Author Flawed Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 What do i do if i'm able to meet her in person? I mean i would be seeing her after a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Flawed Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 Anyone got any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
seoa Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 So... - you dated your girlfriend, while keeping an other woman (OW) on the side (for ego boost)... - even when you knew the OW was interested in you, you kept in contact (flirting - the text messages show that!) - you were jealous when your OW got a boyfriend - you were working a long way away from your girlfriend, even when there were problems It sounds to me like you're not that interested in your girlfriend - you treated her really badly when you had her (from what you've said) - you are just pissed off because she walked out on you... I think you are upset right now because you are a bad loser - you thought you could treat her as badly as you liked, but because "people don't split up in india", she would put up with all the rubbish you put her way... Learn the lesson, find a girl you respect, and treat her like a princess... And let your ex find a guy who will treat her like a princess... If you love her, you'll want what's best for her... (Have I been too harsh here, LS-ers?) Link to post Share on other sites
seoa Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 PS: I've never cheated on her, i was just confused... And don't fool yourself - you *did* cheat on her, just not sexually... You gave yourself emotionally to your OW in a way that you should have reserved for your girlfriend... And I'm assuming she told you that your "friendship" with your OW was inappropriate, since you say she "hated" her... And I'm also assuming you ignored her concerns, because you didn't think her opinion mattered... Seriously - can you explain to us why your girlfriend should want you back...? How can you hope to show her (after 4 years of blatant disrespect) that you have something to offer her...? Once you have got something worth sharing, then this is what you could do - construct a single email /love-letter to your girlfriend, explaining why you are a better bet for her than her arranged marriage... And just saying "I promise to change" doesn't count... It doesn't mean anything towards convincing her that things would be better... It needs to be specific, meaningful (from her perspective, not yours) and backed up by evidence of change... Why should she listen to anything else? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Flawed Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 @seoa -well, you right 50% -i didn't treat her bad, was just close to the OW(huge mistake) -i know i screwed up -you are totally wrong with me being a bad loser, because once i realised the true nature of the OW, i walked away... -I did try to make up for what i did to her, just that she remembers only the hurting part more than the good part -i didn't treat her badly, took her for granted(i totally repent it) -I agree with you on being meaningful, i've asked her to atleast consider to think about a reconciliation PS:You are harsh, but in a good way... and your brutally honest which is great. @everyone I intend to tell her everything, about the way i feel and how i'm sorry... i've spent almost all nights since the breakup thinking how can i become a better person... haven't taken up smoking/drinking/drugs.... what else can i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Flawed Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 Seriously - can you explain to us why your girlfriend should want you back...? How can you hope to show her (after 4 years of blatant disrespect) that you have something to offer her...? I've been thinking a lot, and i've realised everything i've done. i realised i didn't treat her as well as she had treated me. She was my centre of the universe, until just before i took a break last year, but never really showed it to her. I've realised, love needs a lot of effort, like not taking the other for granted, or listening... i've been reading a lot of relationship articles/books, to figure out where i've gone wrong.... thats all i can say right now... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Flawed Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 Anyone???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Flawed Posted September 26, 2009 Author Share Posted September 26, 2009 I Have to move on now... No way out... Thanks to everyone for their inputs... I'm really devastated right now... Guess some people never get a second chance huh? Link to post Share on other sites
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