crazy crazy story

[highlander06]

have a crazy story for you all

 

I was friended by a old high school 'friend' in March. She was the one that got away in High school. I never dated her but i wanted to. I sent her flowers every Valentines day for three years in High School. Everytime I tried to ask her out either I chickened out or she had a bf.

 

Well She friended me. We quickly caught up after 27 years. She is married for 18 years with 2 kids. I am married for 10 years no kids. She says she is unhappy in her marriage and has not had sex in 2 years. I was just sleep walking thru my marriage for the pas few years.

 

We became great friends, my feelings for her never completly went away but now they were back with a vengence. She always maintained she only wanted to be friends with me, but she always flirted with me on the computer or via text.

 

one weekend a bunch of our mutual friends from High school all were going to meet for drinks at a local bar. My to close buddies Knew how i felt for her then and now. One of them say his name is Joe she seemed to be after. I asked Joe what his intentions were..he said he had no intentions for her, he was happy with his girlfriend.

 

Well the night came and I picked up Joe at his house and went to the bar. The girl was there with other Mutual friends and she was already wasted. As the night wore on it was clear she wanted Joe and joe was flirting and carrying on with her much to my dismay. We all left the bar and went to a mutal friends house. At the house Joe and My friend hooked up and disapeared until it was time to leave. I drove them both back to where her car was and then to his house.

 

Next day i called him up and expressed my displeasure with him..he said nothing happend. She called me up and appologized for what happend with them but also said nothing happend. But Joe told my other buddy somthing did happen and he told me. Caused a rift between Joe and i for a little while, but we had been friends for over 30 years and it was not worth it to stay mad at him..over her.

 

He brushed her off, she was really upset over him blowing her off, i helped her thru it.

 

She also came clean to me later and i forgave her for it. all was well. I friendship continued and i still had the feelings in witch i expressed to her and she still wanted to be just friends all the while she always flirted with me and we tallked every day via text or FB.

 

One night she told me a guy she went to grade school had feelings for her, what should she do. I said follow your heart.

 

Well We had another outing planned with friends and we all met for dinner had a fun time we were texting each other at the table even though she was sitting across from me and next to my wife!! The night wore on and she was leaving to go meet more friends at another bar. I stayed with my wife and we stayed another hour or so to watch a band. We left to meet them and when i got there she was sitting with that guy. I got a little jealous but not overtly.

 

We all left to go home and all was well.

 

One day a bunch of friends met for lunch at a diner. We had fun with everyone. Everyone left except her and I. She and i walked to her car and i told her again how i felt and she said she just wanted to be friends. i told her i was really upset just look me in the and say that cause i didn't beleive her. I was sitting in her passanger seat in her car and she laid a passionate kiss on me. i was really about to give up and try to move on from her, but she did that. She drove me back to my car then i went home. We texted on the way home about it..i told her it was an awesome kiss and i was so happy because i waited 27 years for it. She said it was great too!

 

We continued to talk and text every day!

 

 

A few weeks later there was another outin scheduled for everyone. But this time the girl and my wife went to get there nails done with another mutual friend of ours. I tagged along with all of them. At the salon we were flirting and texting each other while my wife and the other friend were getting their nails done. When they were all done, my wife and the other mutual friend went to antoher store to buy something, And the girl and i left together in her car to get mine so we all could meet up at the bar later on.

 

We all met at the bar and had a great time. She got wasted as usual as the night wore on. Towards the end of the night that guy showed up and they left together. I must say i was pissed. They came back a hour later, her hair all messed up with a huge smile, it was obvious what happend. I sent her an angry text and left.

 

She was mad at me for the angry text i sent and things were not so good between us for awhile. I got over the anger a few days later but things were different, I was jealous as hell..found out he was married from her friend that is also friends with me...I told her she said he was not..but she knew he was cause she went to a Halloween party with him and his wife a few months back...so she was lying to me about it, but i knew that she was. She was seing this guy for a few months. During that time we were friends and still talked text alot but we got into occasional fights mostly cause i was really jealous.

