CaliGuy Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 A. Sometimes. (I've had a couple try) B. Mostly doesn't work because... C. Neither has fixed their own personl issues or the issues that caused the breakup. Again, I want to ask the question of those seeking a second chance: "Isn't it easier to start with someone new than to try again with someone who already has a 'slighted' opinion of you?!" In other words, why give someone a second chance when the RIGHT person hasn't had a FIRST chance with you? Is this a case of "better the devil you know than the devil you don't?" Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 A. Sometimes. (I've had a couple try) B. Mostly doesn't work because... C. Neither has fixed their own personl issues or the issues that caused the breakup. Again, I want to ask the question of those seeking a second chance: "Isn't it easier to start with someone new than to try again with someone who already has a 'slighted' opinion of you?!" In other words, why give someone a second chance when the RIGHT person hasn't had a FIRST chance with you? Is this a case of "better the devil you know than the devil you don't?" I think there are a few reasons people look for second chances: 1. Fear of the unknown with a new person, where with the old person they knew where they stood (whether good or bad). 2. Hero Complex (I'm a victim of this). 3. Low self esteem 4. Sometimes people are too lazy or feel they have too much time invested with someone to start from scratch with someone else, no matter what happened with their X. 5. The person doesn't necessarily want to be with them anymore, but they don't want to see them move on with someone else. They are just delaying the inevitable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 Now just to clarify, for those who said 'they came back,' but that you mean they came back AND wanted you back right? Not like they came back just to chat or say sorry and say that they still love u but just want to be friends and such.... Cuz this poll is only for the exes who wanted you back and said it to your face. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gummybear Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 1) How many times have you been dumped? Twice. 2) Of those times, how many of them wanted to get back together? All of them at some point. 3) Additional details? (optional) Three out of the four came back years later (and we still talk as friends.) Haven't spoken to daughter father in twelve years...but if he shows back up, I would have no will ill towards him. First and only current ex husband...if he shows up years down the road, he can SUCK IT! So both of them came back and wanted you back? So what was your secret? Respected their decision and NC??? Link to post Share on other sites
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