andrewrost3241981 Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Last year I realized that I really like a certain girl. When I realized that I liked this girl, something must have changed in me and made me think "I am going to do whatever I can to change my life in order to have just a chance to be with her. Liking this girl has made me want to change my life (and has made me change my life drastically for the better in ways I never imagined). I have done things that I was always afraid to do. I finally have direction in my life The only problem I am having now is that I rarely see this girl or have a chance to talk to her, even just to say hello. Also, I believe that she may already be dating someone, although I really have no idea how serious it is between them. After all that she has changed in me and all of the strength she has given me, I feel as though she is the perfect person for me (even though I know that there probably is no such thing as a perfect person for everyone). I don't know if I should reach out to her to tell her how I feel and how she has changed my life if she is dating someone. However, I am afraid that if I don't tell her how I feel about her that I will spend the rest of my life wondering what might have been if I had told her how I feel. I know how I would be able to contact her if I wanted to, but I just don't know if it is something that I should do or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Pedigree Posted September 7, 2009 Share Posted September 7, 2009 Well, I think you've said it when you say that you're gonna be wondering for the rest of your life. You should contact her and take a shot, but please don't say anything about making changes in your lives just to be with her because that would creep her out. For future reference, I suggest that you don't change your life just so you can be "with her". If you want to change your life, do it for yourself first. Link to post Share on other sites
ashleigh422 Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I totally agree.. whatever you do.. DO NOT TELL HER YOU CHANGED YOUR LIFE BECAUSE OF HER.. at least in the beginning, what a total turn off. Nothing screams desperate and pitiful in a woman's eye than a statement like that.. just being honest.. You said that you know how you could contact her. Perhaps it might be best if you didn't call, text, facebook, myspace or email her. Your best bet is to "coincidentally" run into her.. maybe at a place she goes every week... this of course is all dependent upon the assumption that, beings that you are pretty much ready to profess your undying love for all things her, you know her up and down, you know what she does on a daily and weekly basis... WITHOUT STALKING HER... If you would need to set up a 24 hour survelance to do this.. then just facebook or myspace her.. say whats going on.. etc.,.. see if she is single and if she wants to catch dinner one night.. NO MENTION OF ANY FEELINGS UNTIL at least a few dates into this thing.. but you have to get the dates to begin with.. GOOD LUCK! Link to post Share on other sites
Author andrewrost3241981 Posted September 12, 2009 Author Share Posted September 12, 2009 She goes to college about an hour away from the town that we both live in. The only times I have ever seen her are at the church we both go to. Since she goes away to college, she does not always come home on the weekends and I really don't have any clue as to the weekends that she will be at home. I would really rather talk to her in person, but I really don't get to talk to her that much at church anyway. I really like this girl, but I have had crushes on numerous other girls and for some reason this girl has made me do things that I was always afraid to do. I had a crush on a different girl for about 10 years and in that time I did hardly anything to better my life. For some reason, the girl I have a crush on now just makes me want to try to do things that I didn't really try to do before or was too afraid to do. For years I used to be too afraid to drive a car by myself, and in less than four months I went from not driving at all to driving anywhere I want without any fear. I wasn't able to find a job because of the economy and because of a large gap in my work history due to illness. Since I couldn't find a job, I started doing a business from home and now it is doing pretty well. I never really knew what I wanted to do for a career, but now I have gone back to college to finish my bachelor's degree in computer science. I don't really have a real explanation as to why this girl is different than all of the other girls that I have liked in the past, but for some reason she just makes me want to try. Link to post Share on other sites
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