 

Well she is a teachers aid and school let out in late june. She asked me if i wanted to go to lunch with her. I said yes and we met at the same diner as before. Lunch was great we had a great time together. Things seemed to click. We spent a lot of time together in the next few weeks but nothing else happend. She was still seing that guy i thought.

 

We met at that close buddy of mines house one day after i got out of work. We did a little drinking and she went for a quad ride with my friend in the woods behind his house. One particular ride they were gone for awhile...i thought it was strange..they came back. while my buddie was in the house she let me touch her chest and stuff. When it was time to go we stole a kiss on the side of the house before we left.

 

we talked and texted thru out the week and she wanted to come back and ride the quad again..i asked my buddie he said sure. We came back the next week and drank a bit again.not a lot. She said she wanted to show me something so we went in the house. In the house we kissed and she showed me her privates and let me touch. Not much more happend and we both had to go home.

 

the next week she was have a party at her house in which the whole gang was invited. We were talking one day and she asked me out of the blue what is my fav color for panties i said white..she then asked me what type to i like..i said thong. She texted me later from the store saying she bought em for me..drove me nuts.

 

So when we get to her house for the party her whole family is there and my wife is with me... she told me before hand to hanky panky..no touching no flirting..i said sure no problem.

 

Well while she was showing us the house and my wife was not looking she showed me the thong she was wearing with a come hither look to go with it. It was awesome!! the party went on and we had a good time. we stayed late into the night and i was too drunk to drive home and my wife was to tired also, So we stayed over

 

I went to sleep on the couch...She texted me to see if i was awake but i didnt see it till a couple hours later when she was already sleeeping..i was a little bummed. in the morning I asked her what she wanted she said she wanted to fool around a little..wowie!!

 

Now am I nuts or she is showing interest to be more then just friends??

 

 

Well now it was july 4 weekend and my friend and our mutual friend were coming up to my house so we all could go see a band. They were going to stay the night then leave in the morning.

 

We go to the place where the band is and she was texting her friend who she was planning to go sky diving with the followiing week. She askes me if it was ok for him to meet us where we were going..i said sure. I didnt' relize it was a mutual friend from HS she was talking about.

 

When we got there, he met us and she hopped in his truck..first she asked me if i was mad i said no. They followed my wife and i to the place

we drank a little bit..i only had 1 or 2 beers cause i was driving. She preceded to get wasted. At the end of the set my wife and i went to talk to the lead singer(my wife knows him) My friend and the guy wandered off to the water. i later found them in the water kissing(yes it made me jealous but i didn't say anything) she wanted to go all the way into the water and the guy didn't really want to but i said i would so we all got soaked. My wife came back and got us out of the water and we went to the cars.

 

I had some spare cloths in my trunk and changed out of the wet cloths. The guy had some cloths for her and she got naked in front of him(i didn't see it) we all had dry clothes on now so we left to go to a diner for munchies

 

When we got there, the guy dropped her off and left. she was still pretty drunk, she asked me to walk her to the bathroom..so i did..we kissed in the bathroom!!

 

when we got back to the table my wife and her friend were there ordereing. It was discovered that she left her cell in his truck..I called him he found it..offered to turn around i said we will get it in the morning. he said ok..but if we drive all the way there we are going sky diving..oh boy

 

next morning we all get up and drive to where he is..it was like a 2 hour drive. We get there and he wants us to go sky diving. i said i didt have the cash he said dont worry about it. So my friend and i fill out the paper work and watch the lawyer video. while we are waiting she says to me if we do this we will have a permanent bond, im like ya man!!

 

We did it and it was the best experience i have had in a long time..scary but fun..go do it!!

 

any way ..after all that she has to go home and we have a party to go to at my buddies house. We drive home it was a long but fun drive home. When we get to my house..the two friends leave and we get ready to go to that party.

 

We go to the party and My friend could not go she had to hang with her husband and family. as the night wore on i was texting her all night, my wife got pisssed so i stopped.

 

The next morning my buddie has been up all night drinking along with that other mutual friend i was with the day before. My wife and i were shocked they were still up. My wife wanted to go shopping for something so we left. while we were gone they kept drinking.

