Trialbyfire Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Okay, nocontact, just be happy then, popping out babies and loving half a man. The wife is happy, the MM is happy and you're happy. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 I wonder what OP would say to having one or all of her children someday living this kind of life? What would her advice be to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 sorry it should have read "wasn't" in ...pain for hours Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 I do not think the wife is happy...I think she tolerates it. I do not think she has been happy for a long time, as she knows im not his 1st OW, just longest and only one with kids by him. Since I have all sons...I would probably advise them to leave a marriage if they want someone else. Living a double life has to be exhausting... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 to clear up a few things...my labor for our children were all c-sections, so when i called it was very early in labor...i was in hours of excruciating pain, panting, sweating, etc.As an FYI, for any future threads, this makes no sense. After one c-section, the vast majority of doctors will automatically schedule you for a c-section for any other births, which means, no labour... You need to tighten your story a bit. Facts help. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Okay, nocontact, just be happy then, popping out babies and loving half a man. The wife is happy, the MM is happy and you're happy. I agree with you about the adults. They all know what is going on and they all agree to stay with the current situation. However, I think the MM and the OP have to be two of the most selfish adults I have seen on this board. It's the babies that they are popping out without a care that disgusts me. They should start a fund for those kids therapists right now. They will probably spend most of their adults lives trying to figure out why their parents are such (can't say what I thinking here because I don't want to get an infraction) Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 i was in labor, i needed to know for myself he told me truth. you should just assume a cheating pr!ck is a liar. he's a cheater....what difference does it make if he is truthful? he is still a pr!ck. if he and i married, and he had physical relationship with another woman its fine with me as long as im included wow, the power this man has over the weak. I need to have a beer with this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 yes, we are provided for from his estate...in case anything happens to him. don't count on it. If something happens to him while he is still married...the wife can contest it and more than likely WILL win. Only difference is with regards to his "next of kin", which his kids are......but not you. So the children will be taken care of, but if there are any provisions in the "estate", will, what have you that give YOU concessions...if the wife contests it, you more than likely won't see a dime. And this is what I think this is all really about. Money. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 [quote=Dexter Morgan;2402022 wow, the power this man has over the weak. I need to have a beer with this guy. I know. Maybe he is a vampire and he is glamoring these women to do whatever he wants. Now that True Blood is over for this season, I can't wait to see your show on Sunday. Killer dad Dexter! Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 don't count on it. If something happens to him while he is still married...the wife can contest it and more than likely WILL win. Only difference is with regards to his "next of kin", which his kids are......but not you. So the children will be taken care of, but if there are any provisions in the "estate", will, what have you that give YOU concessions...if the wife contests it, you more than likely won't see a dime. And this is what I think this is all really about. Money. Remember that case where the wife sued the OW for all the cash that MM spent during the affair. BW won and the OW had to pay the BW back for everything MM spent on her. This was after MM had died. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 to clarify more for those who think i dont know my facts about c-sections...yes, they do schedule them usually 2 weeks before your due date...however, when you go into labor 6 weeks early they make a decision to deliver you, as with my last child, they couldnt stop the labor as they found out after deliver I was passing kidney stones, and the pain was sending me into labor. So, my facts are totally clear, I've had several children and c-sections I know how it all works Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 All monies put in my account are classified as child support so I am not worried about being sued for anything. I have an attorney on retainer, better than his, that he pays for, to make sure our children are always taken care of from private school through college... Im not worried about money... Im not worried about wife if something happens to him, if she did contest it you would all know who we are because it would be biggest public people magazine cover around...and she doesnt want any tarnishment on her ficticious perfect marriage to her high society friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 I get my hands dirty everyday, change diapers, handle teething, spit up, run errands, pay all bills, basically run the entire house. Yes, he financially provides for the support of the home, but I do the work. but you don't go TO work...in other words, I don't get the feeling you have a job. so yup, this is about money. he is a sugar daddy. Of course you'd want to marry him. More entitlement to retirements and insurance in the case of his death. But, I wouldnt trade him for some random goddlooking 25 year old to warm my bed at night that is just another child for me to raise.... especially if that random good looking 25 year old who is single, and not cheating on a wife, didn't have as much money as sugardaddy:o I dont need another man to raise and there are entirely too many men out there that want just that... uh, but you are using this man to raise YOU. You are in this to have your financial needs taken care of. I think that is crystal clear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 sorry dexter I think several woman would disagree with you that raising 5 children, one that has to be catherized every 3-4 hours, is work. Being a stay at home mom, pregnant, even with extra help is still a full time job. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Im not worried about wife if something happens to him, if she did contest it you would all know who we are because it would be biggest public people magazine cover around...and she doesnt want any tarnishment on her ficticious perfect marriage to her high society friends. Do you happen to be writing a book? So, if something should happen to your MM, would you have his memorial at the Staples Center? Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 All monies put in my account are classified as child support so I am not worried about being sued for anything. I have an attorney on retainer, better than his, that he pays for, to make sure our children are always taken care of from private school through college... I already said that the children's support isn't in question. The only part that you don't have a legal claim to, no matter what his will might say, is money that is set aside for YOU as long as his wife is still married to him at the time of his death. Im not worried about money... why would you be? he is footing your bills. you are having sex with this man, and he is giving you money and paying your bills. I think there is a definition in there somewhere:rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 Its not about money why I stay with him...I get support regardless if I am with him or not for our children. As would ANY SINGLE MOTHER!!!! I love him, and I dont want another man...I have men younger than me that would love me to leave him and let them be in the delivery room, be daddy, be here all the time... I dont have feelings for them and I dont feel it is right to lead them on thinking that there are feelings.... Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 sorry dexter I think several woman would disagree with you that raising 5 children, one that has to be catherized every 3-4 hours, is work. never said it was. but I think having kids is your career. You have children with this man so you don't have to work. Or more to the point, provide for yourself. Being a stay at home mom, pregnant, even with extra help is still a full time job. yup, seems that having babies with this man IS your job. the more you have, the more you get, and all the more that your rent is paid:o Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 you are having sex with this man, and he is giving you money and paying your bills. I think there is a definition in there somewhere:rolleyes: Oh Dexter, you are a bad boy today. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Oh Dexter, you are a bad boy today. : ) lets get back to the title of the thread...I dont think she is fooling anyone. She was in labor, and wanted to call the wife and rub her nose in it. How petty does one have to be to do that when in labor? You think she'd have waited til after it was over and she was rested. I can see it now, she wanted to call when she was IN labor so she could say to the wife..."I'm having his baby RIGHT NOW!!!! Whaddya think of that beyotch????" Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 he can have a vasectomy whenever he wants... my 1st two children are not his...i was married for nearly a decade, faithful and divorced before meeting my MM. I love children...it has nothing to do with it being a career. I am college educated and have my education to fall back on for my own personal support. But yes, as a father's responsibiltiy they should and will pay child support. And let me tell you money is NOT a father...my nanny is more of a husband than he is and he knows that...trust me I dont let him think he is perfect nor the situation... in regards to the children right now. But as far as our personal relationship and his wife knowing, I have zero guilt being OW. ANY BS that stays with a man knowing he has another life/family with OW is on her. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 : ) lets get back to the title of the thread...I dont think she is fooling anyone. She was in labor, and wanted to call the wife and rub her nose in it. How petty does one have to be to do that when in labor? You think she'd have waited til after it was over and she was rested. I can see it now, she wanted to call when she was IN labor so she could say to the wife..."I'm having his baby RIGHT NOW!!!! Whaddya think of that beyotch????" I think she did call the wife while in labor! Hey NC, what exactly did you say to her? Link to post Share on other sites
CarbonCopy Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 Is your profession now to pop out children? Two older children, two children with MM and another on the way. Are you trying to compete with the Duggar family? Sorry, don't want to be mean, but this whole situation is just sad. My concern is for the children and what example they're being shown. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted September 24, 2009 Share Posted September 24, 2009 he can have a vasectomy whenever he wants... my 1st two children are not his...i was married for nearly a decade, faithful and divorced before meeting my MM. I love children...it has nothing to do with it being a career. I am college educated and have my education to fall back on for my own personal support. But yes, as a father's responsibiltiy they should and will pay child support. And let me tell you money is NOT a father...my nanny is more of a husband than he is and he knows that...trust me I dont let him think he is perfect nor the situation... in regards to the children right now. But as far as our personal relationship and his wife knowing, I have zero guilt being OW. ANY BS that stays with a man knowing he has another life/family with OW is on her. Well, for some reason he stays with her. Why is that? Don't tell me he is so high profile that he needs to stay married . Many high profile couples get divorced so he would just be one of the gang. No big deal in the real world honey. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nocontact2 Posted September 24, 2009 Author Share Posted September 24, 2009 Basically, was very polite, apologetic, that I was sorry that I didnt know he was married when we were together 1st year and had 1st child, after that I was already in love with him. But I had doubts that he was being honest with me that he had told her and I felt she had right to know...I didnt want him playing us against each other. If she had any questions for me I would answer them at any time and gave her my phone number. thats basically it...I probably would have had more to say, but I was in labor and my hormone were going crazy... Link to post Share on other sites
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