apostasy71 Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 Hmm, okay. The reason I asked is because I think the OP may be in your girlfriend's position. Generally men have reasons why they don't want to marry their girlfriends. I think he may be having some kind of issue that she needs to get to the bottom of. She needs to talk to him to uncover whatever it is. My advice to you though apostasy would be similar: you need to talk to your girlfriend as well. It's not fair to make excuses and string her along. Imagine how you would feel if she was doing that to you... You're right. That's a good point. I was actually just coming to that conclusion today. I have to get up the courage to talk to her about these things, but some of it might be hard for her to hear (that I don't feel a very strong connection emotionally and phsycially to her) and I think I've been trying to spare her that. And once I say these things, I have to decide quickly if I want to end things or not and then move on that decision. Thanks for the advice. (Sorry to take over the thread w/my problem...) Link to post Share on other sites
PinkToes Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 I really hate to say this.. I think it comes down to the why buy the cow when the milk is given for free in this situation. You live with him.. you share a life, have sex and are raising a child together and yet he didn't have to marry you to do all that ?.. What would he gain by marrying you now? I totally agree. I know every situation is different and when you're in love, you want to trust in your partner's promises. But I will never understand why a woman who really wants to get married would settle for less and just hope the situation changes! Link to post Share on other sites
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