yes Posted November 28, 2003 Share Posted November 28, 2003 i find that lately, i'm content for most of the time but there's a sense of discomfort about it ... it's as if my mind tries to seek out irritators to get to its usual downish state! sounds familiar, anybody? it makes sense to an extent - it's easier to have smth negative to blame everything on, i guess. once you admit that YOU create whatever negativity there is, all you can do is suck it up and change your outlook - it's all in your own hands (how scary!). it adds an extra layer of freedom - you realize that none of your goals are archi-important, that it IS OK to just relax, do your thing, and enjoy life while it lasts. just thinking out loud i guess ... think with me, or nevermind if you don't want to ... -yes Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted November 28, 2003 Share Posted November 28, 2003 I kinda know what you mean, well sorta. Everytime things are going well with us for an extended period of time I start waiting for the bottom to drop out. I guess I'm suspicious when life is too easy. I'm too used to living in crisis mode. If the bottom doesn't drop out when I think its due to, I start watching my dogs more closely and checking them for worms! No, seriously, it's like if I can find one thing to worry about, that I know I can fix, it almost makes it seem then that I can put off the whole bottom dropping out for a lot longer. Oh man, I ate WAY too much turkey! I need a nap! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 28, 2003 Share Posted November 28, 2003 Maybe mood seeks its own level! I've become quite fond of feeling peaceful and happy and I seek experiences which reinforce these feelings. I'm surprised at anyone who would prefer negative emotion, particularly given what it does to the body. However, one of the theories about people with ADD is that they subconsciously seek conflict because negative emotion causes stimulation in the brain that even positive emotion does not! How 'bout them apples? Link to post Share on other sites
LauraD Posted November 29, 2003 Share Posted November 29, 2003 'i find that lately, i'm content for most of the time but there's a sense of discomfort about it ... it's as if my mind tries to seek out irritators to get to its usual downish state! sounds familiar, anybody?' Yes-- I'm somewhat worried about my own tendency to do that. I mainly do this in reference to relationship issues. I don't know if it's because I saw my own mother discontented and critical of my dad, and my dad nitpicky and pessimistic. A relationship I was in throughout high school and college had me feeling contented and loved, yet I was not completely satisfied because I allowed doubts and a lingering unsettled feeling to stifle the happiness. Sometimes I think I don't know quite how to handle the joy evoked by another person. How about you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted November 29, 2003 Author Share Posted November 29, 2003 i also feel like i don't know how to handle too much joy, whatever it's evoked by. luckily(?) life is full of crappy events, so i can keep myself "stimulated" if i wish. but i think i'd rather learn to live a peaceful, content life. i'm sure being happy can be as exciting and stimulating as not being it ... although one of the most famous books of all time starts with something like "All happy families are happy in the same way; the unhappy families are unhappy for different reasons". Make being a happy family sound trivial and boring, doesn't it? Thank god i'm screwed up in so many ways. just ranting, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
zingy again Posted December 7, 2003 Share Posted December 7, 2003 geeez you guys, isn't this what i've been saying now for months??? nice to know others feel the same ways i do....they just didnt know it! now read back over half of my posts and re-read your answers to me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted December 7, 2003 Author Share Posted December 7, 2003 i think it IS possible to learn to handle much joy and feel comfortable with a well-flowing life, though. it's a lil bit difficult in thsi culture where everything's a race, but you just have to become more paced and meditative inside, and enjoy the world as it is. good luck. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted December 8, 2003 Share Posted December 8, 2003 I can relate Yes! I tend to find things to worry about, or like Hokey said, wait for things to turn bad. I'd love to learn to live with more peace and contentment and less worry! Will get there someday! I certainly don't think I am craving the stimulation drama or negative things bring...at least, not consciously. Link to post Share on other sites
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