RedDevil66 Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I don't think this board is here to give out "compassion" to every sorry a$$ story that comes through here. This is an open board for people to give their opinions and if one doesn't like what the other is saying then put them on ignore. But to tell everyone to be compassionate to people who obviously only care about themselves is unrealistic nor helpful. There have been people who have come here with really "obscene" stories and their friends and family don't dare tell them the real truth about themselves for fear of hurting their feelings. At least they can get the "rock bottom" truth about what people really think of their behavior and believe it or not it has opened many a cheater's eye on this forum. When I ask anyone for advice I don't want some sugar coated bullS--T, I want people to tell me like it is! You can "tell it like it is" with compassion and respect. trust me, I am sure in other aspect of your life, you have some major flaws, so think of that when you need to reveal your cr*p and hope others don't rip you a new ahole! If someone wanted to get their point across to me if I were acting like a dumb a&&, I would zone out the bashers and zone in the compassion and more likely listen to the advice from those who are not being so friggin judgemental. Being compassionate comes with age and knowing everyone is "broken" Walk into an AA meeting. Compassion for the lowest of the low is how people heal! Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 sure he is on webcam with me when she is in the room. he shows me her asleep, and she sleeps alot. . You have GOT to be kidding me. He video tapes his wife sleeping and shows you? What a CREEP. What could you possibly see in this lowlife? I'm beginning to think both your families would be better off without the two of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 On I am sure she is speakingto him now. Most women who don't treat their men right will eventually play nice for awhile once they find out a new woman is on thir mind. My children did stay there when they were our of school. I lived there for a month Who took care of your children while you left them to play house with a married man with a very sick wife? I think I'm going to be sick. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I was looking for answers to my dilemma on here, but my god there are some seriously angry people here. I pray I don't end up like that!!! I wouldn't worry too much about that....it would require a conscience. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I was looking for answers to my dilemma on here, but my god there are some seriously angry people here. I pray I don't end up like that!!! oops sorry, I almost forgot, what's your dilemma? The MM had a moment of clarity and came to his senses? I hate when that happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 there's no doubt that she did in fact abandoned them...she left the house by herself to be with a MM...now the dad on the other hand he was there for the children...she didn't leave for the weekend she left to have a happy ending life with this man...long term...this is in fact abandonment... . ABSOLUTELY. She would never get custody of those children after what she did. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 ABSOLUTELY. She would never get custody of those children after what she did. According to an earlier post. Her H was not the child's father. So she left the with her estranged H [sort of, but only she was aware she was estranged apparently] and moved in with a MM. This is def. abandonment. I don't know OP.... You should seek some therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I have considered leaving my children with their father to be able to live with MM. I do not see that as abandoning. If I were to move in with my MM right now, . Call me crazy but, moving in with a MARRIED man? That's quite the fantasy, isn't it? I mean, his wife might have something to say about it, don't you think? Any woman who puts a man (especially a married man) before her own children is contemptable, not to mention dumber than a rock. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 sure he is on webcam with me when she is in the room. he shows me her asleep, and she sleeps alot. . You sure he didn't drug her? I'm not kidding. I have considered leaving my children with their father to be able to live with MM. I do not see that as abandoning. If I were to move in with my MM right now, . I've never heard of a mother saying this. Leaving her kids behind to go live with someone else, let alone with a man who's ALREADY MARRIED. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 Oh do tell Jennie-Jennie (do you write it twice so you won't forget it?) No. It is so YOU won't forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I've never heard of a mother saying this. Leaving her kids behind to go live with someone else, let alone with a man who's ALREADY MARRIED. It is called putting your kids' welfare before your own desire to keep them with you as opposed to being with their father and not being uprooted. If I left my kids with their father it would be in their best interest. My older daughter is getting a very specialized education in this city, and she has a long term boyfriend here. Why would I want to uproot her? She is on the verge of becoming an adult. My younger child I would of course bring with me. Now this is only speculations of course, since MM first must get a divorce for me to move. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 You sure he didn't drug her? I'm not kidding. I've never heard of a mother saying this. Leaving her kids behind to go live with someone else, let alone with a man who's ALREADY MARRIED. I actually have heard of it. Family member. Now she is older, needs here kids(she diabetic need a kidney), they do the minimum. They pay for her nursing home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loriP Posted September 15, 2009 Author Share Posted September 15, 2009 I am very secure in how much my children love me, and they know without a doubt I love them, and I will be here for them for as long as I live. I don't know what world people live in today, who are replying to my post when it comes to raising children, but its not the Leave it to Beaver world anymore. Divorces happen everyday, and there are dummies out there who LOVE to fight for years on end over who gets what or who gets the best deal. As long as the kids are loved and cared for and their best interest is the most importnat thing, I would rather be in love, have passion for the man I'm involved with and go on. Everything else will work out just fine. As for my origianl post about my MM, it has been 2 weeks since NC and I can honestly say I feel great. I am so glad I got out of that looking back. I am ready to divorce, and look forward to the next love of my life. Link to post Share on other sites
RedDevil66 Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I am very secure in how much my children love me, and they know without a doubt I love them, and I will be here for them for as long as I live. I don't know what world people live in today, who are replying to my post when it comes to raising children, but its not the Leave it to Beaver world anymore. Divorces happen everyday, and there are dummies out there who LOVE to fight for years on end over who gets what or who gets the best deal. As long as the kids are loved and cared for and their best interest is the most importnat thing, I would rather be in love, have passion for the man I'm involved with and go on. Everything else will work out just fine. As for my origianl post about my MM, it has been 2 weeks since NC and I can honestly say I feel great. I am so glad I got out of that looking back. I am ready to divorce, and look forward to the next love of my life. word of advice, make the next love of your life you. I'm working on that path right now myself hugs Link to post Share on other sites
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