Trialbyfire Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 Its sad - I just came across some old pictures, not of him, but of me - and the girl I was then, when we'd just met. Weird as it sounds, I saw what he saw in me. I was innocent and altogether a different person. Somewhere along the line I changed into someone else, someone different. Just looking at a picture of me it hit me how different I was - in both good and bad ways and I felt sad; sad that the person I was then didn't see this coming. Ahhh maybe sounds a weird thing to say but its almost like when you see a picture of yourself as a child and you think about your life now and how that child never knew the good and bad things that were to come - it made me feel very sad and weird, almost goosebumpy People change A LOT, up to age 25. Most people don't settle into some form of consistency, until after age 25. Expect that you and your ex will both change greatly, within the next few years. With this in mind, how can anyone predict the future and believe another person who's also evolving, will be perfect for them, if only in the future. Walk Nikki and don't look back. He's exactly where he wants to be right now and his actions and words are dictating that he wants no commitment with you. Walk on by, for your own emotional well-being. Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 If he truly wanted to be with you, he'd want to be with you now - he'd love you so much that he couldn't bear to be apart from you for a minute, and he wouldn't take the risk of you finding someone else while you're separated. What he's doing is stringing you along - he's keeping you hanging on either for an ego boost or as a backup plan. Tell him to get stuffed. Link to post Share on other sites
caramel c Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 You can't live your life on "someday" and "maybe". All you have is the present. Make the most of it. To put it in more objective terms, consider if you were just layed off and your manager said, "Perhaps in the future, we will be able to rehire you." What would you do? Sit around without any income waiting for that elusive someday and maybe never? Or start interviewing for new jobs? This is your life. Don't let his vague words control how you live your life. That was a really good analogy. Link to post Share on other sites
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