows all about my past and my trust issues. Anyway, long story short. My laptop was having issues, so he was running a check on it. I guess he was logged on to his email and chat, when he was doing this. But went to bed without logging off. Well every morning I logg on to my email to check. but instead of it going to sign in..it was already logged on to his. I was going to logg off of his, when a few emails from someone named sexydevil caught my eye. Therefore i look and it takes me to an online dating website, where his profile is still open. So i did look at his messages and found several from this particular girl. I did read them, and they were shocking to me. There are several that is graphic. and one about haven't seen him since June. And can't wait to see him again. Response from him was you will see me soon. he has also made comments on her provocative pictures she has posted. So I printed them out and confronted him. He swears he never cheated on me or met anyone. There are no phone records that I know of ( i have checked) to anyone that I didn't really know. Says that it was stupid online thing and will never do it again. What am I suppose to believe? He says he loves me, and only wants to be with me. Begs me to not leave him. My biggest thing is, how do i believe that he never actually physcially cheated? He obiously cheated online. I don't know what to do. I am so lost, I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I just can't. I love him, but I already went through this once, and don't know if i can do it again. I still feel that there is more to this story then he is telling me. He tells me that he swears he never cheated. And says to talk to his sister if I want. He is very close to his family, therefore does this indicate that he is telling the truth on that small aspect of not physically cheated? Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 He might have not physically cheated. Thing is why is he flirting with Sexydevil in graphic detail, and can you accept that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author meandonlyme Posted September 7, 2009 Author Share Posted September 7, 2009 I dont understand why he would be flirting online. Aside from that he is an awesome guy. Does everything for me that I need and more. I just want to understand I guess. Thats probably the biggest question for me aside from whether he actually cheated or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 He swears he never cheated on meOh really? Then what the **** is this? it takes me to an online dating website, where his profile is still open. So i did look at his messages and found several from this particular girl. I did read them, and they were shocking to me. There are several that is graphic. and one about haven't seen him since June. And can't wait to see him again. Response from him was you will see me soon.I ask, because in my book, that is cheating. Really blatant cheating. Who gives a crap whether he actually did anything? He intended to, and would have had you not caught him. He still will, but will simply be more careful about it in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
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