hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 I don't understand why this girl lies about things that you can find out are not true. For instance- did you research anything about false positive pregnancy tests? She is LYING. LYING. LYING. Love or no love, this girl is way beyond crazy. She sound like a COMPULSIVE liar. She sound like someone who doesn't even realize she is lying. To me that = CUH-RAZY. Unless you have some desire to go into psychiatry, you need to realize the girl you are obsessing about, the person you knew & loved when "times were good" is a CHARACTER this person has created. You are seeing her true colors now. I wish you would realize that you are a fabulous caring person who deserves SO MUCH BETTER than this girl's drama...CREATED, FICTIONAL, WHACK-A*S drama. ECM my ex best friend (ex because of her behavior) did a lot of things his ex did. Complete with false pregnancies and the whole 9 yards. Her now current fiance, oh man you don't even wanna KNOW the things she's lied to HIM about..her ability to even have children, health problems, cheating behind his back etc. And we're talking about someone who has accessed his phone records behind his back, made fake profiles and pretended to hit on him and see if he'd flirt back..texted him with other people's phones..hitting on him to see if he'd flirt back..her other ex..she faked prego tests with and then had me go with her to the dr.s office because her other ex was my cousin..hoping to legitimize her claims of pregnancy (Cause he told her to feck off that she was nuts) knowing she wasn't really prego..for a long time I felt sorry for her, she told me she'd been abused by her father etc. One day, we were talking about her current fiance and guilt when she straight faced said "well, I don't have to come clean because I don't have a guilty conscience anyway, I mean he believes what I tell him and has never found anything out so what's the problem?" That's the day we quit being friends, I didn't agree with a lot of **** she did in the past, but that was the day I realised she has been manipulating me and everyone we knew with her antics and she was really just a lying, conivving, con artist. She was a good faker, I mean a damn good one..I'm pretty good at spotting liars and cons and bull****ters, but this girl played me like a fiddle..I mean I thought she at least felt BAD for the **** she pulled..with all the begging, and crying, and bla bla. She used everyone in her life to get SOMETHING and she had us all fooled, well that was the day the buck stopped at my door for her though. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 I understand how hard it is to let go, I am not doing to well myself but Lynx be honest, you kind of like the whole game with this crazy chick. Playing is a bit of a twisted ego boost and a way of holding on to the relationship. The drama is a great distraction from the pain. Though if you was serious first thing tomorrow you get a new phone number and email. Link to post Share on other sites
ecm Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 ECM my ex best friend (ex because of her behavior) did a lot of things his ex did. Complete with false pregnancies and the whole 9 yards. Her now current fiance, oh man you don't even wanna KNOW the things she's lied to HIM about..her ability to even have children, health problems, cheating behind his back etc. And we're talking about someone who has accessed his phone records behind his back, made fake profiles and pretended to hit on him and see if he'd flirt back..texted him with other people's phones..hitting on him to see if he'd flirt back..her other ex..she faked prego tests with and then had me go with her to the dr.s office because her other ex was my cousin..hoping to legitimize her claims of pregnancy (Cause he told her to feck off that she was nuts) knowing she wasn't really prego..for a long time I felt sorry for her, she told me she'd been abused by her father etc. One day, we were talking about her current fiance and guilt when she straight faced said "well, I don't have to come clean because I don't have a guilty conscience anyway, I mean he believes what I tell him and has never found anything out so what's the problem?" That's the day we quit being friends, I didn't agree with a lot of **** she did in the past, but that was the day I realised she has been manipulating me and everyone we knew with her antics and she was really just a lying, conivving, con artist. She was a good faker, I mean a damn good one..I'm pretty good at spotting liars and cons and bull****ters, but this girl played me like a fiddle..I mean I thought she at least felt BAD for the **** she pulled..with all the begging, and crying, and bla bla. She used everyone in her life to get SOMETHING and she had us all fooled, well that was the day the buck stopped at my door for her though. At least you learned from it. Now you know how to spot 'em. On LYNXXEEEEEEEEE.. are you reading? xo how do you think so many people know what she was doing? We've already experienced the crazy things people will do. AND I'm not gonna lie: I have tried relentlessly (in my younger years) to get an ex or two back. The difference is, I never did the crazy sh*t BEFORE they dumped me (like your ex). I just didn't like getting dumped so I'd call, then I'd text, then I'd show up. YEP, I'd show up (but one ex would hide instead of actually dump me so he deserved to be awaken with some double d's in his face. LOL- just kidding- I'd knock.) So, desperate behavior is desperate behavior. I did the desperate "psycho" things...(minus the fake pregnancy or 3 false positive tests-such BS, btw) I just wasn't the nasty psycho BEFORE. So, I hope you're learning from this. We're not doctors or psychiatrists (at least I'm not) but we've been through this crap. It sucks that you have to go through it yourself to believe us, but please try to NOT waste your energy on this lunatic. Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 The drama is a great distraction from the pain. This sentence sums up my whole situation. Link to post Share on other sites
