is it over?

[aprilann3]

i just recently found out that my boyfriend is going to be going back to indiana for a job, we both now currently live in phoenix, az. i cant go right now, cuz i have to finish school. i took it really hard at first b-cuz i have a lot of doubts. he says he only wants to go and make enough money to buy a car and get his life on track. and he claims that he wants to still be with me and someday get married. im really scared that im going to never see him again or that he'll cheat on me. im also afriad of my own infiedlity. should i give up? or what... someone please help

[Liv'nLearning]

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April Anne.

 

The fact that you are unsure of your own infidelity as well as his means you are nowhere near being settled for a real long-term committed relationship.

 

You appear young and I don't know if you have had many boyfriends other than your current one. Maybe this separation is a good one for the both of you.

 

You need to take this time for a breather to really ascertain whether or not he is "the one" or not. If you are not sure if you want to remain committed, honesty is always the best course. Besides, if you don't have that now, how will it be in the future between you two?

 

You can't have your cake and eat it too. Either you make a firm committment to eachother without fear or give it a break for a while and see which proves the test of time.

 

Tell him you think a separation with the option of dating would be a good litmus test for the both of you.

 

If it's meant to be down the road, then it will.

 

[DJ-TK]

I think you two should talk and be honest with each other, and understand how much both of you are serious about this relatiosnship. It seems to me rather odd that you're afraid that you will cheat... Don't you love this guy ? Why would you cheat ?

 

You should think seriously how committed you are and see if you both find it worthy to stay together and if this relationship is going somewhere...