Wow After 6 months...

[fofiffs]

Well funny thing happened to me just now. I was checking my emails and I noticed that someone requested me to be their friend on myspace. I opened it to check and to my surprise its my damn ex that tore me apartment 6 months ago.

 

I've been doing fine and moving on with my life and then I get this from out of the blue. But at the same time I really didn't feel anything. To me it just felt like another spam mail. So I go and deny her request. Took me 6 painful months to move on and now I just don't really care.

 

I don't want to be her friend or anything else. I'm doing fine and seeing a wonderful lady that has helped me get over my lose. I really feel like i'm back to myself and have my self respect back.

 

Yes the first months I did all the begging, crying, basically everything that made me loose my self respect for myself. No I feel nothing for her. But there are times where she lingers in the back of my mind.

 

So to all you newly heart broken people out there, stick to NC. It will get better in time. I was in the same shoes as some of you. I never thought I would get this far. But here I am feeling like I'm on top of the world again..

[CaliGuy]

Good post and no, don't friend her. It's not worth your time or effort.

[fofiffs]

UPDATE..

 

 

well after I get that friend request from her last night. I get an email from her through myspace. She tells me that she's been thinking about me and missing me. She also tells me that she wants to hang out and catch up on things to see where we went wrong. She says she wants to start fresh.

 

Funny thing is she was the one that told me to leave her alone for good and that I should move on. Well as hard as it was I finally did move on.

 

I just don't get some women, I did exactly what she wanted to do and now she tries and talks to me again.

 

So what do you guys think? Should I acknowledge her efforts to try and talk to me or should I just let it be and stick to NC like I have?

[CaliGuy]

UPDATE..

 

 

well after I get that friend request from her last night. I get an email from her through myspace. She tells me that she's been thinking about me and missing me. She also tells me that she wants to hang out and catch up on things to see where we went wrong. She says she wants to start fresh.

 

Funny thing is she was the one that told me to leave her alone for good and that I should move on. Well as hard as it was I finally did move on.

 

I just don't get some women, I did exactly what she wanted to do and now she tries and talks to me again.

 

So what do you guys think? Should I acknowledge her efforts to try and talk to me or should I just let it be and stick to NC like I have?

 

She's saying the right things but honestly, at this point, why would you take her back?! So she can do it again?!

 

Unless you have some sort of guarantee (which she can't give) then I'd say no.

 

Honestly she'd have to be beating down my front door for me to even listen.

 

What's different now than from before? I mean seriously. Find out what makes her even think that she's worth a second chance with you.

 

Good luck.

[fofiffs]

She's saying the right things but honestly, at this point, why would you take her back?! So she can do it again?!

 

Unless you have some sort of guarantee (which she can't give) then I'd say no.

 

Honestly she'd have to be beating down my front door for me to even listen.

 

What's different now than from before? I mean seriously. Find out what makes her even think that she's worth a second chance with you.

 

Good luck.

 

Hey thanks Caliguy, I just needed some advice so I don;t second guess myself. I've moved pass the hurt and have accepted that we are done and what we had are memories of the past.

 

I did reply back but not to hear what she wanted say. I told her to leave me alone and never contact me again. And that was it.

 

I blocked her from my myspace so that there will be no more contact from her. The funny thing is I actually don't feel bad or anything for her at this point. NC has really helped me and changed me alot. Alot of the support and advices from LS has helped me get through the rough times when we first broke up. Thanks alot fellow LoveShackers.

[patkirk]

If NC worked for you and allowed you to move on and get over the hurt which is the point. Does it not put you at a point where she does not anger you anymore, more so be able to communicate with her confidently without any animosity?

[CaliGuy]

If NC worked for you and allowed you to move on and get over the hurt which is the point. Does it not put you at a point where she does not anger you anymore, more so be able to communicate with her confidently without any animosity?

 

Well, you may not hate an ex but I think there will always be some anger and resentment. Not just for how they treated you in the past but for the actual gall of an ex to do something like tell you to "never bother them again" only to have them show up months/years later saying they want to work things out.

 

Where were they THEN?! You know? It's just not cool to kick someone when their down and expect to just waltz into their life later like nothing ever happened. To do so is just downright silly.

 

And to take them back without any consideration of past behavior is absolutely FOOLISH.

[silic0ntoad]

Well, you may not hate an ex but I think there will always be some anger and resentment. Not just for how they treated you in the past but for the actual gall of an ex to do something like tell you to "never bother them again" only to have them show up months/years later saying they want to work things out.

 

Where were they THEN?! You know? It's just not cool to kick someone when their down and expect to just waltz into their life later like nothing ever happened. To do so is just downright silly.

 

And to take them back without any consideration of past behavior is absolutely FOOLISH.

 

 

+1.

 

Another thing to remember- They weren't there for you through all the fallout of the breakup. Why be there for them when they find it convenient?

[Excellent]

I agree with Cali, just stay away from your ex. You write that you are already seeing someone else, who is wonderful and as helped you move past the hurt.

 

I say stick with your new lady, and don't invite someone who did not care about you at all when you were down into you life again.

[kizik]

Methinks she got dumped.

 

Now she wants your penis again.

 

F*ck her.

 

Not literally.

[mickleb]

Methinks she got dumped.

 

Now she wants your penis again.

 

F*ck her.

 

Not literally.

 

I think this post had cheered me up more than anything else today!