ecm Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Though if you was serious first thing tomorrow you get a new phone number and email. True. SO HARD, THOUGH!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 Ya maybe I do enjoy the games.. That sounds true because it does seem to mask the pain. I realized something last night tho, I believe what is making it so hard is the physical part.. It was great.. She texted me last night and asked if we could associate with eachother just for sex, meet up, then leave. Said we don't even have to say two words to eachother. That way we could kind of let go of things.. And not have to worry about diseases and all that. Obviously I would be very careful, due to what just happened. Has anyone tried this? Does it work? Or does it just make things worse? Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 lol it makes things a million times worse You have each others bodies but the rest of what was once there is gone and it leaves you feeling empty and used! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 lol it makes things a million times worse You have each others bodies but the rest of what was once there is gone and it leaves you feeling empty and used! really? Even if we both agree it's nothing more than just sex we will still feel empty and used? Link to post Share on other sites
Northwesthunny Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Sooner or later one of you would want more than sex. why would you want to have sex with this girl if she is a wacko Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 Sooner or later one of you would want more than sex. why would you want to have sex with this girl if she is a wacko Idk... We just connected well and it was good Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Ya maybe I do enjoy the games.. That sounds true because it does seem to mask the pain. I realized something last night tho, I believe what is making it so hard is the physical part.. It was great.. She texted me last night and asked if we could associate with eachother just for sex, meet up, then leave. Said we don't even have to say two words to eachother. That way we could kind of let go of things.. And not have to worry about diseases and all that. Obviously I would be very careful, due to what just happened. Has anyone tried this? Does it work? Or does it just make things worse? Great idea, then you can have another fifteen page thread about how this crazy chick is messing with your head because she now claims to be pregnut (misspelling on purpose). LET THE GAMES BEGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 I think you thrive on the drama and now its stopped you want to up your game a bit If you want her then just go back Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Lynx, you go and do that and I promise you that next time she says she's pregnant it will be for real. Think about it, is that what you want? We're all trying to help you get past this but no one here is going to keep giving you advice is you go and do the opposite of everyone is telling you. And I mean this in the nicest way possible. Just really take a step back and think about everything..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 I think you thrive on the drama and now its stopped you want to up your game a bit If you want her then just go back It's not that.. It's just for the past year and a half I made her my everything.. I had pretty much nothing else but her and now I guess.. Maybe I just feel alittle lost, but I guess that's normal Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 Great idea, then you can have another fifteen page thread about how this crazy chick is messing with your head because she now claims to be pregnut (misspelling on purpose). LET THE GAMES BEGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Very good point Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 Lynx, you go and do that and I promise you that next time she says she's pregnant it will be for real. Think about it, is that what you want? We're all trying to help you get past this but no one here is going to keep giving you advice is you go and do the opposite of everyone is telling you. And I mean this in the nicest way possible. Just really take a step back and think about everything..... Yes your right, I just wish I knew why I keep beating my head against the wall Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Ya maybe I do enjoy the games.. That sounds true because it does seem to mask the pain. I realized something last night tho, I believe what is making it so hard is the physical part.. It was great.. She texted me last night and asked if we could associate with eachother just for sex, meet up, then leave. Said we don't even have to say two words to eachother. That way we could kind of let go of things.. And not have to worry about diseases and all that. Obviously I would be very careful, due to what just happened. Has anyone tried this? Does it work? Or does it just make things worse? OP (that means original poster btw) What the f*ck, chuck? Okay, this is what I know about you. You are smart, I mean you really are. You have come to your senses a lot quicker than most posters I've read. So, we know you're not a dunce. So why, because there is no excuse and I mean this in the most...probably going to come aff as henious bitch, but loving way possible..WHY are you even contemplating doing something so utterly stupid? I mean stupid with a capital letter, and they just keep going. I mean my jaw keeps wanting to hit the ground here, you know she is unstable and this latest offer to hit it and quit it with you, just further is cementing her instability.Secondly, everything you worked SO hard to achieve in terms of boundries with her? Blown. Forget about it. People who have sex with their exes when their is bad blood or feelings involved? They have no self control, seriously. There are plenty of people who DON'T have sex for a long time because they aren't in a relationship and don't have sex with their exes, no one has ever died from it. But of all things..you want to contemplate an arrangement like this with a bonafide bunny boiler?? Did you hit your head on a cam shaft real hard? I mean, some people I wouldn't be surprised to hear this from..but YOU who has been smart and assertive and earning back your self respect? There's no excuse for this, you deserve and should expect better from yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 The line "insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result" is coming to mind...possible true for the those posting replies as much as Lynx himself. I hope for the best for you Lynx, and I hope you soon do too. