Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 This has GOT to be a Troll! c'mon!!! Ridiculous! Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 Can he look himself in the face every morning knowing he has 3 small children he as physically, emotionally abandoned as a father and what they will think of him the older they get... This is ridiculous... he never abandoned his kids, it's just you he's left hanging... he only wants you Part-time... now either you break it off with him (and still allow him access to HIS kids that HE pays for -- Ariadne, where are you for this?), or you continue being his mistress, but you cannot force him by taking his kids away from him... no court would allow that kind of blackmail -- "marry me or else you won't see your kids"! Jeez how does the next chapter begin? I might have to go to bed soon... Link to post Share on other sites
EarthGirl Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 i am talking about if him and I were to stay together and eventually be married... i wont be the wife she is... you are already the wife she is. you put up with his behavior for a long time. how do you know SHE does? yeah she has not divorced him yet and maybe never will, maybe that is because she too considers him the love of HER life. That doesn't mean that she doesn't call him on his sh*t and expect more from him than you do. Maybe the reason they don't have sex very often is not because they are not sexually compatible, but because she refuses to make love to him when she knows he is sleeping with another woman. Another poster commented on the idea that she thought that his marriage might be a "business partnership" or a "power couple"...and that yours with him is a "dom/sub" relationship...And that theirs doesn't seem as romantic. Well don't you think that a relationship between two equals sounds a lot more romantic? I am convinced that you love him very much and I am sure he feels the same, after all even total jerks can fall in love. However you have know way of knowing he is not head of heels in love with his wife, and maybe the one thing she has that you don't is not only that she respects herself more than you respect yourself, but that she respects HIM enough to believe in him that he has the capability to be a better man. If anything all you seem to do is use his psychological issues and deepest hurts to manipulate him into staying with you....surely he does it to you too, much more than you do. I have no doubt that he is the real criminal in your relationship and that he has ruthlessly broken your heart. I am sorry for that, I've been there, way way too much. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 You know who this OP Author reminds me of? Remember that other 'author' that posted about having a super wealthy b/f with a HUGE beach house who had taken his ex-wife in, and allowed the x to sleep in his bed (but no sex), lol, ... what was her name... yeah... this one has the same writing style/story about wealthy wolf and two woman, she being the OW... Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 or maybe it's written by that young romantic teenage girl we shooed away from here... what's her name... romanticbride! Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 and he wasnt too keen on idea of another man being there when his baby is born, I told him to be honest, he missed 1st two births why should I suffer and be alone the 3rd when there are plenty of young men that are begging me to be there... Where do you get to meet all these young men, btw, when you are a harried busy mom of 5, and heavily pregnant now?! Sheesh... Maybe you've not heard the term, MILF? Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 (Nelson voice) Ah ha, you wanted to ruin life with his wife to get him to stay with you and it backfired on you! But youre 3 kids too late! SHoulda told her sooner.... Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 Funny, I just read all her other threads and each one has SEVERAL LS posters disbelieving her story! That's NOT the norm here on LS! I wonder why so many regular posters call bs on OP each time? Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 LOL....interesting...many of us do not believe this is real...yet, we post advice after advice, criticism after criticism, mocking her and then dismissing her and then back.....are we all just really confused about these whole thread?..I know I am... Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 As an FYI, for any future threads, this makes no sense. After one c-section, the vast majority of doctors will automatically schedule you for a c-section for any other births, which means, no labour... You need to tighten your story a bit. Facts help. I don't know much about labor and c-sections but heard some interesting things about them ! The above statement is not necessarily true...new studies show that awaiting the onset of labor appears to be beneficial in preventing neonatal respiratory distress syndrome (RDS) for term neonates delivered by elective Cesarean section. Having said that, many elective c-sections are scheduled when the pregnancy is already full term and therefore it is highly possible (and ob-gyns hope) that the patient would go into labor. Labor contractions strengthen the baby's lungs and "expel" excess fluids. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 So, when he is here he is a wonderful father and wonderful partner. When he is not here my day is full of what most women who stay at home with 5 children (3 in school) and pregnant do.... Since I have all sons...I would probably advise them to leave a marriage if they want someone else. Living a double life has to be exhausting... to clear up a few things...my labor for our children were all c-sections, . (She said she has FIVE sons) All delivered by C-section! Umm, is this possible that she is now going for a SIXTH C-section??!! I thought they don't do more than 2 or 3 um, also she said she is only a few years older than the MM's sons (early 20's??) so how old is SHE when she has been with MM for 6 years and was previously married for 10! ... hello? I'm outta here... waste of my time dealing with fictitious stories... Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 (and still allow him access to HIS kids that HE pays for -- Ariadne, where are you for this?) Sigh... Quite disappointing to read. At first she seemed quite noble in her love. That she loved this man deeply, that she was going to wait for him for 50 years, that her love was unconditional, and so forth. Now I read all this mess that she is leaving messages to the wife saying that she is gone, talking about trust funds and taking the kids away and what not. I'd like to think that she is hormonal and talking nonsense. But the damage is done. If she ever expected to have a relationship with this man, the chances for that to happen have gone down dramatically after this display of irrational and immature behavior. And to make things worse, she swears that she "does" love this man, that he in fact "is" the love of her life, but that she "has" to shove the dagger in his back. She lost credibility with me at least, I would not trust her. I think she is doing all of this as the last desperate attempt to have control in a situation that is frustrating her, and got winded by all the things she read in the forum. See what happens now. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 is this possible that she is now going for a SIXTH C-section??!! I thought they don't do more than 2 or 3 Yeah, that's strange. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 (Nelson voice) Ah ha, you wanted to ruin life with his wife to get him to stay with you and it backfired on you! But youre 3 kids too late! SHoulda told her sooner.... I agree with Athena, I think it was the kid who posted a link to her blog. Lot's of crap and as Tami said, we keep wading through. But I got me some hip boots:laugh:. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 (She said she has FIVE sons) All delivered by C-section! Umm, is this possible that she is now going for a SIXTH C-section??!! I thought they don't do more than 2 or 3 um, also she said she is only a few years older than the MM's sons (early 20's??) so how old is SHE when she has been with MM for 6 years and was previously married for 10! ... hello? I'm outta here... waste of my time dealing with fictitious stories... Right behind you Athena. Link to post Share on other sites
georgia girl Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 This board is amazing. This woman comes on here, bears her soul, gets lots of negative advice about staying in her relationship and decides to do the healthy thing and leave. Then, she gets blasted again? Good God, no one's actions are 100% pure. But, she did force him out and force him to either choose her or move on with her life without him. The toughest part now will be making it stick and I think that's the toughest part anyone ever faces - staring down the one you love who is saying, "You don't have to go," and saying, "Yes, I do." Yes, her story is incredible and maybe she is a troll. But, I personally know a family who has had seven children, each by C-section. No, it's not advised and she spent much of the last pregnancy on bed rest. But, they have healthy children. Sorry, I know many will disagree with me but good job, NC2. Just stick to it. It's a full-time commitment or nothing. Limbo-Land is a nasty place to be. Link to post Share on other sites
secondbest Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 wow is what i say to.. i feel so sorry for you. This man is not going to change he has no reason to he has the best of both worlds. I hope you come to your senses and realize you are wasting you time and your life on a man who doesn't care about any of you. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 This board is amazing. This woman comes on here, bears her soul, gets lots of negative advice about staying in her relationship and decides to do the healthy thing and leave. Then, she gets blasted again? Good God, no one's actions are 100% pure. But, she did force him out and force him to either choose her or move on with her life without him. The toughest part now will be making it stick and I think that's the toughest part anyone ever faces - staring down the one you love who is saying, "You don't have to go," and saying, "Yes, I do." Yes, her story is incredible and maybe she is a troll. But, I personally know a family who has had seven children, each by C-section. No, it's not advised and she spent much of the last pregnancy on bed rest. But, they have healthy children. Sorry, I know many will disagree with me but good job, NC2. Just stick to it. It's a full-time commitment or nothing. Limbo-Land is a nasty place to be. Yeah but if the story is actually true, theres many issues she has that are bad choices on her part, namely trying to ruin his other marriage by calling his wife. She could have just told him to make a choice, but she wanted to ruin hhis other family first. Thats the type of selfish behavior thats causing her to get attacked. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Share Posted September 26, 2009 as i can see I have to clear sever issues up... 1. after 2 c-sections where i live they refuse to deliver you any other way...hence they will only do c-sections on me. 2. i am not much older than his oldest child (about 5 years) my x-MM being in his 60s 3. He is the LOVE of my LIFE...but my 1st love is my CHILDREN 4. If the children WANT to see their father, want to call him, when they are older then that is THEIR choice and I will support my CHILDREN'S decision regarding any relationship with him. 5. Younger men, well, I have several friends that are closer to my age, more younger, that have always wanted to be more than friends but I kept them at bay, letting them know my situation. 6. Other than allowing one to be their for the birth of baby, for emotional support, at their request, I am in NO SHAPE to even think of currently pursuing a relationship with anyone right now. 7. My personality is that of a giver. I have given to this man over and over and over...with little in return. So, if I'm not important to him or his children, then he wont miss us. The only thing he said when I told him I would send him photos of the children once a year was "dont take anything out on them because they look like me" as if any mother could do such a horrible thing...I love my children. He didnt fight to want to see them. 8. I told him he has his freedom now he can be happy his repsonse "how can I be happy if you are miserable?" 