Back to jr high we go!!!!!!!!

[Clep]

Well this is absolutely ridiculous to me at age 39 and my boyfriend at age 45 are having troubles with his friends.

 

We have one of his friends that he talks poorly about tell my boyfriend to tell me to stop telling his woman gossip about him. Yes I did sound about 14 in that sentence. haha. Anyways I have never even spoken once to the woman and my boyfriend has the nerve to come to me with this juvenille crap.

 

At the same time he also came to me about another problem where I was supposed to be gossiping and down the chain it ended up going to a guy that works for him. I was supposed to be saying negative things about my boyfriend to someone and it ended getting back to him. I just can't believe it.

 

I feel so upset that his friends could be so malicious to outright lie like this about me. It is not all his friends, just three that act as children. The rest are fine and I get along with them great.

 

My boyfriend reminded me that what is between us stays between us. He did let me know that he can't change who I choose to talk with but that is his preference. If I chose to talk to someone about he and I it would be one of my adult friends that does not thrive on chaos.

 

This is the third time this crap has happened. I have explained to him that trust is the foundation of a relationship and I am not happy that he is choosing the type of people in his life that cause that type of chaos. I couldn't imagine one of my friends lying about him nor could I imagine listening to one of my friends talking about him poorly.

 

He says just don't talk to his friends and there won't be a problem. The one friend that just pulled this crap I havent' talked to in several months as I do not appreciate his poor skills. That apparently didn't help.

 

I say he just tells his friends he doesn't want to hear negative talk about his woman and set a boundary with them. Should they choose to disrespect the choices he has made for himself then he might want to rethink the relationship. Wacha think? I think if he doesnt' set a boundary this crap will just keep happening.

 

I am shocked people of this age behave in such a manner.