raybrown Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Hello. To keep this short, I don't feel any physical intimacy anymore in our 4 year relationship. It has been like that for a very long time. Sex, if it happens, feels more like mutual masturbation. Both of us just don't have the desire. We are very much in love, but just no intimacy. It crossed my mind, that maybe I wanted to be with someone else, or I play for the same side. I don't really have the desire or feeling to do either. Not out of guilt, just somehow I know it is not what I want. I don't think I am suffering from depression or other psychological problems. I am always a cheerful guy, with the occasional bad mood moments that go away after at most a day. The only thing working with me is my biological urge. It would build up over time and I would go crazy if I don't "get it". but again, I don't really feel any closeness. Most of the time I came without having that sense of well being that good sex should have. Just the deed was done. Sometimes I would like to go more rounds but she wouldn't let me. I really don't know what happened, and I would very much want to enjoy again this aspect of relationship. RB. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Sounds like you're just not that into her anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author raybrown Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 Sounds like you're just not that into her anymore. This is what I thought at first, but we have built a very strong relationship. We have faced many hardships together and came out stronger each time. The only thing is that we don't have a mutual interest for physical intimacy. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 It truely takes two to tango. There are dozens or more ways to re-kindle your romantic or sexual relationship. Many places to find suggestions including here at LoveShack. One question: Were you crazy in love... want to get naked and frolic daily when you were engaged, or first married? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 Have you two talked about it? Tried to spice it up, make it more exciting? It could be just the sexual desire isn't there, but the love is .. Problem with that, eventually one or both of you COULD choose to cheat and be with someone else sexually, especially since sex isn't really happening at home.. Question is, can you live many more years like this? Without sexual intimacy? Link to post Share on other sites
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