samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Your SO during your relationship or marriage was exchanging emails or ims with deep written materials in it and actually tells the person they will meet them finally to screw them, that they're single or any other invention. However your SO only does it to make fun of the other person (within themselves they are like ''Boy he/she is an idiot, can't you see I'm only playing with you, I'm in my relationship/marriage). They never wanted to meet them, instead while the person gave them the real address your SO made a fake address as well as fake number (even give them false name if possible). Basically your SO led them with false expectation to tease them....feels absolutely no emotional bond nor feelings for them, they just a complete joke about it... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 How did you find out about this? How do you know that your SO gave a fake address and number? I would wonder very strongly whether my SO had made up the story as a cover, and was vigorously backpedalling, making up bull***** along the way. Why would someone do that, just to make fun of another person? Depending on whether I believed my SO, I'd have to wonder about one of two very uncomfortable truths: either (1) just how stupid my SO thinks I am that I would believe such a story when he/she was out trying to get laid, or (2) just how creepily weird my SO is, to engage in that kind of behavior, which LOOKS, SMELLS, and WALKS like looking to go out and get laid, just to have a laugh at someone elses expense. Who cares if it meets some "yes/no" definition of "cheating" or not? Either way, I'd have some pretty bad feelings about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 How did you find out about this? How do you know that your SO gave a fake address and number?No this isn't about my SO. This was only a general question. I was asking if hypothetically speaking that was true and not a cover-up story, your SO enjoying lying to those people and keep leading them on, make them them think they will come by to get laid and/or do some other things (making it sound close to the so call ''emotional affair'' and saying good things to them) when they are really joking with the person the whole time. Then proceeding to next person, using him/her as entertainment prank. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 It may not be cheating but whatever label you want to put on it, it's just plain stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Your SO during your relationship or marriage was exchanging emails or ims with deep written materials in it and actually tells the person they will meet them finally to screw them, that they're single or any other invention. However your SO only does it to make fun of the other person (within themselves they are like ''Boy he/she is an idiot, can't you see I'm only playing with you, I'm in my relationship/marriage). They never wanted to meet them, instead while the person gave them the real address your SO made a fake address as well as fake number (even give them false name if possible). Basically your SO led them with false expectation to tease them....feels absolutely no emotional bond nor feelings for them, they just a complete joke about it... Prob not cheating if they let you in on the joke as well if it was done in retaliation for some mistreatment thats about the only way there not going to look like a total wanker. Kinda like me and my current partner have teased a girl who was quite cruel to him in this way but she was a total shallow jerk who used him and deserves every min of it trust me! Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 If the SO was doing to someone they knew, had a grudge against them, and this was a way to be rotten to them, then I wouldn't consider it cheating (although I would question the cruelty). If it were some random person they didn't know, then yes I would have a huge problem with it because I would sense they were doing it for either some weird sexual gratification, a major ego trip or actually intended to hookup and just made that BS up to cover their tracks. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 No this isn't about my SO. This was only a general question. I was asking if hypothetically speaking that was true and not a cover-up story... So this is a completely fabricated scenario? This is my problem and not yours, but I feel like discussing fabricated "what if" scenarios is a waste of my time... If it didn't happen, why waste the energy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 So this is a completely fabricated scenario? This is my problem and not yours, but I feel like discussing fabricated "what if" scenarios is a waste of my time... If it didn't happen, why waste the energy?Then don't read it nor reply jeeezzzz. It's not like someone put a gun on you or force you to read it. I was only wondering. I have done something similar to this. Only difference is I didn't invent my name but other than that, the guy thinks I will come visit him when it's really a joke. Don't like what I write, see if you like if I criticize one of your post....... Go somewhere else if you think it's boring.... Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Then don't read it nor reply jeeezzzz. It's not like someone put a gun on you or force you to read it. I was only wondering. I have done something similar to this. Only difference is I didn't invent my name but other than that, the guy thinks I will come visit him when it's really a joke. Don't like what I write, see if you like if I criticize one of your post....... Go somewhere else if you think it's boring.... Your points are well taken - I admit I'm in a pissy mood; I did say it was my problem and not yours. However, when you admit this was about you, it just became much more interesting than some hypothetical "what if one person said to another person..." Why not just admit that it was you in the first place - this board is already anonymous. So I'm interested - did you do this while you were in a relationship with someone? And were you found out? Did your explanation work, or did he think you were cheating on him? And then, what is it you find funny about leading someone to believe you would meet up with him? I don't even find it particularly "crual." per se, as lots of people get stood up all the time - probably comes with the territory, especially with internet hookups. What I find interesting - and twisted - is the pleasure you take at the "joke." See, it got lots more interesting once it became about a person of whom we could actually ask questions... Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 You know what I think? I think it is possibly one of the most juvenile and cruel things that a person can do to another human being. There was a woman in my small hometown who had never had a satisfactory relationship with another man as an adult. She was a bit large (like a really good softball player, muscular and sort of square) and a bit brash and boyish, but a sweet heart and a loving personality. And a few of the guys that we all hung out with got together and would get drunk and made up some fake guy, and used to send her emails and tell her how much he loved her, and talk about how they were meant to be together. She got completely hung up on this imaginary guy and used to stay at home, just to be by the computer in case he emailed. Long story short, one of the guys felt guilty, and eventually confessed. She was humiliated by the fact that she had been the butt of so much cruelty, by the fact that she had told so many intimate secrets that were now public jokes, and by the fact that she had been so needy. She quit her job, asked her parents for some money, travelled abroad for a few months, and settled in DC with a new job. I haven't seen her in years. Toying with someone's emotions is classless, cruel, and shows a level of immaturity and psychological deadness of the soul. What exactly do YOU get out of this? I can't even imagine the perversity that must complete your psyche. Link to post Share on other sites
loveslife Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Toying with someone's emotions is classless, cruel, and shows a level of immaturity and psychological deadness of the soul. What exactly do YOU get out of this? I can't even imagine the perversity that must complete your psyche. I agree. Just because it's a person on the Internet doesn't mean they don't have feelings and aren't actually a real person. So, yeah, what exactly do you get out of this? Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 I agree. Just because it's a person on the Internet doesn't mean they don't have feelings and aren't actually a real person. So, yeah, what exactly do you get out of this? Exactly! I think that's what some people do when they have too much time on their hands. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 However, when you admit this was about you, it just became much more interesting than some hypothetical "what if one person said to another person..." Why not just admit that it was you in the first place - this board is already anonymous.Though it was somewhat figured out by then. So I'm interested - did you do this while you were in a relationship with someone?Yup esp. now that I'm in a long distance relationship. I like flirting with men online when I have a chance and kinda lead them on. One man that I chatted with only few days ago even thinks I'll actually travel all the way to meet him in the US. I told him yes that I'll sure get the boarding pass LOL. Then with few other online guys, it was the writing expressing few sexual fantasies. But it's not like I felt something for them, I just used them for online attention/entertainment. And were you found out?Nope, got many different accounts with varying passwords. He only knows 3 accounts I gave him. I got like more than 30 diff ones. Did your explanation work, or did he think you were cheating on him?He's plain clueless about it. And then, what is it you find funny about leading someone to believe you would meet up with him?Becasue it simply it's funny. They all like you and while you're making them either think you'll actually travel there to meet them or carry the conversation further, it's a joke the whole time. For example: Guy 1: You're sexy in your pic... I'm from.... and blah, blabh.. (he starts talking more and you see a pic of him) Me: Yes would love to meet you... not much bored here... about to break up... or yes got a boyfriend but it's ok I can still meet up with ya.... Him: I would love to eat you.. have sex with you (and the conversation can keep preceeding in a sexual/flirtious manner) Me: Oh yea (follows up the conversation) while.. laughing the whole time how this idiot is even thinking I'm serious and goes on to next man Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 I agree. Just because it's a person on the Internet doesn't mean they don't have feelings and aren't actually a real person. So, yeah, what exactly do you get out of this?Never thought of that. I usually think that they'll just forget about it esp. men. It makes sense, if it's a man, he won't even get emotional online and will forget it fast. I even talked not so good about my boyfriend or that I can cheat if I want to (not true but just out of prank) etc. But they don't know I was joking with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 It's not only cheating, it's also really cruel. Link to post Share on other sites
