jumi Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 so i dont know if youve read my last post about how my boyfriend's bag was stolen over the weekend (he is studying abroad right now) and his passport + wallet were stolen. he got back to his "main" country yesterday (he was away for the weekend) and i was talking to him and his camera... ipod... and worst of all his ring was stolen. we've been wearing these identical rings together for a year now... they are silver bands with the kanji symbol for "love" engraved into it. they have a lot of sentimental value in them. im still wearing mine at the moment but i dunno what to do now! sentimental value is kind of gone thinking that the other ring is most likely listed on ebay right now or in a pawn shop . i havent taken this ring off in forever... not to sleep, not to shower. its such a bummer. what should i do? i was thinking of getting mine engraved on the inside with a special msg and giving it to him, to give it new value. but it doesnt fit his fingers. waaaaaaahhh *sad* ps. he was able to get an emergency passport, so at least that is all set now (edit) wow i rly screwed up the subject line lol! Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 Maybe you can get it engraved and put it on a nice chain for him? A lot of men don't like to wear necklaces like that, but it's not to say that he wouldn't wear it under his shirt. Maybe he'd even be the type that wouldn't mind wearing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 If you want to give him your ring, you can give it to him on a chain to wear since it doesn't fit. And please don't get bogged down in this. We can easily get stuck on the sentimental but it is a material possession and can be replaced. Rejoice in the knowledge that HE is fine and coming home to you. I'm sure if every possession he had was stripped you'd be happy to have him anyway. There are many people around the world today who are getting the news that they don't have their loved one anymore and will never again. Remember that and be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jumi Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 I was thinking of putting it on a chain. he might wear it, he wore a necklace (back when i first knew him) that a friend of his got him from Hot Topic. he's not macho manly. he loved the ring too, he even bought a claddagh ring out there in ireland to match the one i already had (that was stolen too...) any other ideas other than necklace maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jumi Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 If you want to give him your ring, you can give it to him on a chain to wear since it doesn't fit. And please don't get bogged down in this. We can easily get stuck on the sentimental but it is a material possession and can be replaced. Rejoice in the knowledge that HE is fine and coming home to you. I'm sure if every possession he had was stripped you'd be happy to have him anyway. There are many people around the world today who are getting the news that they don't have their loved one anymore and will never again. Remember that and be happy. very true. i am not super depressed about this. it's just a bummer.. it was a special thing to me... a sort of tangible connection i have to him over there. i hope i didnt come across as materialistic... im really not i assure you. believe me... id be happy as a clam running naked in the jungle with him without a single possession. and the idea of what you wrote in that last line has made me feel sick to my stomach before.... especially when i heard he was going to be alone in a strange country for a few days (this past weekend) while he was waiting for his passport. i have a tendency to worry too much though. but i am very aware of that, that is the scariest thought that has ever occurred to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 Maybe you can get matching claddagh rings and have his engraved with some kind of sweet message if you want to replace the sentiment of what was stolen. The sentiment is still there, even though the ring isn't. Knowing that even though his is gone, that you're still wearing yours should be enough to keep him happy. And of course, all possessions aside, at least your love is still there. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 very true. i am not super depressed about this. it's just a bummer.. it was a special thing to me... a sort of tangible connection i have to him over there. i hope i didnt come across as materialistic... im really not i assure you. believe me... id be happy as a clam running naked in the jungle with him without a single possession. and the idea of what you wrote in that last line has made me feel sick to my stomach before.... especially when i heard he was going to be alone in a strange country for a few days (this past weekend) while he was waiting for his passport. i have a tendency to worry too much though. but i am very aware of that, that is the scariest thought that has ever occurred to me. Oh jumi. I don't think you are materialistic at all. When I came back the last time I saw my husband we had just had our first visit in three years AND we had gotten married. We took pictures everywhere of everything during those three weeks. The new video camera I had purchased got all the wedding prep but died during the ceremony (it was hours and I had no idea) and I had forgotten to get another one. So we took pictures with the camera. Lots and lots of pictures to carry us through and keep these memories forever. When I left my camera was stolen at the airport. All of that was gone and could not be replaced. I was so upset. And the only way that I was able to put it in perspective was to remember we have each other. We lived those memories and we have each other. That is what is important and nothing else matters. That is all I was trying to remind you of sweetie. Rings can be re-crafted and replaced. You still have each other and he will soon be back in your arms. You have less than three weeks left, right? It will all work itself out. And you can solve the ring issue in a multitude of ways including getting new rings and re-pledging yourselves to each other. Link to post Share on other sites
carvidep Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I believe you could get the ring resized. My dad did that with his wedding band 'cause it didn't quite fit any more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jumi Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 I believe you could get the ring resized. My dad did that with his wedding band 'cause it didn't quite fit any more. good idea but im not sure i can do that with this ring. it is actually made of two bands.... one thinner one inset inside the other one and it spins. but i called a jeweler and engraving is so much cheaper than i thought... around $20:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
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