 

When we got back they were both quite drunk. we were sitting in the house and my friend called and said she wanted to come down for a quad ride..i said cool and she was on her way. The other girl was so drunk she asked my wife right in front of everyone if she could give me oral..oh boy..she got pissed this was the same time my friend arrived. The othe girl wandered outside to say hello to her and asked her if she could feel her breasts!! oh boy..they both came back inside and thiings got worse..that girls was all touchy and feely to both me and my buddie. My wife got pissed and insisted we leave..so we did.

 

my friend got the other girls out of the house and to her other friends house down the street to sober up. When she got back hours later my buddies girlfriend blew a hairy at her and banned her for life from their house. She also banned my friend too..I dint not understand why it was very weird.

 

a week or so later her and I went down to see a mutual friend and hang with her for the day(my wife was not happy about it) but i went anyway.

 

On the ride down..she explained that she just wanted to be friends for now but who knows what will happen in the future.. she thinks if we go further it will ruin our friendship like it always does..I assured her it would not but but agreed, it was not as bad as it sounds..im glad we talked. I was upset but not mad or anything.

 

when i got back to my car i went to my buddies house where we hung previously. told him and his girlf friend that we were done and were just going to be friends.

 

the following week end it was my buddies bday so we had all planned to go to the bar and celebrate. I planned to have my to banned friends and i meet at her friends house that is down the street from my buddies house, cause they are both banned form his house. I told him that he said dont do that just meet at his house and then we all could leave from there.

 

I said are you sure he said yes. So we did and we all went to the bar and had a great time. at the end of the night my wife drove My buddie and i back to his hosue. my friend and my other friend also went back in her car.

 

we got there and we al went to sleep. this is were it gets wacky.

 

next morning my buddies girl who didnt go out with us she had a previous commitment with her Hubby(yes i know its f'd up) She was pissed cause the two banned girls were there and yelled at my buddie and me. it was not my fault but i got bitched out anyway. Things calmed down and we were all hanging. She wanted us to hang for cake later so my wife and i stayed all day.

 

our other friends came by that were with us the previous night and we had cake..it was cool. Now we all are just hanging..and my other friend tells me about my friend telling her she about her trist with the guy the pervious weekend.. she said she she told her she had given him oral in the car..i said i didnt think so cause i was there unless she did it driving back.

 

I was also texting her all day. My friend that told me that said she needed to tell me something but it has to wait until monday can i meet her here with my buddie..i said cant u just telll me now she said no. I agreed

 

Im driving home and she texted me how did my friend fall in love with my buddie when did they ever hang together..i was LIKE WHAT? she said never mind and changed the subject..Now the wheels are turing in my brain..she would not tell me

 

So Monday rolls around and i meet her at his house with my buddie. She tells me That my friend is leading me on and she is in Love with my buddie, my friend told her that..im in shock. she also said that my friend was bad mouthing me behind my back saying i am chasing her and she does not want to be with me yuk!!..i could not beleive that.

 

So i leave and start texting my friend for what the hell she was talking about..she came clean and stated that she was indeed in love with him and she fooled around with him the day of the quad ride!! I was shocked and pissed she told me not to say anyting to my buddie..i could not

 

I called him and asked him that he denied it ever happend callled her a lair and told me he was hurt that i even asked him that..i backed down and told him he has been my friend for over 20 years and i would have to take his word over hers...I didnt of course..i beleive her

 

my friend and i talked all day about it. i was pissed and hurt by what she did but i forgave her. She was goig on vacation with her family the next day. I texted her that she should think about what i am to her and get back to me when she gets back..I told her we are to intimate as friends..we need to go further or stop entirely. She kept insisting that we stay friends.

 

The next day i go back to my buddies house and we have a arguement about her and why they said that stuff to me about her. I said i appreciate that he was concerned about me but the way he did it over steped a boundry and i was pissed. He did not want to hear any of it..as far as he was concered i am an ass hole for accusing him of kissing her and she is a liar and she is no longer his friend.

 

I thought it was fishy he banned her the week before but his reaction to my questioning just reinforced that he did fool around with her.. plus my observation the day it happend didt help him either.

