lonely and jealous of people with bf/gf or friends making plans for christmas ...

[guestess]

The subject line says it all: I'm feeling so lonely because all these people are making plans to go away for the holidays, with their friends, or boyfriends/girlfriends, and me? Nada. Nothing. I'm going to be at home, with my family, which is going to be fine in itself, but boy do I wish I had a boyfriend or gang of friends to go away with.

 

I keep on thinking about what is wrong with me. I'm attractive, my studies are going quite well, I've been told that I'm very friendly. Why is my social life in such a rut? Why don't I have a boyfriend to go away with? I know it will all happen eventually, most likely, but I still wonder why it's not happening as naturally as with so many people - they just meet people, date, find someone they like, etc., they're not so isolated. It may be an illusion. I don't know. I do have some guys who'd like to date me, but I don't like them back - maybe I am too picky - but if there is no spark, there isn't much I can do.

[Arabess]

I think every person who find themselves "single" during the holidays goes thru some of the feelings you are sharing. However, single doesn't necessarily mean alone! Dress up....go out....and meet some other people who weren't attached for the holidays.

 

Also, just because someone is 'with' someone....does it signify they are happy or basking in the joyous occasion. I was so miserable last Christmas, I could have stuffed his "jolly ho-ho's" down his throat.....or any place else they may have fit.

 

Make a plan, have some fun and fill your thoughts with anticipation over what the year ahead of you may bring.

[DragonflyX]

Hey, I am spending my 8th Christmas in a row alone, could be worse!

[moimeme]

I don't have much family at all. I've been a Christmas nomad for years. Some years I've spent it with families of friends. One year, when I was working on my thesis, Christmas dinner was Swanson's turkey dinner in the microwave and a couple calls to friends.

 

Try to make whatever Christmas you have the best it can be in whatever circumstance you're in rather than wishing for what you don't have. Come to think of it, that's the key to enjoying life in general!

[StephLuvs2Bake]

Guestess, I feel ya sister! I love spending time with my family, especially around the holidays. But, it just doesn't fill that void like spending time with a significant other would. Do what I do; don't look at it as if you're stuck in a rut. Instead of just sitting around and waiting for your someone to come along, utilize your alone time and do something for yourself!

[Fancy]

I can understand how you feel, but please be thankful you have family. I have no family at all. None. Zero. Zilch. Yes, I do have a husband who I'm thankful for, but as for blood relatives I have none. The holidays are extremely lonely and depressing for me. I would just as soon they never come. Please try to make the best of your situation (as I will) and embrace what family you have and treasure each moment with them. There are many people who would like to be in your shoes right now.

[guestess]

Thank you. I feel much better. I will enjoy my family being around, I'll go out whenever I can, and it'll be all good. I hope all of your holidays are enjoyable as well!

 

I think it's especially true that one shouldn't dwell on the illusion they have of other people's lives. My life probably looks great from the outside, too, but *I* know how many issues there are on the inside.

[Tony T]

You are very welcome to join me for Christmas. I live in Tampa, right near the corner. But don't expect turkey and cranberry sauce. I prefer peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I'm good for the pumpkin or pecan pie, though.

[moimeme]

Was that a general invite to this whole thread, Tony?