StephLuvs2Bake Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 I'l like to know what ya'll think about my situation. Particularly from the guys, but I'll take all the help I can get! You see, I'm an attractive 20-year-old girl in college. You'd think that I'd be someone who dates a lot, right? Wrong. I go out all the time (I'm not a party animal, but I go out at least once a week), but I never get approached by anyone. It's very frustrating and it makes me feel terrible about myself. Especially when my (and I hate to say this because I love them & my friends are beautiful to ME, but...) not-so-great-looking friends seem to get hit on all the time. I mean, I'm attractive, physically fit, I have a great sense of humor, a personality, pretty smart, I've got a good head on my shoulders... So, what's wrong with me?? I've dated, but I've always just been set up with friends of a friend. Just once, I'd like to meet someone in a spontanous and casual manner. But, apparently there's something about me that's just not approachable. What do you think it is?? Sometimes, especially on nights when my friends meet tons of guys and I stand on the side lines watching, I feel like I just want to give up on the game altogether and accept my life as a spinster! This is all so very discouraging... Link to post Share on other sites
MDog Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 You don't have to do this but you could walk up to a guy ask him out. Or if you don't want to do that you can walk up to a guy and just talk to him. He might like talking to you and ask you out. If you don't do anything but just sit there not very many people will try to talk to you. I am a guy and I like it when a lady tries to make a conversation with me. Just try it and if it doesn't work someone else on this site will help you. I hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 smile? small-talk? have a drink to relax? try hanging out w/ a diff't crowd? there's probably something about your facial expression that makes you unapproachable - and you can't rlly control it, so just show some friendliness i guess ... my 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 hm..maybe you and me should get together babe, im a single 19-yr old college student from nyc. ahhh...if only you werent so far away.. be more friendly with everyone inlcuding guys and girls!! it will definitely raise your self-esteem and image to others plus make you more attractive and seem more sociable...believe me it works (the biggest key is to remember to smile often ) you say you're really attractive?? maybe cause of that, guys may think theyre outta league to ask you out, or think you're already taken. more girls approach me and talk to me very recently since ive begun to send that vibe out, since ive begun to act that way. no girls try to hit on me cause they think im already taken...yes its true...its saddening also, although i wish there would be at least ONE time where a girl would hit on me Link to post Share on other sites
Author StephLuvs2Bake Posted November 23, 2003 Author Share Posted November 23, 2003 MDog- I have nothing against asking a guy out. From what I've heard, they like that kinda thing! However, I'm kinda shy, so I'd take a few drinks for me to get brave enough to do that... I'll try it though, thanks. yes-Good point. Could be that I don't look approachable because I'm not smiling enough. I'll try it, hope I don't look like a clown smiling all the time... Thanks. monkey00-Normally I'd say, pick me up at 7! But NYC is a little far away, hehe. Thanks for your advice. I wouldn't say I'm really attractive to the point where guys would be too intimidated to approach me. Haha, I WISH that were the case though... I'll try being more sociable too. Thanks guys for all the help! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 Steph, If you don't want to make a total face to face move......send a guy you find attractive a drink. Be a little sassy and project that you are fun to be around by having fun with the group you are with. If nothing else works.....pack up some girlfriends....come to Jacksonville (the beaches) and you'll have to beat them off with a stick. They travel in packs and the ratio here is overwhelming!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author StephLuvs2Bake Posted November 23, 2003 Author Share Posted November 23, 2003 Arabess, that's a good idea! Although, I might have a little trouble with the drink thing, I'm only 20. I could send a coke though! Hehe! Jacksonville... I've never been. But, my friends and I love road trips so I might head out there sometime. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
storman_469 Posted November 24, 2003 Share Posted November 24, 2003 Hey Steph.... Well in my opinion you need to play a little hard to get. Men love a good challenge. Its that whole hunter thing, the thrill of the chase. Throw out the occasional tease here and there. Be very confident in yourself, thats very desireable as well. When you walk into a room, act as though you own it, what have you got to loose? All the Best, Storman Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 25, 2003 Share Posted November 25, 2003 lol you should come up to nyc sometime, there are tons of places you can go out drinking where they dont even check for ID at all! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 25, 2003 Share Posted November 25, 2003 Here's what you need to do. Meet some dude you've talked to a few times, who knows, maybe you'll both be in the same area for Thanksgiving. Go out, have a good time, and see what happens from there. Could just be a cool, casual friendly thing, could be more, who knows. Of course, this is just an outsider's observation, so what do I know... Link to post Share on other sites
Author StephLuvs2Bake Posted November 25, 2003 Author Share Posted November 25, 2003 What a great idea, UCFKevin! I just might do that... Link to post Share on other sites
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