 

Im pissed at him for not coming clean, pissed at him for turning it around on me and making me the jerk and ostrasizing my friend too. so i leave and we really dont talk for about a month.

 

as for my friend and i it seemed to draw us closer. on the way down to her vacation she sent me texts of pictures of her sat receiver with romantics songs on it..like we belong together from taylor swift.

 

What am i to think?

 

we talk all week she down on vacation..I am having a bbq for my bday the saturday after she comes back from vacation.

 

the party rolls around and she comes up. the party is fun and we all get drunk. She followed me into my house and we stole a kiss away from prying eyes. As the night wore on she sobbered up and i just got drunker. When the party broke up around midnight everyone left except for the my friend and the girl who offered oral(my wife forgave her)

 

i told my friend i would sneek up to her at 4 am ..she said ok

 

I woke up at 4:20 and texted her to see if she was awake and if i could come up..she said yes

 

I went to her and we fooled around for an hour..it was great. we did not have intercourse. But she had fun! She never touched me besides kissiing.

 

I had to go after an hour i was pushing my luck as it was.

 

the following monday i went to her house and went for a walk around the block with her and we talked about everything. She said we were going to have sex but be patient with her. I said ok..she also said that would i get mad if she ever hooked up with someone else.. thought that was wierd but i said no.

 

I spent the whole day with her and it was wonderful. couple days later it was my actual birthday and i again went to her house..she texted me the night before dont expect sex cause she cant do it like that..plus her kids were home...i said ok i dont expect anything any way.

 

Well i got there and it was great..we had a quick kiss in the garage then spent the day together again..she cooked my breakfast and we hung out in the kitchen all day holding hands when her kids were not around.

 

i had to go home eventualy before i left she we agreed she would giveme a pair of her white panties with some perfrume on it for a keep sake...she gave em to me..i asked for the ones she was weariing too..she went to the bath room and gave em to me.

 

what i am supposed to think?

 

the following week was great we chatted and texted it was just awesome.

 

We both got invited to a party at our friends house in early august. this is where it comes apart.

 

we had a fun time at the party but she had to go home early. i stayed at the party and was texting her...i guess i was losing my patience with her cause i asked her why she never touches me back...she replied back she just wants to be friends again!!

 

Now im pissed. We get into a big text fight ..i go to work she goes to sleep

 

the next morning after work I am fuming pissed off i drive to her house and we have an arguement in her drive way..She says she insistes that she wants to be just friends again..i cant accept that after all that has happend between us. I say look me in the eye and say it..she does..but she says that she has feelings for me and the reason she just wants to be friends is if we keep gettng physical she will fall in love with me and she does not want to fall in love. Im like im already there why not just give it a shot. She tells me she wants to see that guy from sky diving and me but i cant be physical with her. Im like what ever but im no longer mad at her and i really have to go.. so i leave.

 

We are al supposed to go see that band near me again in a week. She tells me that guy wanted her to spend the night at his apartment..i told her that infers that they are going to have sex and why is it ok for him buy not for me ...her logic makes no sense. She tells me she has no feelings for him and it will be ok if they do..im like what the hell that is ridiculus. After some fighting and discussing she says she is not going to go meet him after anymore. Im like ok but dont do it on a account of me cause your going to end up resenting me..she said she wont

 

later that day she texts me that she is going to go now..and we get into a big fight about it...but late we calm down I tell her if she wants do do that go ahead but dont do it infront of me or tell me.

 

She says shes not gonna go after all. The day comes and we go see the band and it was fun. We went back to my house after the band was done..my wife stayed at her sisters.....

 

we got back and nothing happend at all ..she would not even kiss me..i was so pissed and hurt

 

next morning my wife came home and we were all hanging out..she had me do someting with her phone and i did a dick move..i looked at her messages...she had a text from that guy about phone sex...i got pissed and my wife so me do that and threw me under the bus..so my friend got pissed...it was not goood

 

she was yelliing at me...she was right of course i did invade her privacy..i said i was sorry..but she left mad.

