patkirk Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 I agree with BCCA with the overall assesment of this situation, but also see what WEEZY's saying. We can all agree that most if not all of us go into NC with the hopes that it will have an effect on our ex's hence cause them to come back. Been on NC with my ex of 1 1/2 years for almost 2 months now, we just went cold silent, never even talked about breaking up, hell I don't know who dumped who. I made the mistake of checking her FB page today and saw she was dating some other guy. Whilst I kinda hoped we'd reconnect somehow because I still love her, I have a sneaking feeling that this one is done for. She's moved on and I'm sticking to NC. Yet I know if she attempted contact it'd be a tad pleasing to my ego, nothing wrong with that. I just know I'm not gonna pine over her, no sir I reserve the right to retain my dignity intact. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 I agree with BCCA with the overall assesment of this situation, but also see what WEEZY's saying. We can all agree that most if not all of us go into NC with the hopes that it will have an effect on our ex's hence cause them to come back. Been on NC with my ex of 1 1/2 years for almost 2 months now, we just went cold silent, never even talked about breaking up, hell I don't know who dumped who. I made the mistake of checking her FB page today and saw she was dating some other guy. Whilst I kinda hoped we'd reconnect somehow because I still love her, I have a sneaking feeling that this one is done for. She's moved on and I'm sticking to NC. Yet I know if she attempted contact it'd be a tad pleasing to my ego, nothing wrong with that. I just know I'm not gonna pine over her, no sir I reserve the right to retain my dignity intact. Yeah, it's funny how much our egos have to do with this crap. The more you beg, or put yourself out there, the worse it gets too. I have learned the hard way that when you break it off, while you're still in the shock phase, block everything that you possibly can to see what they are up too. Ignorance is such bliss in this situation. A word of encouragement though... Just because she's dating someone new does not mean it's over forever. Girls always have someone to catch their fall, but you never know what's going to happen with that relationship and when it's over, if you've gone full NC... you could be exactly what she's looking for and then the ball is in your court. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BCCA Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 A word of encouragement though... Just because she's dating someone new does not mean it's over forever. Girls always have someone to catch their fall, but you never know what's going to happen with that relationship and when it's over, if you've gone full NC... you could be exactly what she's looking for and then the ball is in your court. My problem with this is that you make it seem like he should be lucky that his girl runs from him straight into some other dudes arms, and then wants to come back if it doesnt work out. F% that. I agree about ignorance being bliss though. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 My problem with this is that you make it seem like he should be lucky that his girl runs from him straight into some other dudes arms, and then wants to come back if it doesnt work out. F% that. Lets face it... Part of what hurts so bad about being dumped isn't the loss of the EX, it's the blow to the ego, it's having no control over someone choosing that you're not as good for them as someone else. Regardless if you choose to get back with your EX after she's left you for someone else.. and I agree F@#$# that... You will still get a nice boost to your ego and probably feel less loss / pain... Thus, the ball is in your court. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BCCA Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 Lets face it... Part of what hurts so bad about being dumped isn't the loss of the EX, it's the blow to the ego, it's having no control over someone choosing that you're not as good for them as someone else. Regardless if you choose to get back with your EX after she's left you for someone else.. and I agree F@#$# that... You will still get a nice boost to your ego and probably feel less loss / pain... Thus, the ball is in your court. Oh, I completely agree, the hit to the ego is the worst. And if all youre saying is that she'll back, so you can boost your ego and send her away, Im with you 100% But I see people come here and wait forever for their ex to come back, and jump up and down if/when they do, only to find out that nothing has changed, and they get dumped again and just wasted another 6 months. THATS all I want to avoid people doing. Link to post Share on other sites
WiseOne1 Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Ego is the main issue on Love Shack, I think it's rare to find someone who is struck by the feeling of losing the one that they love, compared to feeling like you lost the battle, feel like someone has something on you, feeling like she or he doesn't need me. It's been proving numerous times on Love Shack that majority of people only want there ex to come back, so they can deny them. That's right! A lot of people talk about "validation", and it's when and IF the ex comes back they then get validation - meaning they finally got there way. Nice Guy or Bad Boy whatever you want to label yourself as, If it wasn't for EGO love shack would not exist. Link to post Share on other sites
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