ecm Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 One more question... If it does escalate to the suicide threat text message... If I call the police... She would then be getting the attention she wants, and then she would know that I have been reading the texts all along.. However.. She would have to answer to her Actions.. And it will also make me look like a huge um.. Jerk for calling the cops on her. I don't want to give her any satisfaction But I also wouldn't want her commitIng suicide either... This is just so dumb.. I can't believe I'm having think about all of these things.. I would almost never suggest that anyone make light of a suicide threat. I would die if we told you to ignore them & she were to actually do something. These people (myself included) are telling you that one of these "threats" is probably coming soon. Do you think that means she is really going to do it? I would bet no, but like I said I wouldn't mess around. she sound pretty self centered. She is "too important" to "kill herself". So, tht is the least of your worries. This girl craves attention. If you call the police, she will get attention. And when they realize it was a false alarm, you should fill out a restraining order while you're at it. Really. It is BETTER for you if she realizes you've bee reading her texts all along. It shows that she doesn't have that power over you anymore. I believe the reason you still think about these things is that you still have feelings for her. IT sucks to care about someone who is SO OBVIOUSLY not "all there". It sucks to not be able to shut your feelings off when you realize this person is not even a good person. I hope she texts you that, and I hope you call the police. Most of all, I hope you get this fruit cake out of your life!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I would almost never suggest that anyone make light of a suicide threat. I would die if we told you to ignore them & she were to actually do something. These people (myself included) are telling you that one of these "threats" is probably coming soon. Do you think that means she is really going to do it? I would bet no, but like I said I wouldn't mess around. she sound pretty self centered. She is "too important" to "kill herself". So, tht is the least of your worries. This girl craves attention. If you call the police, she will get attention. And when they realize it was a false alarm, you should fill out a restraining order while you're at it. Really. It is BETTER for you if she realizes you've bee reading her texts all along. It shows that she doesn't have that power over you anymore. I believe the reason you still think about these things is that you still have feelings for her. IT sucks to care about someone who is SO OBVIOUSLY not "all there". It sucks to not be able to shut your feelings off when you realize this person is not even a good person. I hope she texts you that, and I hope you call the police. Most of all, I hope you get this fruit cake out of your life!!!! I think that calling the police should this occur is the way to go. Let her be responsible for her actions. It doesn't make you any less of an individual if you do that. I know how it is to still care about someone that is a wackjob. My ex tried to get me fired from my job, won't give me the ring back and went trhough my phone and emails on a daily basis. Part of me is jumping for joy that I dodged a bullet and the other part of me is just REALLY hurt that she did all of these things to someone she wanted to marry at one point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 I think that calling the police should this occur is the way to go. Let her be responsible for her actions. It doesn't make you any less of an individual if you do that. I know how it is to still care about someone that is a wackjob. My ex tried to get me fired from my job, won't give me the ring back and went trhough my phone and emails on a daily basis. Part of me is jumping for joy that I dodged a bullet and the other part of me is just REALLY hurt that she did all of these things to someone she wanted to marry at one point. Know exactly what you mean, they had part of my route to work shutdown due to a big accident, I drove by thinking wow.. I hope she's not one of those involved... Then I got mad for caring... :-/ Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 caring about someone you no longer are with is not a crime, it's a natural response to a relationship that had meaning. getting the police involved over a suicide threat isn't being cruel ... it's looking after the mental health of someone who is "unhinged." After all, you "care" enough to be concerned about her safety. Give them access to the messages she's been leaving – if she really IS pregnant, and threatens suicide, she's endangering the life of the fetus. If she's not, you have cause to file a restraining order against her for including you in her whacked-out fantasies. it's not being cruel, just protecting you and yours from a nut-job like your ex. As for her thinking you're a jerk, do you really still care at this point after the crap she's pulled? time to pull on your man panties, son, and stop giving in to her – she knows there's a magic button with your name on it, all she has to do is keep pushing til she finds it. You have the power to disable that button, if you so choose. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 has there been a suicide threat or is this all pie in the sky? Maybe we should discuss what he should do if she threatens to boil his rabbit? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Heres the latest text message..."I have something for you it will be dropped off at your car at some point of the day so don't freak out I'm not messing with your car" Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Heres the latest text message..."I have something for you it will be dropped off at your car at some point of the day so don't freak out I'm not messing with your car" 10 bucks says it's going to involve all or part of a dead animal. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 call the cops. She's unhinged. Better to get this documented in a police report, in the event the situation escalates ... Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 call the cops. She's unhinged. Better to get this documented in a police report, in the event the situation escalates ... +1. You got to cover your a**. Again, another thing on the list to try and get a reaction out of you. I hope it's not a horses head a la Godfather, but in all seriousness get the cops involved. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Get the cops involved?? Now?? Because shes dropping something off at my car? That was unexpected, why the cops now? Now I'm worried.. Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I don't understand whatever happened to going to the clinic with her to see if she is pregnant? Now she's coming by to "drop" something in your car? It just doesn't add up, I don't know her, I don't know what she is capable of....we're just trying to get you to prepare for anything. I'm pregnant-Twice before she already pulled this..... I'm calling your parents to tell them.... I'm coming by to drop something of..... Let's just take a step back though and think about this. Do you feel that you would be in harms way with her at this point? If you have to think about it, call the cops... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 At this point no do not feel that I would be in harms way Link to post Share on other sites
caseymw25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I Agree shes done this before, this time your not responding and she is going nuts trust me!!!!! so shes thinking of more ways to get to you. the car thing i wouldnt go for. shes probably at her wits end by now. but when i read ur last post my first thought of what it would be is a "fake" test saying positive. i could be wrong but just a thought. duno where you would get that but shes going crazy so im sure shes thought of something. just be safe. she shouldnt be anywhere around your car. bad for you. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 At this point no do not feel that I would be in harms way I wouldn't call the cops at this point, at least not based on her last text. There's really no basis for a criminal complaint that I can see. That, of course, is subject to change depending on what you find in/on your car. Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Ok, so just take a step back for now and let it play out. That's all you can do if you feel that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 This is just all so dumb I don't understand why this is continuing to happen Link to post Share on other sites
caseymw25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 The reason why its continuing to happen is cause she does not want to give up hope that yall are actually OVER. its making her crazy. Love will do that to you. but what she is doing is not love, its obsessing and lusting people want what they cant have. and you going NC is making her go nutto big time!! she will continue this for awhile probably. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 The reason why its continuing to happen is cause she does not want to give up hope that yall are actually OVER. its making her crazy. Love will do that to you. but what she is doing is not love, its obsessing and lusting people want what they cant have. and you going NC is making her go nutto big time!! she will continue this for awhile probably. There was a girl I dated for a couple of months, and who met my parents exactly once. For about 5 minutes. After we broke up, she sent my parents Christmas cards for YEARS. Sort of a passive-aggressive stalking. Link to post Share on other sites
caseymw25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 i really do think the thing shes going to drop off at your car is a "fake" test saying postive. just be prepared if thats what it is. she wont see you face to face apparently. so she might be doing it this way. like you said there is no way she could be preggo after her period and all that. so yeah just think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
caseymw25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 There was a girl I dated for a couple of months, and who met my parents exactly once. For about 5 minutes. After we broke up, she sent my parents Christmas cards for YEARS. Sort of a passive-aggressive stalking. yup ya see she will end up continuing on this crap for awhile, i mean christmas cards for parents you hardly know?? uuumm ok. yeah stalking in a wierd way. (she was probably thinking aww his parents will think im soo sweet and that he should be with me) geeesh! Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 i really do think the thing shes going to drop off at your car is a "fake" test saying postive. just be prepared if thats what it is. she wont see you face to face apparently. so she might be doing it this way. like you said there is no way she could be preggo after her period and all that. so yeah just think about it. I was thinking the same thing. I had an ex- friend pull something very similiar with a fake test. One of the reasons she is an EX-FRIEND. I don't think she's coming to do anything harmful to you etc. I wouldn't be surprised if it was either A) something sentimental or B) a pregnancy test. If it is the latter, it's imperative you do not take anything serious until you go with her to have this confirmed via medical staff. The next step after that, will be a paternity test, IF it even gets that far. This is important because there are certain circumstances a woman needs to even concieve a child, and she was not under those conditions and on top of it, the sex was protected. Who's condoms were they? I think she believes that you are the only one willing to actually tolerate her BS, so her security is threatened with you leaving and now, not giving into her manipulation tactics. This is happening because she cares about herself, not you. She doesn't care what she puts you through nor have I seen ONE SHRED of evidenced she cared about YOU without her self centered-ness taking center stage, she just cares that you supply her with support and ego stroking and that is being threatened. She wants it back. Link to post Share on other sites
ecm Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 This is just all so dumb I don't understand why this is continuing to happen I feel like you keep asking things like this so someone will tell you she loves you. I'm not going to say that though, b/c if that is the truth, that that's why you're asking, you need to get that out of your head. The reason it is continuing to happen is she is nuts. You need to put a stop to it, especially if it's going to drive YOU nuts, too. Who dumped who again? Sorry, at work, don't have time to go back to find it. I think the way to shut her up is to meet her with a test. Otherwise, everyday you're going to be on here with a new post... a text that one of us probably could have predicted, and you're going to continue wondering unitl you lose it. She is MESSING WITH YOU. She is trying to get a reaction out of you. BUT, she WON'T stop (obviously) so you need to cut it off NOW. If you want it to stop, and want PROOF that she is messing with you, you should meet her with the test. You will see FIRST HAND that she is lying. If you let this continue, it is hard for me to believe that you actually want it to stop. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I feel like you keep asking things like this so someone will tell you she loves you. I'm not going to say that though, b/c if that is the truth, that that's why you're asking, you need to get that out of your head. The reason it is continuing to happen is she is nuts. You need to put a stop to it, especially if it's going to drive YOU nuts, too. Who dumped who again? Sorry, at work, don't have time to go back to find it. I think the way to shut her up is to meet her with a test. Otherwise, everyday you're going to be on here with a new post... a text that one of us probably could have predicted, and you're going to continue wondering unitl you lose it. She is MESSING WITH YOU. She is trying to get a reaction out of you. BUT, she WON'T stop (obviously) so you need to cut it off NOW. If you want it to stop, and want PROOF that she is messing with you, you should meet her with the test. You will see FIRST HAND that she is lying. If you let this continue, it is hard for me to believe that you actually want it to stop. Exactly, she does not love you. She is still showing NO respect for you, she is still showing NO concern or care for YOUR feelings. It is still all about HER and THAT is not, never will be, love. You are just a face and a name to her Mike, you could be anyone to her and it wouldn't matter as long as you were willing to tolerate and accomodate her manipulation. She is worried about finding someone else who will really put up with her the way you have so she's fighting for dear life to reel you back in and get control of you before it's too later FOR HER. I also agree with the above poster, that in a sense you want this to perpuate or you are hoping for it, as stressful as it is for you, you're seeing her fight for you. Or at least that's what you THINK you are seeing; it is an illusion and not real; you are seeing her fight for her SUPPLY. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Ok maybe I came acrosste wrong way, but when I say why.. It's not because I want to hear sh loves me. It's just I cannot fathom why she is doing all this.. I don't understand what she is trying to accomplish, if she trying to reel me back in that is not going to happen no matter what. I also agree it will probably be a test she drops off, or our notebook that we used to write notes to eachother in.. In which case will get burned the moment I get home. I guess what I meant by why is I don't understand her thinking.. It makes no sense.. If she's trying to get me back in.. She's actually pushing me as far away as possible Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 And depending what happens today... I am going to find a way to end this for good. I don't want this. I don't want to deal with her drama anymore.. That's why I broke up with her.. Because I didn't want the crap anymore.. An low and behold were broken up.. And there's still crap:.. She's making me not even want a memory of her.. To burn everything I have Boxed away upstairs that reminds me of her.. She's making me want to erase her completely from my memory.. Instead of leaving it there as a failed relationship... I almost don't even want the memory anymore Link to post Share on other sites
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