How do you say goodnight to your girlfriend/boyfriend.?

[atlantic]

My girlfriend (about a month and a bit now both 21) doesn't seem to take any interest in the way she says goodnight or the way she talks to me in general.

 

For example. We'll be texting back and forth and when shes ready to go to sleep she'll usually just say:

 

"Well I'm going to head to bed now. Goodnight! :)"

 

OR

 

"I'm tired, so i'm going to bed now. I'll talk to you tomorrow!"

 

Than i'll usually respond with something nice/sweet or whatever, but she never seems to even try and be charming let alone even reply after that.

 

Am I being totally weird about this? I feel like when a girl cares she would try and make the effort to make sure her boyfriend knows or at least say some something loving once and a while. Especially before going to sleep.

 

Ps. Since we have been dating she has been reluctant to flirt even a little bit. And she has not once complimented me.

 

I'm sure she likes me. She usually stays until early hours of the morning when we hang out. And apparently talks about me to her family a lot.

 

These mixed signals are just confusing..

[westrock]

You're reading way too much into this. Everyone communicates differently - get used to it. If it really bothers you then tell her you would like her to express more emotion in your communications, but you'll likely come off as being needy to her.

 

And she has not once complimented me.

 

How do you know this? People give compliments in many ways. The book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a good read. The author lists 5 different ways people express their love / compliments.

[atlantic]

You're reading way too much into this. Everyone communicates differently - get used to it. If it really bothers you then tell her you would like her to express more emotion in your communications, but you'll likely come off as being needy to her.

Right I suppose I may be reading into it too much. I just figured that if she wasn't trying to be verbally affectionate that she wasn't interested..

[bluewolf17]

You could always ask her...

 

my ex use to get mad at me for the same thing. I didn't always say those three words at the end of EVERY conversation.

 

I just assumed he knew. He told me, and it made sense.

 

Communicate!!!!

[westrock]

I just figured that if she wasn't trying to be verbally affectionate that she wasn't interested..

For you it seems that being verbally affectionate is your definition of caring.

 

She usually stays until early hours of the morning when we hang out.

Her defintion of caring seems to be spending time with the person.

 

Don't give up on being verbally affectionate, but take note, because if you want her to know how much you care about her, concentrate on spending time with her as that may be more effective than just being verbally affectionate.

[atlantic]

Her defintion of caring seems to be spending time with the person.

 

Don't give up on being verbally affectionate, but take note, because if you want her to know how much you care about her, concentrate on spending time with her as that may be more effective than just being verbally affectionate.

I like this. I agree with what you're saying. Unfortunately I dont thing spending time with me is her way of caring because she also never initiates dates/spending time with me. I always have to ask her first.

 

I don't mind doing this. But after a while I feel like kind of a burdon always having to ask her and her give me her avaliablility. Am I asking too much for some reciporcity? Or are some girls just not the type to even intiate things?

[westrock]

after a while I feel like kind of a burdon always having to ask her and her give me her avaliablility. Am I asking too much for some reciporcity? Or are some girls just not the type to even intiate things?

 

You've only been dating for only just over a month. Just keep asking her out for now. After you've been exclusive for a few months then bring it up that she can ask you out occassionally.

[atlantic]

You've only been dating for only just over a month. Just keep asking her out for now. After you've been exclusive for a few months then bring it up that she can ask you out occassionally.

 

You're right. Thanks for your help. I apreciate it.

[Jilly Bean]

I always wish my honey sweet dreams.