Amending divorce

[mlchris2]

I am in need of some information, advice...

 

I need to make some amendments to my divorce and I am not sure how to do it. I really dont want to speak to an attorney, but if I have too... We did a quick and easy 5 minute divorce and over the course of 4 years things arent happening without a fight and things need to be cut and dry. 99.9% of our divorce was set to "both parties will decide on what to do" and based on verbal agreements.

 

I need to change child visitation and methods of delivery and child support payments methods.

 

Is it as easy as typing up a simple letter, addressed to her and the court. Send her a copy... once signed, send a copy to the Court for submittal???

 

Got any advice for me?

[Chrome Barracuda]

Hmmm I thought you couldnt amend the the divorce decree after the judge signs off on it, after a certain amount of time?

 

What do you want to change??? Money, child support issues?

[Gunny376]

In most states divorce decrees can be amended if their is a circumstantial change that has occurred. For example you've lost your job, or you've have to take a lesser paying job with no foreseeable chance of your regaining your former level of income.

 

This happen when I retired from the Marines, and I took the X back and had my child support lowered to 2/3rds of what it had formerly been. (I needed to some breathing room, later when I had made the adjustment to civilian life? I didn't take her back again and have it lowered yet again when my DD graduated from HS, although I would have certainly been in my legal rights to have done so.

 

Your probably going to need a lawyer. Not a mean one, but certainly one that can 'out-lawyer' anyone she can come up with.

 

You've got grounds and basis, although don't be surprised if you don't catch some grief from the judge for having done a DIY divorce in the first place.