rannmicha Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 ok i have a question i've been dating this guy for amost 2 months we are exclusive still kinda early in our relationship we have had sex and we see each other a lot and talk every day. but my question is hes called me sweetie a few times when leaving me a msg on my machine. and today when i emailed him i called him Babe. but how often is ok? should i do it every time i email him? or should i only do it every so often? thanks kim Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 if I were you i would do it occasionally....but thats my opinion cause for example, everytime you see your bf/gf you call them baby or sweetie, it might get repetitive and boring to use it everytime right and making the word feel not so special. i mean the first few times its great hearing it and makes you feel all warm and fuzzy and happy, but doing it too often will just kill the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
ASDFJKL Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 I really don't think this is that big of a deal. Just do what makes YOU comfortable. You shouldn't put rules on what you say with someone you have been dating...you should be able to say whatever you want and call them whatever you want! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 As long as it feels comfortable, go for it. In my last relationship, my ex and I VERY rarely called each other by our real names. It was usually honey or sweetie or baby or whatever, and I never had a problem with it. In fact, one time I said, "We never use our names," so we tried using our names in our conversation and we both grimaced and I said, "Wow, that sounds weird," and she agreed. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 I'm a sucker for private nicknames between couples and even friends. Once it's established...I always use it. Link to post Share on other sites
wiseOLDman Posted November 24, 2003 Share Posted November 24, 2003 The biggest benefit to using pet names is you'll avoid the inevitable- calling your bf by a prior bf's name. Link to post Share on other sites
missmuzzy2003 Posted November 24, 2003 Share Posted November 24, 2003 I'm in the same boat as you...I call my new boyfriend of only one month babe...and he says sweety to me every now and then, but i just say it because i feel so comfortable with it...my last relationship we said it all the time because it was so natural...maybe thats just how I am though...I say if it makes you feel good, go for it Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Depends on you, I do it a lot and even with some girls that are just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 I think you need to get their feeling on it, but in my current relationship we love that sort of stuff. It becomes more profound when we actually use each other's names. Link to post Share on other sites
summerlove Posted December 18, 2003 Share Posted December 18, 2003 having cute lil name for one another i think is a part of a relationship! ive never been in one where we used our names! its always baby, sweetie, darling, hunny, there is even others like when joking around we would call each other chucky! i think cute lil names for one another gives meaning and makes you feel special! Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaOnMyMind Posted December 18, 2003 Share Posted December 18, 2003 I totally agree with you guys. do whatever makes you feel comfortable. My bf and I both call each other baby or sometimes i call him sweetie or precious. It DOES give meaning to your relationship, someone there to love you and care about you. Just dont push it to call him something cute, do what is natural and he will appreciate it. But you could also ask him like "do you like when i call you ***?" (fill in the *** with your nickname) see what he says.... some guys like it and some dont. I think its more of a girl thing to call others by pet names and such. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 I love it, I think it's cute. It's when she uses my name that I get the warm fuzzy feeling that you described. Link to post Share on other sites
Kelebek Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 I agree with everyone else - just go with what feels natural. Personally, and I don't know why, I prefer when men use my real name, so it's different for everyone. I think nicknames are nice if they're maybe a private joke, or personal - something different. However, I hate being called names like sweety or honey by men, I think it just feels anonymous and fake. I have no idea why I feel that way. Just me. The point is, everyone is different, there's no way we could tell you how often a cute name is appropriate. If you feel like calling him honey, then do! Just be yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
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