inlovetoomuch Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 im torn between these two guys and its so hard because thier both so lovely and i really dont want to hurt them but i guess thats inevitable. basicly i met this first guy at a party we had a real connection and i guess thats said alot but really we were so much alike. we ended up kissing and it was so buetiful. i didnt realise till later that he had a girlfriend. but hes just so lovely that he wouldnt cheat on his girlfriend for anyone but still i felt so hurt and i just hate hurting other people and as much as i hated his girlfriend at the time i felt so sorry for her. i didnt want anyone to get hurt even her. i guess she must have been a really nice person and im really sorry. anyway so we still kept talking we were flirting and i really really liked him but one time it all got too much and he told me he loved me but he loved his girlfriend aswell so we decided to take a two month break from talking. when we starting talking again though i found that connection we had and then him and his girlfriend broke up after going out for a year and a half. we then met up and it just all came back and i thought i was over him... then theres another guy we were amazing friends and then it got to so much more than that but noone knows but me and him its so amazing and hes the lovliest guy anyone could ever ask for and the last thing i want to do is hurt him but i cant help that ive loved the first guy for a whole year and now ive just ended up loving them both and i know that i cant have both but im going to have to leave behind so much to leave one of them what do i do! help me please <3 Link to post Share on other sites
letinmotion Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 what do i do! if I was with someone and I found out someone was seeing another guy behind my back, it wouldn't matter if in the end she chose me, I'd feel like I was played for a fool and wouldn't regard the relationship at that point as serious So what do you do? You break up with both of them and refrain from any serious relationships until you are mature enough to handle them. Link to post Share on other sites
JustLooking123 Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 Guy #1 cheated on his girlfriend with you, so there is a good chance he will also cheat on you with another woman. So I guess guy #2 sounds more trustworthy. That said, you carried on a relationship with a man who had a girlfriend, and now you are seeing guy #2 behind guy #1's back, so maybe Guy #1 is a better match for you. Sounds like you kinda deserve each other. Link to post Share on other sites
EsmerKiss7 Posted September 8, 2009 Share Posted September 8, 2009 I'd say go with guy #2, if he isn't seeing anyone either. Guy#1 might seem nice but since he has a gf I would say he is out of the question. Link to post Share on other sites
harmfulsweetz Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 He cheated on his gf by kissing you, so I don't know where you got the idea that he wouldn't, if he truly respected the relationship he was in, he would have stayed clear. I wouldn't go with either if I was honest with you. no.1 sounds untrustworthy and if I liked a guy, I wouldn't need to choose. I would know which one I liked more instantly. Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Why don't you try spit roasting? Link to post Share on other sites
harmfulsweetz Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Why don't you try spit roasting? lol. that's quite funny. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted September 11, 2009 Share Posted September 11, 2009 Is where someone asks the obvious question? You know, which guy has the bigger unit? Either it doesn't matter or it does. If it does matter, you have your answer. If it doesn't matter? Flip a coin! Link to post Share on other sites
Spizzarky Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 if I liked a guy, I wouldn't need to choose. I would know which one I liked more instantly. Not quite so easy when you're actually in the situation. -Try taking a break from both guys. Don't see or talk to either of them for a few days and see how you really feel then. Who can you not stop thinking about? Who do you miss the most? idk. Just something I would do. Link to post Share on other sites
johnloyd Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Just feel your heart... And let your heart choose between these two guys! Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Guy 1 sounds unreliable and would probably lie between his teeth everytime he gets his chance. Sure he could be fun in makeout sessions and steamy sex, but it was probably more enjoyable because of the thrill that comes with cheating. He's good for the occasional fling but not long term material. Guy 2 now he's the basic good guy if used to compare with Guy 1. Charming, fun, lovable, the friend.... bah if you friend zone him that is. See the difference? The question is, are you looking for something serious or is lust doing all the talking? Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 18, 2009 Share Posted September 18, 2009 im torn between these two guys and its so hard because thier both so lovely and i really dont want to hurt them but i guess thats inevitable. basicly i met this first guy at a party we had a real connection and i guess thats said alot but really we were so much alike. we ended up kissing and it was so buetiful. i didnt realise till later that he had a girlfriend. but hes just so lovely that he wouldnt cheat on his girlfriend for anyone but still i felt so hurt and i just hate hurting other people and as much as i hated his girlfriend at the time i felt so sorry for her. i didnt want anyone to get hurt even her. i guess she must have been a really nice person and im really sorry. anyway so we still kept talking we were flirting and i really really liked him but one time it all got too much and he told me he loved me but he loved his girlfriend aswell so we decided to take a two month break from talking. when we starting talking again though i found that connection we had and then him and his girlfriend broke up after going out for a year and a half. we then met up and it just all came back and i thought i was over him... then theres another guy we were amazing friends and then it got to so much more than that but noone knows but me and him its so amazing and hes the lovliest guy anyone could ever ask for and the last thing i want to do is hurt him but i cant help that ive loved the first guy for a whole year and now ive just ended up loving them both and i know that i cant have both but im going to have to leave behind so much to leave one of them what do i do! help me please <3 Ughh... Any idiot can tell you that guy #2 is much better than guy #1. So, Im going to assume you already know that, and that the real issue is that you can't get your mind off guy #1. Stop talking to him, Stop seeing him, Stop cyber stalking him... whatever you do... STOP. Don't put any thought to him and it will all go away. Next, once your detoxed, you need to realize in your heart what a crap guy this was to string along YOU... AND... his GF, hurting everyone in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
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