quankanne Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 just be sure you've got a witness there when you retrieve the package, who can verify that you got it, what was in it, etc. Just in case you need someone to back you up if she goes bunny boiler on you for being hateful. sorry, I realize I'm not helping, but she sounds very much like the kind of person who would do something nutso just to get your attention ... If you really want this to stop, you need to cut her off at the knees and tell her to meet you at planned parenthood on X day at X time so that she can be tested for a pregnancy. Link to post Share on other sites
ecm Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 just be sure you've got a witness there when you retrieve the package, who can verify that you got it, what was in it, etc. Just in case you need someone to back you up if she goes bunny boiler on you for being hateful. sorry, I realize I'm not helping, but she sounds very much like the kind of person who would do something nutso just to get your attention ... If you really want this to stop, you need to cut her off at the knees and tell her to meet you at planned parenthood on X day at X time so that she can be tested for a pregnancy. OMG, I have seen "bunny boiler" used a few times on here and I just, I mean JUST got it. LOL LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Well.. Quitting time.. Nothing on my car... I'm sick of this dumb game I'm really considering Tryingto find some way to block her number.. This is so dumb.. This "game" is affecting me Link to post Share on other sites
caseymw25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 yeah shes not preggo that just proved she wants to play dumb games. just block her number and move on. thats all. and if it gets to where she has the guts to actually say something to your face then..... you really should get a restraining order on her crazy ass. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Yea that's what I think I'm gona try to do. Hopefully I can rejailbreak my phone. That would be best, for my own sanity. And I can even set a default reply. So if she texts me, she will immediately get one back saying "message not recieved" or whatever response I want it to say, so that should get te idea across that I'm serious. I have to be.. I have to do this.. Before I go crazy... Link to post Share on other sites
caseymw25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 yeah thats a good idea the message not recieved thing. do that. yeah get your head back on straight and dont worry about her. shes trouble so u say now this is the 3rd faking "oh im preggo"? yeah run as fast as you can and dont look back. and her sending you that message about leaving something on your car she probably was hoping you would reply with... what are you doing or what is it? ya know. good 4 you for keeping up the NC. hopefully the girl will get the picture. but it seems shes way past that and probably wont. good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 I've got to do something.. If I keep going on like this I'm gona lose it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 for goodness sake call her and ask her to meet so you can do a test together Just do it and then just change your number if she isnt and if she finds other ways to harrass you then get a restraining order on her You cant sit on here all day every day stressing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 for goodness sake call her and ask her to meet so you can do a test together Just do it and then just change your number if she isnt and if she finds other ways to harrass you then get a restraining order on her You cant sit on here all day every day stressing! I'm confident she's not pregnant.. That's not what's bothering me.. Consciously today was like oh great here it goes she's gona drop something stupid off at my car.. And well.. Unconsciously I must have been excited to see what it was because I felt alittle disapponted when there was nothing there.. So that's why I think I need to block her Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I'm confident she's not pregnant.. That's not what's bothering me.. Consciously today was like oh great here it goes she's gona drop something stupid off at my car.. And well.. Unconsciously I must have been excited to see what it was because I felt alittle disapponted when there was nothing there.. So that's why I think I need to block her I was picturing why she never dropped anything off..it went something like this. Her : (on phone) What the hell clarice? I thought you were pregnant! Now what am I gonna do? Clarice : (burp) I don't know, use a crayola and color it in or something! Her: You know, you really let me down. I was paying you 15 bucks for a peed on piece of plastic! For rice sakes! Her: Okay, I got a crayon now do I draw two lines or make a cross? . I think you should block her also, you are not thinking correctly and that's what I tried to warn you about earlier. That you are not seeing this clearly, you think what you are seeing is her making an effort for you or you "subconciously" do. You have not completely realised that what she is fighting for is not you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Let's see if I get this.. She's not fighting for me? She doesn't care about mike.. She is fighting for her doormat, and her sugar daddy back right? She doesn't want ME back, she just wants someone to wipe her feet on, and since we just broke up, she figures it's easier to come after me instead of go meet someone new who she will have to "train" to lay down and die like I did. Is that the idea? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Let's see if I get this.. She's not fighting for me? She doesn't care about mike.. She is fighting for her doormat, and her sugar daddy back right? She doesn't want ME back, she just wants someone to wipe her feet on, and since we just broke up, she figures it's easier to come after me instead of go meet someone new who she will have to "train" to lay down and die like I did. Is that the idea? Yup, that's the idea. While I promise you there are plenty of poor suckers out there who WILL actually put up with her crap, she doesn't know that yet and she's scared. She believes she could end up very lonely waiting for one to come around and she doesn't want that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Yup, that's the idea. While I promise you there are plenty of poor suckers out there who WILL actually put up with her crap, she doesn't know that yet and she's scared. She believes she could end up very lonely waiting for one to come around and she doesn't want that. That's actually... Pretty sad... It sucks that I was viewed like that, as well intentioned as I was. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 That's actually... Pretty sad... It sucks that I was viewed like that, as well intentioned as I was. It is sad, but that's more about who she is than who you are or aren't, so don't take it personal. The only responsibility you played was that you allowed yourself to be her fool and ignored all the obvious red flags and warning signs that this relationship was not right for you and neither was this girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 It is sad, but that's more about who she is than who you are or aren't, so don't take it personal. The only responsibility you played was that you allowed yourself to be her fool and ignored all the obvious red flags and warning signs that this relationship was not right for you and neither was this girl. And that's what I'll keep reminding myself.. Sometimes it just gets rough..8 feel like I could have did more.. Tryed harder.. And I just remind myself I tried as hard as I could and it was not my fault we failed, we failed because she gave up on us. It's not my fault.. I just keep telling myself that Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer Girl Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Lynx She has tried to push every button she has to get a response.... Perhaps, it empowered you somewhat.... Will you be Ok if she doesn't respond anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 And that's what I'll keep reminding myself.. Sometimes it just gets rough..8 feel like I could have did more.. Tryed harder.. And I just remind myself I tried as hard as I could and it was not my fault we failed, we failed because she gave up on us. It's not my fault.. I just keep telling myself that Did you two ever have a mutually loving, caring, honest relationship between eachother? It doesn't sound like you ever did, but that's why I'm asking. The impression I get isn't that she ever gave up on you two as an "us" it sounds like there never was an "us" for her, there was only a "her" and what you could do for "her" but I could be wrong, hence me asking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 Lynx She has tried to push every button she has to get a response.... Perhaps, it empowered you somewhat.... Will you be Ok if she doesn't respond anymore? Well, yea I will be ok. Might be harder.. Cuz I guess her texting me has numbed the pain alittle. But yea I wil make myself ok Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 Did you two ever have a mutually loving, caring, honest relationship between eachother? It doesn't sound like you ever did, but that's why I'm asking. The impression I get isn't that she ever gave up on you two as an "us" it sounds like there never was an "us" for her, there was only a "her" and what you could do for "her" but I could be wrong, hence me asking. Yea.. Your right. There was an us to me.. But only a her to her.. Since I always had to do what she wanted Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Yea.. Your right. There was an us to me.. But only a her to her.. Since I always had to do what she wanted Well, then point exactly. She never gave up on an "us". She never believed in one. You can try as hard as you want and done ten times the things you already did for her and you know what? You know where you would be? Precisely, exactly, completely where you are right now, today, this minute. This relationship was about having someone to misuse, someone to abuse, and someone to control. You stuck around a long time and you could have stayed an even longer time, it wouldn't of made a woman who never cared about your feelings and needs in the relationship, suddenly start caring. There are men and women just like her who live and die with that nature. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 Well, then point exactly. She never gave up on an "us". She never believed in one. You can try as hard as you want and done ten times the things you already did for her and you know what? You know where you would be? Precisely, exactly, completely where you are right now, today, this minute. This relationship was about having someone to misuse, someone to abuse, and someone to control. You stuck around a long time and you could have stayed an even longer time, it wouldn't of made a woman who never cared about your feelings and needs in the relationship, suddenly start caring. There are men and women just like her who live and die with that nature. Well thanks to you, and the rest of the good people here at LS. I wont have to live the rest of my life the way i lived the past year and a half. Still do care for her tho. Even after all the crap, still care about her. But i need to put myself first. And putting me first means.. she needs to not be around at all. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Well thanks to you, and the rest of the good people here at LS. I wont have to live the rest of my life the way i lived the past year and a half. Still do care for her tho. Even after all the crap, still care about her. But i need to put myself first. And putting me first means.. she needs to not be around at all. I think it's normal that you still have some feelings for her. You invested a lot. I almost get the impression that you invested a lot and projected her to be someone that she was not, really. When her and all her antics are out of your life you will start to move on, and then at some point you'll hit anger, and be living with her and disgusted with her, and eventually you will move on and you will feel nothing. You will reach resolution with what happened and you will remember the lessons it taught you (the good you got out of it). Link to post Share on other sites
ecm Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Well thanks to you, and the rest of the good people here at LS. I wont have to live the rest of my life the way i lived the past year and a half. Still do care for her tho. Even after all the crap, still care about her. But i need to put myself first. And putting me first means.. she needs to not be around at all. Caring people get taken advantage of. You just need to value yourself more than to put up with this sh*t. I remember watching Saddam Hussein walking up to be hung and feeling weirdly bad for him b/c he knew what was about to happen. I wanted to be all excited b/c he was such a bad guy, but I couldn't. It's just not in me to not be able to care. Ok, so maybe she's not as bad as he was, but still, she is not good for you. It sucks that you still care for her. But- you are going around and circles and it sounds like you are no further along than you were in the beginning. So, really, you have to do something one way or another. You seem like you are someone who doens't like things that end ambiguously. I HATE movies that end like that, so I REALLY hate when it happens in real life. MEET HER WITH THE TEST. Otherwise, you are going to go insane. Everyone keeps telling you the same sh*t and you're not listening/ or thinking of something new. Nobody is going to tell you she is sweet. She is evil, and sick. Get rid of her, or your life will be a circular thinking MESS. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 Caring people get taken advantage of. You just need to value yourself more than to put up with this sh*t. I remember watching Saddam Hussein walking up to be hung and feeling weirdly bad for him b/c he knew what was about to happen. I wanted to be all excited b/c he was such a bad guy, but I couldn't. It's just not in me to not be able to care. Ok, so maybe she's not as bad as he was, but still, she is not good for you. It sucks that you still care for her. But- you are going around and circles and it sounds like you are no further along than you were in the beginning. So, really, you have to do something one way or another. You seem like you are someone who doens't like things that end ambiguously. I HATE movies that end like that, so I REALLY hate when it happens in real life. MEET HER WITH THE TEST. Otherwise, you are going to go insane. Everyone keeps telling you the same sh*t and you're not listening/ or thinking of something new. Nobody is going to tell you she is sweet. She is evil, and sick. Get rid of her, or your life will be a circular thinking MESS. yea I hate when movies end like that. HATE IT!! I'd much rather be told how it ends and leave it at that. I realize I have been going around in circles. I dunno it just made me feel better to come here everyday, and be reminded that I deserve better. I'm not going to contact her at all. I'm done. I need to look out for me. And I need totry to remember, thank you all for dealing with my ups and downs Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 yea I hate when movies end like that. HATE IT!! I'd much rather be told how it ends and leave it at that. I realize I have been going around in circles. I dunno it just made me feel better to come here everyday, and be reminded that I deserve better. I'm not going to contact her at all. I'm done. I need to look out for me. And I need totry to remember, thank you all for dealing with my ups and downs We don't mind you at all We are still here for you, you know. You can still express yourself. I'm sure mostly all of us have loved the wrong person, and dealt with the aftermath. I know I have and I came through it JUST fine and you will also . Link to post Share on other sites
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