breaker Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 hey guys, i just wanted to say hi. im new here and decided to join based off my current situation, i feel it would be good for me to vent and help others here and there. im currently in a LDR relationship with a girl i met at one of my cousins get togethers. she was just one of those girls id regret for the rest of my life not to at least *try* to talk to. we both fell in love instantly and started talked that very night. its been a pretty long time and since then we've talked every night on the phone for hours at a time sometimes. she"ll call me before, between, after anything she really does (school, friends, family, ect.) we do as much as we can without completely altering our lives when were not together such as webcams, pictures, letters, just about anything we can. we dont live incredibly too far away (6 hours) but enough to get us frustrated every now and then wishing we were together on those lonely nights. shes currently about to go to law school and is extremely busy with school and extra curricular stuff that her internship lawyer suggested shed do to have her law school application look good. im also not the most outgoing with time either due to the fact im going to school as well. we do have plans to see eachother soon and we constantly keep reminding each other how special each other is to ourselves, which keep us extremely strong at times we feel even the weakest. some days it feels as if shes right next door to me but somedays like today, i feel like she may as well be on the moon. i thought id share my little story with you all and hopefully maybe get a little insight from people who"ve definately been through this before, i'd really appreciate it thank you for reading Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 Welcome to LS breaker. My LDR began January 2nd, 2003. He is 5600 miles away and we have made it through some pretty tough times. Where there is a will there is a way. It is the truth in any relationship just more so in LDRs. It is up to the two of you to not lose sight of what you have together no matter the distance and it sounds like both of you are doing a great job of that. If you maintain that and honest open communication you'll be just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breaker Posted September 28, 2009 Author Share Posted September 28, 2009 I can vouch for myself in saying I definitely try my hardest and im almost positive i can say the same for her lol. she gets a little more emotional then i do at times involving the distance but im always there to catch her when she falls and pick her back up. all of our friends and family know about eachother and surprisingly every one of them is in love with our SO haha. just one question, how do u get through the lonely days when he/she is busy that day and cant talk too much, and especially on the lonely nights Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 just one question, how do u get through the lonely days when he/she is busy that day and cant talk too much, and especially on the lonely nights The way I deal with it now...well, I just do. The days are what is expected - a level of longing and missing him that is always there. It is familiar and well understood. We also can't talk too much the last year or so. Since April 2008 calling cards don't work but we have found a work around. A worldwide calling plan for $20 a month we get 250 minutes a month. We would much rather be able to talk whenever for however long. We of course did so in the beginning. It is hard to explain but neither of us needs that to know we are still together as always - still loving each other as always - still missing each other as always. There are many others here who have to deal with more of what you are feeling day to day. It just isn't fresh for me anymore after having those feelings as my constant companion for six and a half years. When it first began I wrote letters. Even though we talked everyday and for hours I wrote about everything else. I wrote about interactions with people at work - or my family - I wrote about whatever happened that didn't normally come up in conversation. I kept a journal of us. I wrote down specific sections of conversations and in particularly hard times when I couldn't talk to him I'd read his words to me. It'd take me back to happiness in an instant. Maybe something in that will help you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breaker Posted September 28, 2009 Author Share Posted September 28, 2009 Yeahh i agree, youre completely right. i do something sort of like that already, but i just keep a basic journal with alot of her in it lol. If i could ask one more question, does anyone feel that almost jelousy feeling when u miss them alot. like ill sometimes get a little jelous when shes around her guy friends. not the jelousy someone would usually get but almost like a "id give anything right now to be that guy" jelousy. idk maybe im crazy lol Link to post Share on other sites
MSUE Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 I don't believe in LDR's at least for myself...I'm too needy for that...I need to feel to touch to go to bed together to wake-up to my partner...to wake-up at 3 AM and get frisky...to have that hug to look into his eyes and melt...I need all the physical stuff kudos to you guys that can...I admire you I was married for 8 years my H at the time all of the sudden had to be overseas most of the year for business and that was the begining of the end of my marriage...of course there's much more to that story but I'll save that for my own threads. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovin a scrapper Posted September 28, 2009 Share Posted September 28, 2009 Welcome to LS!!!! My LDR began May 2008. I was living in Oklahoma City and had a job interview in Springfield, MO. I finished up and decided to go to Branson, MO for a few before heading back which is 30 or so miles from Springfield. I stopped at the Olive Garden for lunch and Rayette walked in with her mother for lunch also. She is from Oregon, which is about 1700 miles from me, and they were just so happening to be vacationing in Branson. Exactly like you, I knew that I would regret every day of my life it I didnt talk to her. Luckily for me she talked back. It was an instant connection. We have been talking on the phone and texting constantly everyday since. I have made two trips there and she has made two trips here and in December I will be moving there to be with her forever. (Short version. lol) Link to post Share on other sites
Author breaker Posted September 29, 2009 Author Share Posted September 29, 2009 thats awesome man. hopefull one day ill have a schedualed date to move closer to her or vise versa Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 If i could ask one more question, You can ask as many as you'd like that is what this forum is for. does anyone feel that almost jelousy feeling when u miss them alot. like ill sometimes get a little jelous when shes around her guy friends. not the jelousy someone would usually get but almost like a "id give anything right now to be that guy" jelousy. idk maybe im crazy lol I am jealous anyway. And yes I used to get jealous of those people who could be there with him. I'd have lots or irrational feelings - sometimes they still happen albeit briefly. The best thing I can tell you is to focus on what you do have instead of what you don't. If you are thinking of how your arms are empty - think of those out there who not only have empty arms but they have not found that person who they can talk to an share with either. Think of how lonely that would be. I could very easily focus on sleeping alone at night, and doing things without a significant other right now. But I have him in my life and he has me. I have built a relationship with him that is extremely honest and we communicate in a much healthier way than most relationships. And we look forward to our future together whenever that will start. My life now would be far more empty without him in it and I would certainly be searching for someone to share my life with - and why when I have already found him - not to mention men like him are so very few and far between. Link to post Share on other sites
Romance Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 Definitely get the feeling of jealousy a little more than I should! I am sooo jealous of his friends who he gets to hang out with almost everyday, I wish I could be with him so easily. Good luck though, 6 hours is definitely do able but is still quite a gap and not just a little day trip. I hope ls helps with all of your questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author breaker Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 thanks alot everyone. yeah its weird, im not typically a jelous guy but when i hear shes with some guy friends or in a group with them, it bums me out a bit. lol its weird, i wish i didnt have to be Link to post Share on other sites
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