Telling Wife HAD NO EFFECT ON ANYTHING!!!

[SelenaK]

If you called the wife while you were in labor with MM child and she didn't care... just give it up.

 

It will take a stick of dynamite to blow up that marriage. The wife is not going anywhere. Make peace with it or get out.

[norajane]

Do you enjoy being a single parent to so many children? Why do you keep having more when their father isn't able to help you care for them each day? Don't you get tired?

[Chrome Barracuda]

LOL so what happens on major holidays???

 

Christmas, thanksgiving, eTC? I mean what happens when the kids want to know where they're father is??? Oh he's with his married wife, c'mon!

 

You are cursing these babies you are having all to facilitate your fantasy!!!!

 

WAKE up!

 

I swear you are only hurting yourself in the long run and those kids are gonna hate you for it. deep down they will resent you. and look at you like an idiot who wasted their time, getting nothing more than a sperm donantion and a bank account than a real flesh and blood father!

[Devil Inside]

Um...I guess I am a little confused NC2.

 

Are you posting just to show that some situations are different...or are you hoping for more.

 

I agree with Selena...he has no motivation to leave his wife...since neither she nor you are asking for that.

 

So if you are ok with what you got...ok.

[nocontact2]

I tried to go no contact with him at one time when I thought I needed him all to myself... but quickly realized it isnt about all or nothing...thats why the name.

 

I am at total comfort with him still being married. As long as she knows he and I have a family/life together and she stays with him too then I have no guilt for being the other woman.

 

She is now too making a choice to stay in a marriage she knows is not all her own and that he has another life with other children...

 

No one knows what will happen in a year, 5 , 10, 20 years...one of them may finally decide the reasons behind staying in this business marriage no longer exist or are worth it?

 

So, when he is ready, our family is here I would marry him any day no matter how old either of us get....

[Devil Inside]

I tried to go no contact with him at one time when I thought I needed him all to myself... but quickly realized it isnt about all or nothing...thats why the name.

 

I am at total comfort with him still being married. As long as she knows he and I have a family/life together and she stays with him too then I have no guilt for being the other woman.

 

She is now too making a choice to stay in a marriage she knows is not all her own and that he has another life with other children...

 

No one knows what will happen in a year, 5 , 10, 20 years...one of them may finally decide the reasons behind staying in this business marriage no longer exist or are worth it?

So, when he is ready, our family is here I would marry him any day no matter how old either of us get....

 

Aren't you worried that one of these years he will bail on you?

[nocontact2]

oh no, i have 2 nannies during the days and 1 nanny overnight at all times. all the children are well provide for, they also make very good money for themselves.

 

im tired pregnancy wise, but when I need a nap, i find time to take one.

 

Holidays, we work around and share days in half or this holiday they may be spending part of day with their older half siblings and then home...

[nocontact2]

I never worry about him bailing on us. He has always taken care of us and loves our time together alone and his time together with our children and our time together as an entire family...

 

He still is in disbelief that I havent left him as men approach me when we are out together, and he is substantially older than me in years.

 

I love him, he is my perfect match mentally, physically, intimately...we compliment each other in ways neither of us have ever known before.

[movingforward]

Exactly what was the purpose of your post????

 

You are BLISSFULLY happy, he is the PERFECT man, you GLOW when you're together.... blah blah blah.

 

Honestly, if you are going to live in your fantasy world, then don't reach out to the hard reality of a message board like this. Try going to the "I'm in denial of how ****ty my situation is so I'm just going to pretend that everything is perfect" board. I'm sure you'll get lots of support from other clueless women in hopeless situations such as yourself.

 

You have set up your life to SETTLE. If that's what you want, then more power to you... keep having lots of illegitimate children for each year you're together just to stick it to his wife. I'm sure your kids will never end up resenting him or you for your choices.

 

You're second best, sweetheart. THAT's your reality.

