gummybear Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? 3) Additional details? (optional) For me: 1) 3 2) 1 (so far, at least) 3) The one that came back did so after 6 months of NC! Incredible huh? Link to post Share on other sites
smookie Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 Wow, Are you guys still together? In your heart was it over between you and her and who did the breaking up? I went back to a guy after 4 years on NC. We seen eachother and fell in love again. That lasted 7 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Thaddeus Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 How many times have you been dumped? - 3 Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? - 1. I refused. Additional details? Only 1 other wanted to get back, but I had dumped her cheating a$$ and wanted no part of her anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 21, 2009 Author Share Posted September 21, 2009 Oh well when the 1 came back, I let him down gently. It's too painful to go back and it wasn't going to work out anyway. He was the one who dumped me initially. And while it was painful, I accepted it and really did agree with his reasons for the breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
mimiminx Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 1. twice 2. my first bf dumped me for another woman and said he didn't love me anymore. Then less than 2 months later, he was begging for me back, even pulled out an engagement ring. Pitiful. Needless to say I had moved on by then. 3. I reunited with an old flame (never a serious bf) after 2 years. (this was about three years ago now) He told me he had been in love with me for years and wanted to have a relationship with me, but after we came back together, my feelings for him just weren't the same so it never happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 21, 2009 Author Share Posted September 21, 2009 1. twice 2. my first bf dumped me for another woman and said he didn't love me anymore. Then less than 2 months later, he was begging for me back, even pulled out an engagement ring. Pitiful. Needless to say I had moved on by then. 3. I reunited with an old flame (never a serious bf) after 2 years. (this was about three years ago now) He told me he had been in love with me for years and wanted to have a relationship with me, but after we came back together, my feelings for him just weren't the same so it never happened. For your first bf who dumped u for another woman, did he contact you at all after the breakup? Or did he go strict NC with you then came back out of nowhere and wanted you back? Cuz I always wondered how the exes who go straight NC after a breakup, compared to those who check in on the person they dumped. I wonder whether it means anything, or if it just depends. Link to post Share on other sites
mimiminx Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 For your first bf who dumped u for another woman, did he contact you at all after the breakup? Or did he go strict NC with you then came back out of nowhere and wanted you back? Cuz I always wondered how the exes who go straight NC after a breakup, compared to those who check in on the person they dumped. I wonder whether it means anything, or if it just depends. Yes, he relentlessly contacted me. I ignored him for the most part. Eventually, I just didn't return his calls or respond. I think there was a short time that I heard nothing from him. I met someone else during that time who eventually became my boyfriend (the one I just got dumped by). Then out of the blue, maybe about 2 months later, he calls me and wants to talk. At that point, I really didn't care too much but I didn't hate him or anything so I went to go talk to him.He was begging me to come back to him. Needless to say, I was completely over it. It was horrible and after that I didn't speak to him again. For over a year he would periodically send me emails or texts and I just felt sorry for him. That's my story! Link to post Share on other sites
Taucher Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? 3) Additional details? (optional) 1) 2, both 5 year relationships and the second is most recent one which I am still not over. 2) 1. 3) My EX ex wanted to get back with me. She walked out on me in January 2004. She then did NC on me and I didn't hear from her for 2 months, she ignored all my calls (good thing too, I probably would have begged her to come back). Anyway, in May she called me on my birthday and broke down said she hasn't stopped thinking about me, she made a mistake and she wants me back. I had moved on though, as her NCing me was painful and I couldnt go back. T Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 21, 2009 Author Share Posted September 21, 2009 1) 2, both 5 year relationships and the second is most recent one which I am still not over. 2) 1. 3) My EX ex wanted to get back with me. She walked out on me in January 2004. She then did NC on me and I didn't hear from her for 2 months, she ignored all my calls (good thing too, I probably would have begged her to come back). Anyway, in May she called me on my birthday and broke down said she hasn't stopped thinking about me, she made a mistake and she wants me back. I had moved on though, as her NCing me was painful and I couldnt go back. T How long after you stopped contacting her did she finally called u wanting u back? Link to post Share on other sites
Taucher Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 I called her constantly for the first 2 weeks, then called occasionally for another month or so - no reply. Then I pulled myself together and stopped calling completely at about the end of February 2004. She called me on my birthday at the beginning of May when I had started to go out with what I now consider to be the love of my life (ie the girl who dumped me in May this year) So it was about 2.5 months of me not calling her before she called me out the blue. But after 4 months in total of NC. Link to post Share on other sites
It's Me Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 Read my thread "My Story" and you'll get my story. She's come back flat out. Then played games after I turned her down. Maybe a revenge thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 21, 2009 Author Share Posted September 21, 2009 I read your story It's Me. But it's kind of confusing. So after you turned her down, she played games, but it seems like you regret turning her down and wanted her again? Link to post Share on other sites
