lashyr Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 hello everyone! I'm not sure if anyone else has wondered what they were getting themselves into with a long-distance relationship. So I'm curious if anyone has some insight into what a person might expect from a LDR? What good or bad things are likely to happen in the LDR? I have little experience with LDR's but I am wondering what a great LDR might look like and what a crappy LDR might look like as well. If you have any ideas I'd be so happy to hear them. thank you Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Hi lashyr, The questions you posed in your post are quite broad so I'm not sure you'll get the kind of answers you're seeking right off the bat. My recommendation is that you take some time to browse the LDR forum a bit and see what sort of experiences others have had and how they handled them. Then, if you have a specific concern or topic you'd like others to comment on, feel free to post. There are lots of people here who are in, have considered or have made it through or ended a long distance relationship for a variety of reasons who are willing to provide feedback, guidance or input. All you have to do is ask. And BTW, welcome to LS! Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Yes, very broad, but here is a short answer... Good LDR: Lots of honest communication, where both people feel they are heard and understood by the other, and each other's needs can be comfortably met. Bad LDR: One person is constantly trying to communicate and gets no where. One partner is constantly jealous of the others' family and friends. One partner is doing all the work and getting nothing in return. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lashyr Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 Hi lashyr, The questions you posed in your post are quite broad so I'm not sure you'll get the kind of answers you're seeking right off the bat. Thank you for the replies! I do realize the question i posted was very broad and somewhat vague. Thing is i'm not really sure what i'm trying to ask I have read many of the posts on this forum and found many posts that have helped with my questions. I just found myself in a position where none of my friends or family have any insight to the matter, at least the people i feel comfortable discussing theses things with. Thank you for your replies oddly enough even the basic good vs. bad statement was helpful. SOrry i'm still new to this & not sure how to quote everybody. Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I've had two LDR relationship. in the first one the the girl got insecure and would text and call far too much and it became a turn off. She wouldnt let me have a life in my own town. 2nd relationship, we were both easy going trusting and didnt have insecure issues. We gave each other space to have own lifes. but at some point the communication broke down, things were happening in her personal life and we grew apart. I didnt realise she was having issues with things. It's very tough to keep going once the honeymoon period is over. The key is communictaion and trust. Link to post Share on other sites
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