Joey96426 Posted November 28, 2003 Share Posted November 28, 2003 Hey everyone, Im new to this stuff but I couldn't help but read what everyone was going through because i am in the same boat as alot of people and am basically looking for some advice. So now I joined and I want to ask for some help for myself. I dated this girl for almost 3 years. The last year was a little shaky and I know that I didn't treat her the way she deserved to be treated. Not like I hit her or anything I just didnt pay her as much attention and I would get mad at stupid stuff. But anyways we've been broken up for about 2 or 3 months now and Ive come to realize more than ever that I am truly in love with this girl. I find myself not even being able to eat or sleep or live my life normally because all I think about is this girl. Ive told her how I feel and how much i miss her and I guess she just needs to be alone right now. She says she wants to see whats out there. I told her that I have no desire to be with anyone else, or to even try to be with anyone else. I just can't even look at another girl and without feeling sick to my stomach. But I have told her that Im not over her and that I don't want to be over her. She has been saying that she just wants us to be best friends right now and go from there. My heart tells me that I need to show this girl that I am here for her and that I need to do whatever it takes to show her I love her and want to be with her. I know alot of people say that letting go completely will maybe bring the best chances but I can't imagine going for days and weeks and months without talking to her. I wouldn't want her to be over me completely if I cut myself off for awhile. I just really dont know what to do anymore. I want this girl more than ever, and shes really the only thing that makes me happy anymore. So if anyone has any advice, maybe someone who went through what I am going through. maybe someone who has had a success story with a situation like mine. Please help. Thanks so much for listening. Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted November 28, 2003 Share Posted November 28, 2003 Try to distance yourself for a month. She wont miss you if you are in constant contact. You'll also find that the distance makes it easier to deal with the separation. See if you still feel the same way after a month. You may find your feelings changing about the way you have been treated. Or you may find yourself looking elsewhere. If she wants to try again, she will. If not, you will already be on the road to recovery. In any case, realize that she has done serious damage to your relationship and that you will have to rebuild it from the ground up. If she want's back in, and she isn't willing to work at that, then you are really better off without her. Otherwise you'll end up being her standby and she'll try to find solutions for the relationship issues in other people. Which is not a recipe for happiness. What you want is gone. You have to build it again. Don't take her back without a long conversation about her level of commitment to the relationship and your expectations from her. And stick to those expectations. Link to post Share on other sites
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