DJ-TK Posted November 27, 2003 Share Posted November 27, 2003 I live in Israel most of the time and I have noticed something very interesting.... Here in America, it seems like you say you love somebody after a looong time... You can even have sex for many times and still say that you "really like" a person or whatever and it's like you gotta be in the most serious relationship to find it out, merely getting married ! Where in Israel, it's like you realize it sooner or you say it before you have sex or something... Now it's not because Israel is more conservative about sex nor because Israeli say it and not mean it... So I was just wondering, HOW COME ??? Is it that it's like the most serious and committing thing in the world or just you find it out after a few months of a serious relationship ? It just seems weird to me... Maybe I got it all wrong and it's not like that at all..... Any comments or ideas ? Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 27, 2003 Share Posted November 27, 2003 That is an interesting observation DJ. I would wonder if it has to do with Israel being a 'Biblically' based society, therefore it's deeply embedded love comes before sex and that basically you wait to go out with someone who you would be interested in - in a long term relationship. Also, with Israel going thru decades of turmoil and terrorism....maybe they are more serious about their relationships because they don't take life or love so for granted. I'm not at all implying other religions don't teach the same type of morals. Israel is just a good example of a country which functions and lives within a certain belief system and doesn't fight itself. In America, there are so many options and arguments.....I think it's easy to get to the point where you don't BELIEVE - therefore don't ADHERE to any faith system at all. In other words, our morals are pretty liberal.....and 'true love' is often not a goal. We are prone to want sex and relationships like a fast food joint....quick, easy and cheap. It's just a thought though.....I don't want everybody jumping on me for making a 'religious' statement. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DJ-TK Posted November 29, 2003 Author Share Posted November 29, 2003 I don't think it has to do with Israel Being a 'Biblically' based society... I also don't think that with Israel going thru decades of turmoil and terrorism....maybe they are more serious about their relationships because they don't take life or love so for granted. Israel is not really conservative (In large) and all the free love and 'friends with benefits' stuff also very common there... I would agree though that most of the Israelis would wait till they have more deep feelings to go out with someone. Thus, if they do go out, not really knowing the other person, the chance of them kissing (Not to mention having sex) is quite low.... So yes, I would say that Israelis in large are more serious in relationships than the Americans, and date with people who they see a future with, and not just for the sake of havin fun and live the moment... About morals... As in America, stuff had changed thorughout the last few decades and the morals in America are pretty much similar to those in Israel... Israel is liberal as well (not regarding to the orthodox which are not the main part in Israel) and actually does fight itself. Yet, true love, commitment and serious relationships comsiders to be more common and something to wish for while in a relationship... I was just interested to see it from an American point of view... Israel's society is very much developed from the American society and European societies... And so it seems rather odd for having such a big difference in this issue.... Israel BTW, is very involved in stuff happens in America (not just politically)... Most of our television is actually American (used to be even more) and so, we're very influenced by that.... Link to post Share on other sites
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