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 BTW, you are banging your head agains the wall because you are confused and being manipulated and toyed with. You have all the classic signs of it . You need to end contact with her, and since she has no respect for your wishes, it's time to get her number blocked. What the hell does jailbreak your phone mean? I am confused at what you meant by this. Her number needs to be blocked. One month with NO word from her, you will be amazed at what it does for you. As long as she can get to you it's going to twist, and twist, and twist your head. You already, a smart man like you..contemplated sleeping with her! I mean, you need to draw your lines in the sand, she isn't going to respect your boundaries, so ignore this broad and give her no choice, block every access she has to you PERIOD. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 What the hell does jailbreak your phone mean? I am confused at what you meant by this. Hack the operating system of the phone to give it extra features Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 It's not that.. It's just for the past year and a half I made her my everything.. I had pretty much nothing else but her and now I guess.. Maybe I just feel alittle lost, but I guess that's normal Oh I just noticed this post. I understand you are lost now without your identity of playing captain save-a-ho to her, but what troubled me most was when you said you nothing else but her. That is like, me carrying around a ratty suitcase with maggots living on the inside and I don't know any better, I don't have anything that great or even very healthy for me, but I lug it around anyway because I feel that's all I've got. This woman lied and manipulated you over and over and over, and she is STILL at the lying and manipulating. Yet there you are, reinforcing the idea in your head, convincing yourself that someone who has been unfair, dishonest, conivving, disrespectful of you with no regard to your feelings, is somehow the big special event in your life. You need to quit trying to paint a garbage can platinum, it will still be a garbage can Mike. No matter what image you project onto her, at the end of the day you are still left with a woman who is toxic to you, who is completely out of control in her own life and very unstable at this point. YOU giving your heart and soul and effort to her does not change HER, it doesn't make her suddenly a caring person, it doesn't make her a fair or honest person. It doesn't give her stability or wisdom or maturity. It's just you, trying to paint that garbage can platinum. Link to post Share on other sites
ecm Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 I'm sad that you are even THINKING about playing hide the salami with this girl after all of the things you have said about her. If you like the drama, have fun with it. But pretty soon your "no strings" (yeah f-ing right) sex is going to turn into baby mama drama. You were drowning (in drama). You had multiple life vests thrown your way. (in the form of good advice). I hope you choose to use what you've been given instead of drown. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 I'm sad that you are even THINKING about playing hide the salami with this girl after all of the things you have said about her. If you like the drama, have fun with it. But pretty soon your "no strings" (yeah f-ing right) sex is going to turn into baby mama drama. Exactly, she is just going down the list. Her new thing is she's now trying to use sex to control, since all of her previous attempts have failed thus far. Hasn't changed a bit, not one bit. Thus further prooving that everything was B.S yesterday. Sigh Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lynx331 Posted October 5, 2009 Author Share Posted October 5, 2009 OP (that means original poster btw) What the f*ck, chuck? Okay, this is what I know about you. You are smart, I mean you really are. You have come to your senses a lot quicker than most posters I've read. So, we know you're not a dunce. So why, because there is no excuse and I mean this in the most...probably going to come aff as henious bitch, but loving way possible..WHY are you even contemplating doing something so utterly stupid? I mean stupid with a capital letter, and they just keep going. I mean my jaw keeps wanting to hit the ground here, you know she is unstable and this latest offer to hit it and quit it with you, just further is cementing her instability.Secondly, everything you worked SO hard to achieve in terms of boundries with her? Blown. Forget about it. People who have sex with their exes when their is bad blood or feelings involved? They have no self control, seriously. There are plenty of people who DON'T have sex for a long time because they aren't in a relationship and don't have sex with their exes, no one has ever died from it. But of all things..you want to contemplate an arrangement like this with a bonafide bunny boiler?? Did you hit your head on a cam shaft real hard? I mean, some people I wouldn't be surprised to hear this from..but YOU who has been smart and assertive and earning back your self respect? There's no excuse for this, you deserve and should expect better from yourself. Lol the hitting my head on a camshaft made me laugh :-D. Yea your right. The line "insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result" is coming to mind...possible true for the those posting replies as much as Lynx himself. I hope for the best for you Lynx, and I hope you soon do too. Very Eye opening response BTW, you are banging your head agains the wall because you are confused and being manipulated and toyed with. You have all the classic signs of it . You need to end contact with her, and since she has no