fooled once Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 as i can see I have to clear sever issues up... 1. after 2 c-sections where i live they refuse to deliver you any other way...hence they will only do c-sections on me. 2. i am not much older than his oldest child (about 5 years) my x-MM being in his 60s 3. He is the LOVE of my LIFE...but my 1st love is my CHILDREN 4. If the children WANT to see their father, want to call him, when they are older then that is THEIR choice and I will support my CHILDREN'S decision regarding any relationship with him. 5. Younger men, well, I have several friends that are closer to my age, more younger, that have always wanted to be more than friends but I kept them at bay, letting them know my situation. 6. Other than allowing one to be their for the birth of baby, for emotional support, at their request, I am in NO SHAPE to even think of currently pursuing a relationship with anyone right now. 7. My personality is that of a giver. I have given to this man over and over and over...with little in return. So, if I'm not important to him or his children, then he wont miss us. The only thing he said when I told him I would send him photos of the children once a year was "dont take anything out on them because they look like me" as if any mother could do such a horrible thing...I love my children. He didnt fight to want to see them. 8. I told him he has his freedom now he can be happy his repsonse "how can I be happy if you are miserable?" 9. Well, everyone said he is this and that, I should leave, I should do this for my children, I should put my foot down, well, where are those people now???? 10. I have to struggle every day with his baby growing inside me not to call him as he said "in 3 days you will be call me back saying you love me and cant wait to see me" 11. So how about some of you stay with your messages and be consistent! 12. Where is the support when a change is made?? ? See MY post# 234 on page 16 .... I believe I posted RIGHT after you posted your initial "I am leaving him" post Link to post Share on other sites
GreenBamboo Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I don't see a lot of support posts for OP. Is it because the OP hit some nerves of yours? Could you post if you are a (bitter) BS before you post? The OP need support, not harsh criticism. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I don't see a lot of support posts for OP. Is it because the OP hit some nerves of yours? Could you post if you are a (bitter) BS before you post? The OP need support, not harsh criticism. I said I was out, until this statement. Have you read posts from others who have posted? Did you know some of them are OW? And the ones who are BS are nowhere in the realm of being bitter. Before you post things you know absolutely nothing about, be sure of your facts. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenBamboo Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I said I was out, until this statement. Have you read posts from others who have posted? Did you know some of them are OW? And the ones who are BS are nowhere in the realm of being bitter. Before you post things you know absolutely nothing about, be sure of your facts. Are you a BS or OW? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Are you a BS or OW? I am well documented. That's why I said you should read to know who you are referring to. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I don't see a lot of support posts for OP. Is it because the OP hit some nerves of yours? Could you post if you are a (bitter) BS before you post? The OP need support, not harsh criticism. Oh Please, we don't need titles (BS/OW) to reply to someone who is out of control. The OP of this thread is seriously in need of mental therapy. She is playing a game -- a game that WILL HURT her children. Calling the wife like she continues to do is just silly. The wife doesn't care --- hasn't cared at all. She is probably either getting just as much "loving" from the MM as the OP or she has her own piece on the side and she is use to her husband playing with others. There is no rule as to who can post to what thread. And no, I am not a BS Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Are you a BS or OW?I am well documented. That's why I said you should read to know who you are referring to. Looks like she needs a quick heads-up on Titles, so she can Stereotype us ... perhaps she cannot function without that? So, never mind that we have urged OP to get psychological help IRL, but this above response clearly ignores what poor example is being show to a bunch of innocent children.. as another poster previously said, how are those kids ever going to grow up to have emotionally healthy relationships when their mother (their major influence) is behaving like this? It's not so bad to be an OW in a miserable affair when it is just her, but when it affects six children that is quite another thing! Link to post Share on other sites
GreenBamboo Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 To OP: 1) please don't ever contact the W anymore, or contact her not expecting any result - she won't show anything for your satisfaction, although she may be hurt too. 2) You only need to talk to MM about your status. Have you ever thought why do you need that marriage, if not for money? 3) It's the MM that choose to have an open marriage (not considering your feelings). You can choose to date other people too. If I were you, I'll keep seeing him (no sex), secure the money for children, and dating other younger/juicy men. 4) Don't have one concern about the W. They are in the 60s and probably not romantically involved anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I don't see a lot of support posts for OP. Is it because the OP hit some nerves of yours? Could you post if you are a (bitter) BS before you post? The OP need support, not harsh criticism. And also, could you post if you are quite blind to real consequences, emotionally distant, a nut job... etc etc... just post a resume up first before you post, please Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 4) Don't have one concern about the W. They are in the 60s and probably not romantically involved anymore. I highly doubt people suddenly stop having sex when they turn 60! clearly, MM hasn't! and who's to know how he keeps his woman at home happy? Link to post Share on other sites
