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[waterfall42509]

hi everybody. i really need some help or at least just someone to talk to:( ok so i just started college about two weeks ago and so did my boyfriend of a year and a half. however, we both go to different schools so we are an LDR. this is so hard on me..im so confused. i love him so much and i know he loves me but its just so weird not being with him everyday how we used to be. i always see these pictures on facebook that girls tag him in and i know they are innocent pictures, they just hurt so much to look at i always look at them though and i know its horrible but from time to time i log into his facebook to see if he has been instant messaging girls and i have found that he has. should i be worried? does anyone have any advice about these long distance college relationships?

[jumi]

welcome to loveshack Waterfall =).

 

youve been together for a year and a half, and that is a significant amount of time. yes its true, communicating online/phone while apart is a very different dynamic than being together every day. But even though you cannot change the situation, you have control of your perspective. If you want this relationship to work, you need to ask yourself what you would go through to keep him in your life. You know, a lot of people confess their undying love for another and say they'd brave the darkest storm for them, but then a challenge like the one youre in comes along and people completely fall through. So if you want him in your life, and be together on the other end of your college years, then you need to understand that an LDR is not easy and it is challenging and you have to be willing to go through it because you love eachother.

 

secondly, get off his facebook. an LDR can only happily function if you have complete trust in him. Suspicion will really damage you. Im not saying to love blindly, but at least trust him when he says he loves you and give him the trust that he deserves as your loving boyfriend. logging onto his account behind his back is a huge insult to that.