[Dexter Morgan]

His wife's outlook is "she is your issue I dont want anything to do with it." How is that for a response????? I had expected her to at least be a little mad, jealous, dont contact my husband, something....but nadda....she doesnt care.

 

well that is odd...looks like she is staying with the pr!ck for the wrong reasons.

 

but something tells me it eats at you that she doesn't seem as upset as you'd possibly like.

 

seeing as how his family, and his children know, if I were his wife, I'd want out of that lunatic family. And as far as the basic betrayal from her husband, looks as if she is betrayed by her children too.

 

 

 

Our children are getting older, albeit still newborns and toddlers, but to a place they are wanting daddy now. Where his oldest have all left the nest.

 

ok, so he isn't divorced or getting one why???

 

 

 

I am so in love with this man that I dont even find other men attractive, even though they still ask me out.

 

well, its said that cheating pr!cks and players get the women. I need to rethink my strategy. Being honorable doesn't seem to be the way to go.

 

 

 

Yes, it is lonely not having him home every night...but I have faith that day will come. It is increasingly more and more difficult for him to be away from our home and family.

 

and when he starts cheating on you?

[Dexter Morgan]

I called my MM'S W when I was in labor with our next child.

 

and the purpose of the call? to rub the affair in her face? to gloat? what?

 

and while you were in labor? Is it me...or is there something very petty going on here? Why would you call her while in labor? To tell her this and to get her goat? Seems that you didn't get the reaction that I am guessing you were hoping for.

[Devil Inside]

This almost seems like polygamy...ever see Big Love?

[Dexter Morgan]

i was in labor when i called, i dont think i pre-planned it...was very polite and apologetic when i called...i just wanted to make sure she knew truth as he told me he had already told her of us..

 

ah....well, bulls##t lady. You didn't call JUST to make sure she knew the truth. You didn't get the response out of her that you expected. You wanted to start some sh#t, plain and simple.

 

polite, LMFAO....a catty call to make sure a BW knew the product of your sex with her husband is on its way. If your pr!ck MM told you he told his wife, that should have been good enough for you.

 

but no, you wanted to rub it in her face.

[Dexter Morgan]

I am at total comfort with him still being married. As long as she knows he and I have a family/life together and she stays with him too then I have no guilt for being the other woman.

 

She is now too making a choice to stay in a marriage she knows is not all her own and that he has another life with other children

 

 

If she doesn't care to get out and find a decent man, then maybe she is smart. She could probably be cheating on him after finding out what a louse he is, and she is having the time of her life.

 

All the while as more years go by, thats all the more money and marital assets she will get in the even they do divorce. More of his retirement, investments, assets.....and the more years go by the more she will get and the less that you would have gotten if you married the pr!ck.

 

So if she doesn't care, she is just getting her claws in deeper to the assets. She is gonna be goin' cha-ching!!!!

[herenow]

 

You're second best, sweetheart. THAT's your reality.

 

Or her own reality show!

[PhoenixRise]

If I am not mistaken you have posted this story here before.

 

Aren't you the one who posted that MM TOLD you he did NOT love your children as much as he loves his children with his wife??

 

Weren't you the one raging all over the boards here that he didn't deserve to have your children in his life?

 

But now it is all good and you are a family?

 

Now you say you are OK with the fact that the wife is not going anywhere and that MM is not leaving and you will wait for the next 50 years if need be.... But you called the wife to get a reaction. You hoped she would either leave or kick him out.

 

If you are content to be the OW forever then fine. That is your choice.

Just know that there is no reason for him to divorce his wife. She does not care about your existence. She is not giving him grief about the affair. All she really needs to do to get rid of you is outlive him. Then where will you and your children be?

 

Are you and your children at least provided for in his will?

[nocontact2]

i was in labor, i needed to know for myself he told me truth.

 

if he and i married, and he had physical relationship with another woman its fine with me as long as im included...and its just sex no intimacy.

