indie22 Posted September 26, 2009 Share Posted September 26, 2009 I am very pretty, intelligent, in school, still a virgin, I do not have to worry about working at the moment though I am looking for a job (lol, ok a little irrelevant), but I am the only person in the world who thinks that a pretty good girl should never be alone? Let me tell you about my social life, I can not get a guy to take me out to save my life, I would have to basically beg them to take me out, and thats the guys that are IN SCHOOL. For example, this "nice" guy that I was dating would not come to my house so we could go out. My parents said that if he really wanted me he would come and he didnt. He had the audacity to tell me to call him when he saw me at the beginning of the semester... The guys on the street (ie, not in school, just working)take me out but I know I can not be with them because they have an unbearable amount of issues. The reason this bothers me so much is because when I was in middle school and highschool, I was teased A LOT and my parents swore to me that things would different once I got to college... But its not. Still the "prettiest" (not exactly, but they are always the girls that are made up the most) chick get the dudes that I really like and when I try to hint to them that I like them, they dont really make a move. The nice guys dont say a word to me and guys treat me oddly... I can say the only thing thats "wrong" with me is that Im quiet, shy and tend to stay away from really crowded parts of the campus (cafeteria, etc.) I just dont like being there much... Am I the only one that thinks this way, doesnt it make since that I shouldnt have to been at home with my parents on a friday night? Link to post Share on other sites
Brady_to_Moss Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I feel the same way..but from a guys point of view...you just have to stay positive! Link to post Share on other sites
nicky89 Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 indie it will be ok, just hold on. eventually, Good always wins. you would be feeling much better if you could just see what wonderful feelings you are going to feel. just hold on Link to post Share on other sites
Author indie22 Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 Thanks you guys... Link to post Share on other sites
amagordos Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Indie i can relate to you. I am also very shy and never go out, but i don't think its sad that you stay home with your parents. In a way, you get to enjoy them more and learn somethings about them. I think we go through phases in life. Right now you are in a rut, but later you will be having a blast. Make the best of what you got. Also, maybe the guys you go for arent the right ones if they like girly girls. Look for guys who like shy girls like you. Link to post Share on other sites
MrFun Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I am very pretty, intelligent, in school...Im quiet, shy and tend to stay away from really crowded parts of the campus There you have it. Prettiness only gets you in the door, if at all. Take the opportunity and get rid of the shyness and you'll be fighting off guys left and right!!! Don't break too many hearts though, it'll all come back to you Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I am very pretty, intelligent, in school, still a virgin, I do not have to worry about working at the moment though I am looking for a job (lol, ok a little irrelevant), but I am the only person in the world who thinks that a pretty good girl should never be alone? Let me tell you about my social life, I can not get a guy to take me out to save my life, I would have to basically beg them to take me out, and thats the guys that are IN SCHOOL. For example, this "nice" guy that I was dating would not come to my house so we could go out. My parents said that if he really wanted me he would come and he didnt. He had the audacity to tell me to call him when he saw me at the beginning of the semester... The guys on the street (ie, not in school, just working)take me out but I know I can not be with them because they have an unbearable amount of issues. The reason this bothers me so much is because when I was in middle school and highschool, I was teased A LOT and my parents swore to me that things would different once I got to college... But its not. Still the "prettiest" (not exactly, but they are always the girls that are made up the most) chick get the dudes that I really like and when I try to hint to them that I like them, they dont really make a move. The nice guys dont say a word to me and guys treat me oddly... I can say the only thing thats "wrong" with me is that Im quiet, shy and tend to stay away from really crowded parts of the campus (cafeteria, etc.) I just dont like being there much... Am I the only one that thinks this way, doesnt it make since that I shouldnt have to been at home with my parents on a friday night? IMHO..you sound like a very nice girl. and you should NOT forego YOUR morals and ethics because some lazy creep is too 'cool' to meet your parents when picking you up for a date. i am 44 years old. so i am very old school, even tho some my age are not so old fashioned, they think it is OK to call a man/guy...i don't..not unless you are already exclusively dating that one man. i think you are absolutely right in your feelings and you should NOT change for anyone. it has been my experience, when you stop looking and just live your life and go about your day, being YOU,...THAT is when that special someone pops up and well...then you take it from there... maybe you are just trying to hard right now, not a bad thing..no one wants to be alone on a friday or saturday night:o maybe think of some place you can go, that YOU Like to be and are comfortable. Art exhibits, movies, yes it is perfectly acceptable for a woman to go to a movie alone and also shows confidence and that you dont' NEED a man to entertain you or make you happy, also you could pick a fabulous fancy restaurant and where your best LBD and sleek pumps...and treat yourself to a wonderful evening at a great restaraunt ( you can bring a book) but i would keep myself open and eyes up for conversation...you never know who might walk by;) people will approach you more if you seem comfortable with yourself, and confident in your convictions.... bottom line, don't settle for anything less than what you think you deserve. take care and good luck;) keep us posted.. Link to post Share on other sites