GreenBamboo Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I highly doubt people suddenly stop having sex when they turn 60! clearly, MM hasn't! and who's to know how he keeps his woman at home happy? Sorry I can be sure the wife is not sexually happy by the husband, even if you give me one thousand reasons. Nothing more to say in this part. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 The OP need support, not harsh criticism. OP needs a wake up call... not pseudo 'support' of her ridiculous notion/willingness of waiting up to 50 years for an aging philanderer to change his mind, dump his wife, and go live with OP! Link to post Share on other sites
EarthGirl Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Sorry I can be sure the wife is not sexually happy by the husband, even if you give me one thousand reasons. Nothing more to say in this part. why? have you been peeping in on them in their bedroom? how could you possibly know? no offense but NC does seem a little delusional and I have a feeling that she is the kind of person that would say that they have a passionless marriage no matter WHAT the truth was, no matter how old they were, wether they were young crazy in love newly weds or older and settled in a comfortable happy marriage with a still hot sex life occasionally, wether they were billionaires, or working class people, they would still be JUST "business partners". She would also say the wife is much much MUCH less attractive than she is even if the wife was a supermodel. That is a fact. It is obvious from everything she has written. What the truth is about all of it...what connection there is or is not in their marriage, how attractive she is really...is not really important because we have absolutely no way or knowing one way or the other. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 To OP: 1) please don't ever contact the W anymore, or contact her not expecting any result - she won't show anything for your satisfaction, although she may be hurt too. She is probably laughing at the OP because she is showing how desperate she is. 2) You only need to talk to MM about your status. Have you ever thought why do you need that marriage, if not for money? The MM is not leaving his marriage for the OP. I am not sure how much clearer in his actions he can be. 3) It's the MM that choose to have an open marriage (not considering your feelings). You can choose to date other people too. If I were you, I'll keep seeing him (no sex), secure the money for children, and dating other younger/juicy men. The MM may have chosen to have an open marriage, but we don't know what his WIFE thinks about this. "Secure the money for the children" sounds like a gold digging. I truly believe the OP is going to have a hard time dating when she has 5 children... 3 of whom are very young. In addition, there aren't going to be many guys who want to get involved with a woman with 5 children. Maybe for some fun (sex) but not long term. I know this because I was a divorced single woman dating with ONE child and many men didn't want to come in and be daddy to my son. 4) Don't have one concern about the W. They are in the 60s and probably not romantically involved anymore. My parents are late 60's and having sex. They hold hands, they are very affectionate, they go skinny dipping in their pool, they go out for dates. Why do you assume because someone is in their 60's they aren't having sex or being romantic? See my response in bold. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 They are in the 60s and probably not romantically involved anymore Just you wait till you hit 60. See what happens.. Most people that age DO have sex, and alot of it! Sure it may not be monkey sex, hanging from the curtain rods, riding the washing machine, but older folks are still capable. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenBamboo Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 why? have you been peeping in on them in their bedroom? how could you possibly know? no offense but NC does seem a little delusional and I have a feeling that she is the kind of person that would say that they have a passionless marriage no matter WHAT the truth was, no matter how old they were, wether they were young crazy in love newly weds or older and settled in a comfortable happy marriage with a still hot sex life occasionally, wether they were billionaires, or working class people, they would still be JUST "business partners". She would also say the wife is much much MUCH less attractive than she is even if the wife was a supermodel. That is a fact. It is obvious from everything she has written. What the truth is about all of it...what connection there is or is not in their marriage, how attractive she is really...is not really important because we have absolutely no way or knowing one way or the other. 1) Wife: in her 60s (supermodel?) 2) OP: child-bearing prime chicken Who has more sexual power? Long term marriage seldom have passionate sex, especially in their 60s. Also wouldn't the W feel gross to have sex with the MM knowing he has an OW and has been a serial cheater? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Also wouldn't the W feel gross to have sex with the MM knowing he has an OW and has been a serial cheater? Obviously his wife is OK with it..They have an open marriage and I bet she has someone on the side too. Hey, my Aunt and Uncle had a very passionate sex life, the only reason why I know this is because they talked about it openly!! Sadly they died a year apart of eachother.. If my father were still alive today, I'm sure he and my mom would still be quite active as well. Don't assume just because someone is older that they are gross. One day YOU will be married and 60, let's hope you and your spouse find ways to keep the flame going.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 I have seen photos of his wife on internet...she is very attractive for her age...she isnt much older than my mother. I look like a younger version of her... The only thing I have to say about her that isnt positive is she isnt woman enough to seek out the truth and speak to me directly...instead she just complains to him... and she wont accept fact that her and I will forever be bonded through our children having same father...we should do what is best for our children and man we both (if she still loves him) love and allow him our support have full relationship with all his children together. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 1) Wife: in her 60s (supermodel?) 2) OP: child-bearing prime chicken Who has more sexual power? Long term marriage seldom have passionate sex, especially in their 60s. Also wouldn't the W feel gross to have sex with the MM knowing he has an OW and has been a serial cheater? Are you kidding? What have you been reading???? Why doesn't the OP feel gross having sex with him knowing he has sex with his wife? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 1) Wife: in her 60s (supermodel?) 2) OP: child-bearing prime chicken Who has more sexual power? Long term marriage seldom have passionate sex, especially in their 60s. Also wouldn't the W feel gross to have sex with the MM knowing he has an OW and has been a serial cheater? Your delusions about marriage tells a great deal about your age. Women over 40 can and often do have a more fulfilling sex life due to a number of reasons. Empty nest, less birth control worries and hormone therapy. I don't know many men who are looking for a, what was your term....a child bearing prime chicken, which speaks of true birth control irresponsibility to me. Unless you have been in a long term marriage, you wouldn't know whether the sex was passionate, freaky or non existent. Why should the wife feel gross for having sex with her husband. Why shouldn't (if this were real) OP feel more than a little gross having sex with a MM and continuing to have children with him trying to trap him in to marriage? It seems like the gross-o-meter can swing both ways...don't you think? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I have seen photos of his wife on internet...she is very attractive for her age...she isnt much older than my mother. I look like a younger version of her... The only thing I have to say about her that isnt positive is she isnt woman enough to seek out the truth and speak to me directly...instead she just complains to him... and she wont accept fact that her and I will forever be bonded through our children having same father...we should do what is best for our children and man we both (if she still loves him) love and allow him our support have full relationship with all his children together. :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:Woman enough:lmao::lmao::lmao:What do you know about being woman enough for anything? You call her house like a spoiled high school girl. While the only one you have to blame for your situation is the person you see in the mirror everyday. :eek:Damn! I got sucked in again. I should be watching boxing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 her husband comes to me...i didnt go looking for him... Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 :eek:Damn! I got sucked in again. I should be watching boxing. Ahha ha ha ha!!! You see.. she has the power and the drama to suck us all back in and I bet poor MM knows this better than any of us! Now go read those books of yours! Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I have seen photos of his wife on internet...she is very attractive for her age...she isnt much older than my mother. I look like a younger version of her... The only thing I have to say about her that isnt positive is she isnt woman enough to seek out the truth and speak to me directly...instead she just complains to him... and she wont accept fact that her and I will forever be bonded through our children having same father...we should do what is best for our children and man we both (if she still loves him) love and allow him our support have full relationship with all his children together. This is why so many think you are in need of therapy --- she doesn't have to acknowledge you, she doesn't have to befriend you, she doesn't have to talk to you. She is woman enough to NOT seek you out. She isn't involved with you. HER HUSBAND is. Who says she isn't supporting him in having a relationship with all his kids? Because she isn't opening HER HOME to all his illegitimate kids? She doesn't have to. She is turning her back while he takes the family money to continue to pay for nannies for you, which she doesn't have to. QUIT focusing ON HER. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 her husband comes to me...i didnt go looking for him... R-i-g-h-t... and yet you didn't say no, now did ya? Now you have a fine mess on your hands. Link to post Share on other sites
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