 

he has weakness for other women, variety, im not trying to deny what is in his nature nor what is really physiologically normal for men to pursue many women on a physical level.

 

basic human instinct is to procreate survival of the species, its not abnormal desire.

[Chrome Barracuda]

If I am not mistaken you have posted this story here before.

 

Aren't you the one who posted that MM TOLD you he did NOT love your children as much as he loves his children with his wife??

 

Weren't you the one raging all over the boards here that he didn't deserve to have your children in his life?

 

But now it is all good and you are a family?

 

Now you say you are OK with the fact that the wife is not going anywhere and that MM is not leaving and you will wait for the next 50 years if need be.... But you called the wife to get a reaction. You hoped she would either leave or kick him out.

 

If you are content to be the OW forever then fine. That is your choice.

Just know that there is no reason for him to divorce his wife. She does not care about your existence. She is not giving him grief about the affair. All she really needs to do to get rid of you is outlive him. Then where will you and your children be?

 

Are you and your children at least provided for in his will?

 

 

Will???

 

Are you serious!?? there are so many things wrong with that statement. being they are not kids borne within the marriage, plus they are not even like even thought about! these kids are nothing more than a laughingstock to a family who really doesnt care. it's like outta sight outta mind.

[nocontact2]

yes, we are provided for from his estate...in case anything happens to him.

 

he made sure of it. hes never shrugged his responsibility as a provider.

[herenow]

i was in labor, i needed to know for myself he told me truth.

 

if he and i married, and he had physical relationship with another woman its fine with me as long as im included...and its just sex no intimacy.

 

he has weakness for other women, variety, im not trying to deny what is in his nature nor what is really physiologically normal for men to pursue many women on a physical level.

 

basic human instinct is to procreate survival of the species, its not abnormal desire.

 

Wow, how amazing that while in labor, you were thinking about MM's wife and you called her. Having been in labor a couple of times, I can honestly say I had more pressing things to do at that time. Seriously, you should teach child birth classes.

[movingforward]

I'm actually starting to not think this is on the level. Can there really be someone this clueless?

 

Are you from another country? Seriously... the way you put your sentences together makes it seem like English is your second language. Europe maybe?

 

If you are going to post here, at least be honest. Your actions (calling the wife during labor, wanting more from him now that your kids are getting older) indicate that you aren't okay with the situation. It does NOT sound like you're okay waiting around for the next 50 years for this guy.

 

At least be honest.

[herenow]

yes, we are provided for from his estate...in case anything happens to him.

 

he made sure of it. hes never shrugged his responsibility as a provider.

 

Do be so sure his wife won't care if that should happen. She may not care about you now, but she may have some say when you try to take what is rightfully hers. Remember, she is his legal wife, you are just...

 

The courts will determine child support, but the wife will have more say than you for sure. "We" as in "you" are probably not part of the BW's life plan.

 

and if your kids make so much money "acting", you may not even get child support.

[PhoenixRise]

Will???

 

Are you serious!?? there are so many things wrong with that statement. being they are not kids borne within the marriage, plus they are not even like even thought about! these kids are nothing more than a laughingstock to a family who really doesnt care. it's like outta sight outta mind.

 

Since MM told her he doesn't love the children he and OW share as much as he loves his children with his wife I agree with much of your assesment.

 

However, no matter how he feels about the children with OW they are still his kids. I think they should be provided for.

[movingforward]

You're only in the will if you've SEEN it in the documents. Not just what he tells you.

[PhoenixRise]

Wow, how amazing that while in labor, you were thinking about MM's wife and you called her. Having been in labor a couple of times, I can honestly say I had more pressing things to do at that time. Seriously, you should teach child birth classes.

 

 

Who thinks to call a BS in the middle of labor to stir up trouble in the marriage? I know when I was in labor I couldn't think about anything else. I certainly couldn't have been planning to blow up someone's marriage.

 

Clearly this OP is a multi-tasker.