respect for your wishes, it's time to get her number blocked. What the hell does jailbreak your phone mean? I am confused at what you meant by this. Her number needs to be blocked. One month with NO word from her, you will be amazed at what it does for you. As long as she can get to you it's going to twist, and twist, and twist your head. You already, a smart man like you..contemplated sleeping with her! I mean, you need to draw your lines in the sand, she isn't going to respect your boundaries, so ignore this broad and give her no choice, block every access she has to you PERIOD. Jail breaking my phone mean i can have unautorized applications on my phone, which means one called black list which will block incoming data and calls from her line. Oh I just noticed this post. I understand you are lost now without your identity of playing captain save-a-ho to her, but what troubled me most was when you said you nothing else but her. That is like, me carrying around a ratty suitcase with maggots living on the inside and I don't know any better, I don't have anything that great or even very healthy for me, but I lug it around anyway because I feel that's all I've got. This woman lied and manipulated you over and over and over, and she is STILL at the lying and manipulating. Yet there you are, reinforcing the idea in your head, convincing yourself that someone who has been unfair, dishonest, conivving, disrespectful of you with no regard to your feelings, is somehow the big special event in your life. You need to quit trying to paint a garbage can platinum, it will still be a garbage can Mike. No matter what image you project onto her, at the end of the day you are still left with a woman who is toxic to you, who is completely out of control in her own life and very unstable at this point. YOU giving your heart and soul and effort to her does not change HER, it doesn't make her suddenly a caring person, it doesn't make her a fair or honest person. It doesn't give her stability or wisdom or maturity. It's just you, trying to paint that garbage can platinum. Very good point, didnt think of it like that. I'm sad that you are even THINKING about playing hide the salami with this girl after all of the things you have said about her. If you like the drama, have fun with it. But pretty soon your "no strings" (yeah f-ing right) sex is going to turn into baby mama drama. You were drowning (in drama). You had multiple life vests thrown your way. (in the form of good advice). I hope you choose to use what you've been given instead of drown. Good luck. And another eye opening response Exactly, she is just going down the list. Her new thing is she's now trying to use sex to control, since all of her previous attempts have failed thus far. Hasn't changed a bit, not one bit. Thus further prooving that everything was B.S yesterday. Sigh Didnt look at it that way. Ok guys, i took a nice long shower, and a ride in my car and thought about alot of things. You guys are all right here.. I really dont understand why i get so naive some times. You guys have all been here... and repeated told me basically the same thing.. ive been on alot of forums in my day, be it car forums or something like that, never have i had a thread hit 14 pages.. This one did.. and going over all of it.. it got so long because i wont listen to what you have to say. I listen to it.. but i dont hear it.. if that makes sense to you. But to credit all of you, i thank you very much for putting up with my.. hardheadedness.. because you kept coming back, trying to help me out.. someone you didnt even know.. and something just occured to me. All of you guys... have taken FAR more interest in my feelings and my well being then she did in a year and a half. Its really odd to think that but its true. So thank you all for that. I really appreciate it, because all of your guys' help has got me to the point where i am right now. I have a plan. Here is what i plan to do. I just looked, i can now rejailbreak my phone. So today, i am going to do so. I am going to download the blacklist app, and i am going to blacklist her number. THat way, even if i do get a text message, or a phone call, i will not even know it, unless she was to leave a voicemail, which i will just delete. If she comes back around me again, i will tell her that i cannot see her, im busy, or i have somewhere i need to go. She is supposed to be dropping off a few more of my things, including our notebook, which i am very happy about because who knows what i wrote in that thing and i dont want it in her hands. She is supposed to leave it in my mailbox, so i wont have to see her or anything like that. So basically im going to do my best here, for ME. Im going to focus my efforts heavily back in the gym like i used to, im going to get my bills paid off, (not to throw blame, but my bills got out of control thanks to her) and then im going to buy some things for my cars. And work on them like i love to do. Im going to try and claim the old me back, except now having went through this.. i may not feel it right now, but i will be much smarter with things. Yes its a shame this had to happen.. i did everything i could to prevent it from happening, but i cant carry us both by myself.. she wouldnt hold her own.. so now she has forced this to happen. I need to keep reminding myself of that. So basically, i want to really thank each one of you for sticking it out through my, relapses of the same exact feelings. Like i said, you guys dont know me at all, and you have taken more interest in my feelings than she ever did.. and that shows me something right there. I just really cant explain how much i appreciate what each one of you has done. I would probably be back with her right now if it wasnt for you guys, it has made me feel so much better to vent, and have to guys remind me of whats what. I really cannot thank you all enough. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 To your credit, I knew you'd come around. Do like I did and use this experience as an education: now you know what to watch out for and what not to put up with in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
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