Zoff Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 Prettiness + shyness is often misinterpreted as arrogance. Which makes a pretty girl even harder to approach. I don't think that a pretty girl should necessarily always have a boyfriend, although this is usually the case. A lot of people get hung up on having relationships for the sake of not being single and end up basing their entire self worth on their relationships. First and foremost, be happy and comfortable being single and if the right person comes along then of relationships can be great. Relationships for their own sake are rubbish. Link to post Share on other sites
Author indie22 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Share Posted October 21, 2009 There you have it. Prettiness only gets you in the door, if at all. Take the opportunity and get rid of the shyness and you'll be fighting off guys left and right!!! Don't break too many hearts though, it'll all come back to you Yea-yea what ever you say Mr"fun":rolleyes:. How is it that guys only like outgoing chicks?! Thats to general... Link to post Share on other sites
Author indie22 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Share Posted October 21, 2009 IMHO..you sound like a very nice girl. and you should NOT forego YOUR morals and ethics because some lazy creep is too 'cool' to meet your parents when picking you up for a date. i am 44 years old. so i am very old school, even tho some my age are not so old fashioned, they think it is OK to call a man/guy...i don't..not unless you are already exclusively dating that one man. i think you are absolutely right in your feelings and you should NOT change for anyone. it has been my experience, when you stop looking and just live your life and go about your day, being YOU,...THAT is when that special someone pops up and well...then you take it from there... maybe you are just trying to hard right now, not a bad thing..no one wants to be alone on a friday or saturday night:o maybe think of some place you can go, that YOU Like to be and are comfortable. Art exhibits, movies, yes it is perfectly acceptable for a woman to go to a movie alone and also shows confidence and that you dont' NEED a man to entertain you or make you happy, also you could pick a fabulous fancy restaurant and where your best LBD and sleek pumps...and treat yourself to a wonderful evening at a great restaraunt ( you can bring a book) but i would keep myself open and eyes up for conversation...you never know who might walk by;) people will approach you more if you seem comfortable with yourself, and confident in your convictions.... bottom line, don't settle for anything less than what you think you deserve. take care and good luck;) keep us posted.. Thank you so much. I am actually looking for a job so I am able to spoil myself... Prettiness + shyness is often misinterpreted as arrogance. Which makes a pretty girl even harder to approach. I don't think that a pretty girl should necessarily always have a boyfriend, although this is usually the case. A lot of people get hung up on having relationships for the sake of not being single and end up basing their entire self worth on their relationships. First and foremost, be happy and comfortable being single and if the right person comes along then of relationships can be great. Relationships for their own sake are rubbish. I know and Ive heard this so many times, mostly from people have experienced heartache, long term relationship, etc...I try to remind myself of this but its just that I have never been in a real relationship...so its harder to appreciate being alone. Link to post Share on other sites
lemeng Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 i think shy only lasts a few minutes anyway once you meet some one and you start talking you are no longer shy my advice is this join a certain club or a group of people that have common interests with this you will met guys and spend some time outside with does people be more social it helps worse case scenario look for someone over the internet and don't kill me for suggesting it Link to post Share on other sites
MrFun Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 Yea-yea what ever you say Mr"fun":rolleyes:. How is it that guys only like outgoing chicks?! Thats to general... Because they add to social interactions. If you stand by the sidelines and never add anything then you never get anything. Ya need to give to receive. Send out and a smile to get one back So I reckon, if you're as pretty as you sound, all you need is to bring that prettiness out more. Guys cannot read your mind And no, you do not have to be a bimbo "oh like really is that beer?" type of sheila. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 The guys on the street (ie, not in school, just working)take me out but I know I can not be with them because they have an unbearable amount of issues. Umm... what? Link to post Share on other sites
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