Would you talk to her ?

[gordon_gc]

I'm gonna go straight to the point. We've been dating for 2 months. Situation is a bit difficult because of religion issues so she is trying and I'm trying not to get attached (I'm saying trying because I AM attached). We get along really great and really keep away from eachother.

 

Now, she is back home (she is from Malaysia) for 2 weeks for holidays. I've been trying to put some distance for 2 reasons :

 

1/ Trying to be a bit more detached so i don't get hurt if things get more serious on my side.

2/ I've developed a pattern of "Mr Nice Guy" and am always here when she is down or whatever reasons (help solve her problems, ect...).

3/ Trying to see if she would miss me.

 

Anyway, she has been away for about 6 days now and we are almost everyday in touch via Facebook or Msn. Everytime, it's really casual, no lovilovi kinda thing.

 

Yesterday, it kinda hit me I should put more distance for the above reasons and have decided to block her on msn so i'm not tempted to talk to her or dont get dissapointed because she won't talk to me.

 

Has anyone lived that kind of situation ? What should be my course of action ? I don't want her to wonder what I am up to and worry I would be flirting around (i'm saying this because the whole facebook tagging make her see what parties, functions i attend, ect...). If you were in her case, how would you feel ?

[Flavour]

Are religious issues so serious? Have you ever thought to talk them through and attempt to find a solution? Any kind of? If you keep trying to avoid her in this way, please make a decision, cut her off completely or try to figure the situation out. Doing things in this way will make her suffer and you too. If you have decided to let go, let go.

[gordon_gc]

Are religious issues so serious? Have you ever thought to talk them through and attempt to find a solution? Any kind of? If you keep trying to avoid her in this way, please make a decision, cut her off completely or try to figure the situation out. Doing things in this way will make her suffer and you too. If you have decided to let go, let go.

 

We have had long talks about it and bottom line is that it'll be almost impossible to make our relationship works even tho we really like eachother and this mainly because of her parents. We had that talk about 6 days before she left to Malaysia and in between, we had 6 fabulous days where I think, she started wondering if after all, things could maybe work out between us 2. Well, now she is back with the parents and all and the 'brainwashing' has started. She has been really casual and 'cold' since she got back hence the reason why I have started cutting a bit on the contacts so she can figure out what she wants and realise if she misses me enough to try making our relationship work. I know that today, she wanted some attention because she was feeling really down but i didnt give it her. It's hard for me to do because I like her and I don't like knowing she is feeling down...and i know i'm only a click away from making her feel better.

[xpaperxcutx]

If I'm going away, whether off to college or vacationing in China, I wouldn't drag other's feelings into my trips and just break things off on good terms.

 

Maybe religion plays a part in your relationship, but if you're already feeling like she's being brainwashed by her parents, then cut your ties and associate yourself with females who are not susceptible to religious consent.

 

You're just making things worse by expecting her to get to choose between her family and her beliefs over a guy whom she has only seen for 2 months.

 

The thing is if like you've said, things aren't working out and will not work out, then you're entitled to tell her you want to break things off. Instead you're holding on the maybes of a relationship which are insubstantial and overtly unrealistic.