It's Me Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 I read your story It's Me. But it's kind of confusing. So after you turned her down, she played games, but it seems like you regret turning her down and wanted her again? Well after we initially broke up she jumped ship to another guy who was trying to get with her while we were together. So it's safe to say I was really pissed. I called her and asked her if it was true and she said yes so I told her to never bother contacting me again. I guess she realized he wasn't all that and even while she was with him she called me and told me she missed me. So after they split it off(not sure how long they dated) I know he cheated on her and ****, She came back about a year later and told me she would do anything for another shot. I wasn't rude to her but I just told her I'd never trust her again and the answer is "no". I then saw her at a bar the next night and she had a new boyfriend already. She would always find a way to see me in general places as well(my work mostly.) 5 years then went by and I saw her at a liquor store and that's when "my story" can explain the rest. I don't wanna invade this person's thread. I don't regret saying no at the time. She didn't deserve a guy like me. I'm not arrogant I just know I'm a great guy to women. I have all sisters so I learned to respect women. I also learned to see their bull****. In the end I wish she never would have come back into my life. There were many times she would show up again out of nowhere. Mostly by coming into my work. Link to post Share on other sites
NSW768 Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 i wonder the numbers of people coming back compared to who does the dumping, whether it be the female or male. just wondering, because it seems like more when the male does the dumping he is way more likely to come back then vice-versa Link to post Share on other sites
JaggedRoad Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 1)3 by the same girl 2)She wanted to get back together the first two times Link to post Share on other sites
AlektraClementine Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? 3) Additional details? (optional) Twice. The first one continued to try get me back until I got engaged. The 2nd married the girl he dumped me for. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? 3) Additional details? (optional) For me: 1) 3 2) 1 (so far, at least) 3) The one that came back did so after 6 months of NC! Incredible huh? 1) Three. Twice by the same guy. And once unoffically by a guy I was seeing because I couldn't make up my mind if I wanted him. 2) Once - we both did. 3) He came back - but he left again! Link to post Share on other sites
conehead Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Ok judging from this poll, the ex comes back about 30% of the time! Now, the next question, what do you think brought them back? What did you do or not do? Does NC actually work to make them miss you and want you back? For my ex that came back, it was 5 months of NC -- I didn't contact him and he never cared to contact me. Then one day BAM! He comes back. So in my case, I think NC worked, though it took a LONG time. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Ok judging from this poll, the ex comes back about 30% of the time! Now, the next question, what do you think brought them back? What did you do or not do? Does NC actually work to make them miss you and want you back? For my ex that came back, it was 5 months of NC -- I didn't contact him and he never cared to contact me. Then one day BAM! He comes back. So in my case, I think NC worked, though it took a LONG time. I think he genuinely loved me and thought the things that went wrong could change. Also he dumped me impulsively - I think he regretted his decision. We emailed to discuss it. Then I sent him a goodbye email and we went NC. He turned up twice when I was out and we ran off together, talking and kissing. We then got back together. NC can work, or it can help speed up the distance between you. Something like time can enflame the great and extinguish the small. Also out of sight out of mind, or absence makes the heart grow fonder. It depends on the reality of what you 2 had, and if you both felt it, or just one of you. Sadly one persons heart can grow fonder and the other persons can grow cold. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 Ya know with the ex who came back, I didn't think he'd ever come back. But I did feel that he felt alot of sadness in letting me go and that he cared about me. He broke up with me because I lied, among other terrible things. Whereas with the latest ex, I thought he loved me deeply and cared for me deeply until he broke up with me...and I didn't feel that his love for me was as deep as I thought. I can't quite put my finger on it...it's just my gut feeling. Anyone know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
hotleggs Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 oh oh noo this one is right up my street dont i loved it haha i have been dumped by my bf 19 times because he is a very jelouse guy , he is controlling but he keeps coming back but now i only see him as a stalker a pure idiot Link to post Share on other sites
EmptyPromises Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 my ex kept coming back, i kept taking him back, and he kept screwing me over and over again. NEVER again. Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? 3) Additional details? (optional) three times one at least well my first dumper i probably deserved it, dated on off for 2 years. I dumped her first two times so I came back), then she dumped me and I found out she cheated on me. highschool stuff I got over it. She was pretty hot that is why I went back plus I was young and dumb, super cool chick now though and am friends. Second girl she dumped me maybe three times. One time was early and she felt busy then we decided to be friends with benefits but our relationship blossomed, second time she felt my heart wasnt it I talked my way back, third time who knows with women, then awhile after we got engaged after 3 and half years then she cheated on me. Most recent I have no clue what will happen there Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 8 0 Never had a relationship survive longer than three months. Every single time, without a doubt, it's been "it's not you, it's me." I can't seem to pick the right ones. Ever. It's a long and lonely road I've been on. Link to post Share on other sites
joybean72 Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? Twice. 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? All of them at some point. 3) Additional details? (optional) Three out of the four came back years later (and we still talk as friends.) Haven't spoken to daughter father in twelve years...but if he shows back up, I would have no will ill towards him. First and only current ex husband...if he shows up years down the road, he can SUCK IT! Link to post Share on other sites
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