LostCat Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 8 months now; it's always been pretty laid back but over time we've grown closer as we've helped each other through some difficult times. We're both extroverts and easy going, and have always accepted that if, for example, we go out to a party we will probably each be flirting with other people and might not see each other half the evening - no-one gets hurt or jealous, and when all's said and done we both know we'll be leaving together later. All pretty sweet, huh? Until now... Enter this woman who has recently started hanging out with some of the same people as us, who I can tell wants to go a lot further than flirting with him. All this I found a kind of amusing game to begin with. But lately she's been pulling some really sly tricks to make me look bad. For example, always being around when I can't be, watching the kind of clothes I wear and emulating my style, and the worst of all she yesterday turned around a situation (way too involved to explain) that was a huge inconvenience to everyone there, to make it look as if it was my fault... I don't want to talk to him about this because although I can see what's going on I can't prove any of it and I'm worried I will sound paranoid or jealous. Also, it might sound as though I'm accusing him of something. But how can you compete against someone who isn't playing fair? Link to post Share on other sites
always_searching Posted September 17, 2009 Share Posted September 17, 2009 Well, adapt her rules: don't play fair. I'm not really into games, so I would say just talk to him about it. However, if you are interested in the game aspect, then you need to up your game plan; change strategies; make her look bad. Personally, I think games are for children. If you want her to back off, then either go up to her and say, "Back the **** off my man." Or, tell your boyfriend the situation--tell him that you trust him, but don't trust her and just want him to be informed of the situation. I wouldn't tell him he can't see her, or something of that nature, as it might have a reverse-effect. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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