loveslife Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Wow. You sound like you have really low self esteem. How can you not think about the guys at the opposite ends having feelings and emotions and you are completely toying with them? I don't get that at all. Sorry but you should maybe go see a counselor or something, find other ways to "entertain" yourself without f*cking over other people in the process. Oh and speaking of that, while what you're doing may not be considered cheating per se, it is dangerously close and besides, I'm sure your bf would not be thrilled. If the tables were turned, would you? Of course she knows it's wrong or she wouldn't be going to such great lengths to hide it. And the fact that she's speaking bad of her bf, even in "jest", just goes to show how disloyal she is even more. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 You know, if all you want is a quick cyber with someone, or some NSA screwing, (or maybe you just are the kind of girl who likes to give random strangers BJs in parking lots), then why not go on Craigslist or on AFF, where you can cyber and screw to your hearts content, and NOT be possibly messing with someone else's emotions. And it wouldn't hurt to tell your (ahem) LDRBF that you are cheating on him and talking smack about him in order to get off a little quicker; he'd probably like to know that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 Of course she knows it's wrong or she wouldn't be going to such great lengths to hide it. And the fact that she's speaking bad of her bf, even in "jest", just goes to show how disloyal she is even more.Depends on the mood. Those occassions were only when boyfriend made me upset... I was mad at him so that way was somewhat to relieve my anger... Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 If the tables were turned, would you? Sure no problem. I wouldn't mind anything he does online since it's not real life face to face encounter thus he can do it if he wanted to. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 So you're going to tell him what it is you do to pass the time when you aren't with him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 You know, if all you want is a quick cyber with someone, or some NSA screwing, (or maybe you just are the kind of girl who likes to give random strangers BJs in parking lots), then why not go on Craigslist or on AFF, where you can cyber and screw to your hearts content, and NOT be possibly messing with someone else's emotions.Because I don't want that. I only seek online attention and entertainment from those guys. I clearly stated I never wanted to meet them. I always kept it virtual not real life encounter. And stop assuming I like giving blow jobs in real life. I never want to meet them for real. I like online attention and keeping it that way. But I guess this is somewhat becoming an addict, I dunno. And it wouldn't hurt to tell your (ahem) LDRBF that you are cheating on him and talking smack about him in order to get off a little quicker; he'd probably like to know that. You know I'm sick of people thinking every single little things is cheating and it's all about ''Tell the truth but nothing but the truth''. No it's not like you have to tell them every single detail of your life. You don't even tell your parents everything so much less would you tell a SO. Seeing porn is cheating, talking dirty for fun cheating, everything is cheating, screw that. Thinking of it, if we were to break up, then maybe I should find a man who's somewhat into open relationship. Ok not sleeping around nor doing things with other people but a bit into the porn and online things Or maybe find an opened-mind person.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 27, 2009 Share Posted September 27, 2009 Your SO during your relationship or marriage was exchanging emails or ims with deep written materials in it and actually tells the person they will meet them finally to screw them, that they're single or any other invention. However your SO only does it to make fun of the other person (within themselves they are like ''Boy he/she is an idiot, can't you see I'm only playing with you, I'm in my relationship/marriage). They never wanted to meet them, instead while the person gave them the real address your SO made a fake address as well as fake number (even give them false name if possible). Basically your SO led them with false expectation to tease them....feels absolutely no emotional bond nor feelings for them, they just a complete joke about it... If this was my SO.. I would be wondering who he is really playing.. me or this other woman... Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 Really? What if he has cybersex with someone? A full on dirty-talking, masturbating session.... what about that? Not a face to face encounter after all...Yes he can do that if he wanted to. I even wrote it on a post here before about thinking of speaking to give about that permission I'll give him.... Anything done online only with no intention to do it in real life equals just entertainment... Virtual vs real world...not the same... I guess I must be different but I wouldn't mind if I were to walk in on him doing that. I know it sounds a bit wild but I imagine catching him at it and me just walking away and later on doing back and doing the same but with men not women... Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 Maybe you should, and maybe you should have never gotten serious (enough to call yourself one in an LDR) with someone who has different values as you.I'm serious about my relationship but sooooo strict to the point many girls that I know of here on this forum even freak out if their SO watches porn or only sees it on a magazine. They aren't even talking to other women just watching porn. One ridiculously cried and thought it really was cheating and so the husband only stopped because of her retarded reaction. Seriously if my brother grows up and got a woman exactly like what I just described, I would advice him to dump the drama queen already.... I guess I must be weird because I can't think of something that would make me jealous unless he actually (if he was into it) were to spend much more time on that than with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted September 27, 2009 Author Share Posted September 27, 2009 What about if he was into looking at and talking to and masturbating to men online?No he's straight. But hypothetically speaking then in that case it would be over. Telling a SO about your sexually orientation is important to me, that is. So no couldn't stand homosexual tendencies. That would be like discovering you were lying a lie. I'm into straight men not homo nor bi.... Or into beastiality? Ok that's disturbing :sick: Or into child porn? Would it bother you then? It's "not-real" right?Disturbing too...:sick: Link to post Share on other sites
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