9. Well, everyone said he is this and that, I should leave, I should do this for my children, I should put my foot down, well, where are those people now???? 10. I have to struggle every day with his baby growing inside me not to call him as he said "in 3 days you will be call me back saying you love me and cant wait to see me" 11. So how about some of you stay with your messages and be consistent! 12. Where is the support when a change is made??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Share Posted September 26, 2009 Your damn right I called his home and left voice message for his wife to hear (if he didnt get home 1st and erase it) I wanted her to know it was over...that I wasnt tolerating this situation anymore and if she is content to live as an ostrich with her head in the sand while he get his sexual satisfaction and intimacy elswhere while all along thinking she has all american perfect marriage she is delusional and can keep him! She knows with me gone he is going to be out on the prowl again... Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 12. Where is the support when a change is made??? <Sigh> You have made NO changes!!!! You are behaving exactly the same way you always did BEFORE anyone on LS gave you advice: 1) In May this year you started a thread in which you stated you had gone no contact with MM (how is this different to you going NC now?! You already were doing that before we said anything!) 2) You have not changed your blackmailing tactics with MM: First you got pregnant with his kids three times, kinda confident that THAT would draw him away from his Wife, since 'her kids' had grown and left the house... but MM would not leave his empty nest with just his wife, for YOU. Five months ago you decided to cut him out of your life and refuse him any contact with not only YOU, but HIS kids too (the kids he pays for!!! The kids whose father puts a roof over YOUR head and allows you to be a stay-at-home mom with three nannies)...NOW you have done the EXACT same thing you did before you came to loveshack -- you yet again have cut him out of your life and threatened him to never see HIS kids AGAIN (where's the 'change' Missy?) 3) You are still fu*k*ng around with MM's wife, despite EVERYONE here telling you NOT to! You messed with her when your fifth child was born and you phoned to shock her with that news!!!! while in labor!!!! And -- no change here -- despite her telling you firmly to NEVER contact her again (yes, that includes telephone messages on her home telephone answering machine, my dear) YOU DID THIS YET AGAIN 4) You were delusional before about a 'happily ever after' ending after your major attempts to pilfer another woman's husband, and attempted to entrap him with more babies (as you have wishfully pointed out, he should be with his new, young growing family, right? And who are YOU to decide this??!!) And -- you are STILL delusional in your thinking that you can punish him for not marrying you, by denying him access to his kids. You said he was a Good Father -- one who provide them with his presence 3-4 times a week, a home, nannies, a stay-at-home mom, vacation in Hawaii, trust funds, and more, and yet you want all the money and house etc but think you can deny him visitation rights (you say ONLY if the kids ask for him??!! -- damn, where's the emoticon of a head with a finger tok-tokking the side of it?) That's nuts. Crazy behavior. You are still exhibiting delusional behavior and I am saying this to help you -- lady, you need to go get help -- psychotherapy. Please, what you are doing is not healthy! Not for you, your kids, or for MM! YOU HAVE NOT MADE ANY CHANGES Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 my x-MM being in his 60s Men that age don't get divorced for a lover. No matter what or how much they love them. The best she had to hope for was a clandestine relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 [facepalms] [sighs] Some just never learn. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 How old exactly, are you Nocontact2? Seriously, you are behaving in an immature fashion, and for a mother of soon-to-be 6 children, you need to catch a wake-up! You cannot be reacting emotionally to every stimulus in your life! You need to follow some common-sense guidelines in your life. I empathize with you having grown up with a philandering father who had multiple families with various children, then only had contact with the two oldest and two youngest children, and ignored the other middle children (one of whom was YOU), but the way to solve those undealt-with childhood hurts and rejections by your own father is NOT to go out and hook up with an older man in his 60's (father figure?) who himself is a serial cheater, and start up a second family with him so you can replay your own personal history, but this time trying to control the situation as an adult (and I use the term adult very loosely here) to try make the situation turn out the way you want it too, unlike when you were a child and were powerless to make your dad do it differently. You are behaving in a very dangerous, not smart, and delusional manner. And I hope my words will shock you into seeking professional help because you have six young and impressionable children being affected by your actions! I urge you to go for help. You simply cannot see outside yourself right now, can you? Seriously lady, how old are you? In your late thirties? <shakes head in amazement> Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 26, 2009 Author Share Posted September 26, 2009 he has his freedom...he has no obligation to call me, come by, text anything...he can go find another girlfriend with no children and have his cake as you call it. I'm letting him go...what his actions are from this point forward are totally on him...as are that of his wife. I, nor our children, are no longer in the equation. He is in the hottub with wife and not me and his wife now... Link to post Share on other sites
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