 

after she left my wife blew a hairy a.she said she was sick of her and me being no nice to her what was goiing on...i said nothing..but she was still mad and took off for a few hours.

 

after that weekend my wife hates her.

 

my friend and i made up..things were tense cause this guy was on my mind now

 

so she put together this girls night out a couple weeks later..i was never planning to go at all .she told me to stay away...said i would

 

our mutual friend called me and said shes pissed at my friend cause of somthing but she didnt want to tell me...i dragged it out of her that..that guy was going to be there..really annoyed me...My wife was not home..so i took off for that bar..with the plan that i would have one beer bust her then go.

 

Well i did that but i had two beers doing that..she was pissed i was pissed it was not good. Mywife texted me said she was on her way home ...i was screwed..i told her i was still home...no way i could beet her home. so i came clean told her i was at a bar with my friends. She got pissed I hung up i was already pissed and a bit drunk..i was on my fourth one in about 20 minutes.

 

The night got worse from there..my friend and i are bickering with each other..I was talkiing to the guy getting steadily drunker. My friend who told me about it came to the bar...by then i was wasted and it was time to go..the guy left and my friend walked him out.. my friend who told me watched them and told me to her his body language showed no interest in her..oh boy

 

at the end of the nght..i sent my friend nasty texts and completly pissed her off..i dont even remember what i sent

 

next day we kinda made up..but wife was is fuming pissed off at me..it was not good

 

things just gont worse with my friend...That night on the way to work i sent her a text that i was gonna give her what she wants and let her go..she was very cold about it..

 

i sent her a email detailing our summer and asked her what she thought..she replied she didnt' do any of that..and its insutlinig that i dont believe her that she just wants to be friends.

 

and she later said that she never had any feelings for me and what happend at my house was the heat of the moment...and i maniupulated her.

 

she also said that i treated her like a wife and made her feel guilty

 

i told her i dont want to speak to her again.and she hurt me deeply

 

she said fiine

 

i waited to days..said i was sorry..and i still wanted to be friends..she said ok

 

about a day or two later she textes me that she was unlucky at love adn she was doomed to be alone.

 

i told her i loved her why wont she see that she has love right infront of her

 

she said that she met a friend..not that guy..he said wonderfull things to her that she beleived but he just wants to be friends..he does not want any of her drama

 

i kinda melted down on her and we again did not talk..i waited a few days and we talked again..

 

it was ok..but it was never the same after that last huge fight..she texted me about how i ruined her chances with that guy cause i said stuff to him about her..i told her i dont know what she talking about..i sent him a message he said he didn't know what i was talking about..

 

she was pissed ..i was pissed..i told her i told my buddie about what happend betwen us and she say i betrayed her trust and she could never trust me again

 

and we should take a brake from beiing friends for awhile no contact..i agreed.

 

but i just cant have no contact with her..i have called her and texted her she does not respond

 

im bumming

 

what do you guys think i should do?

[joybean72]

Your right...it IS a crazy crazy crazy story! You are BOTH married and acting like drunken teenagers with no respect for either of your spouses, friends, eachother...etc. It's a freakin' cheating circus! (That's my nice way of putting it!)

[Stroon]

i have to admit i did scan alot of your post cos it was SO long!

but seriously, it seems like there has been nothing but trouble for you and your friends since this woman showed up.

 

She's obviously a tease, and from what i read doesn't seem to care about your feelings at all, OR care that she is playing around with people's husbands.

 

and TBH you should be ashamed of your behaviour, texting each other while your wife is there? you may have been 'sleepwalking' through your relationship but i'm sure she deserves a bit more respect than that.

 

if you really are not happy with your marriage, you should address that with your wife, not project it onto this woman from your past.

 

considering her behaviour, would you seriously ever want a relationship with her?!!!!!!!!!

 

forget her, dont try to contact her. she's way more trouble than she's worth

[highlander06]

You guys are all right. I do feel like hell for what i have done. She acts like she did notthing wrong.

 

I must break away from this mess!

 

Thanks for your input

[Stroon]

well good luck.

its never too late to do the right thing.

sorry if my comments sounded a bit harsh!