Island Girl Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 The tsunami did hit my husband's country. News is always sporadic and generally wrong in some way when it comes to them. I talked to him after we initially heard about it but haven't since. He tried calling me yesterday and I missed the call by minutes. So I tried calling back several times and it either rings and rings or goes direct to VM. Sometimes that happens when the phone lines have problems. There have been a few huge natural disasters since he's been there. There has also been tragic situations of great magnitude. And then there have been the times when he has been in jeopardy but come through it. All of them are REALLY hard to deal with 5600 miles away. Especially if I can't get through on the damn phone! The waiting to confirm he is still fine is immeasurable stress and is excruciating! I'm just hanging on to the fact that he was fine the last time I spoke to him and odds are he is still fine, phone issues always happen when there has been something major, and more than likely it was him that called -- not some family member trying to get me a message (they don't leave messages because it eats up their minutes and they're all prepaid). I just HATE this so much! Ugh!!! Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I wondered about your husband when I heard about the tsunami. I hadn't heard that his country (or what I think is his country) was hit particularly hard, but at least you know he's safe. I'm sure you'll hear from him shortly, IG. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I know how you feel. The last bomb that hit Indonesia had me and my family worried coz we have relatives there. In fact, one of my uncle works in the next office to the hotel that was bombed. We were worried sick coz phone calls were not getting through or would kept ringing but no one answered on the other side. In the end, it all turned out the way we hoped for : everyone was fine. I hope and pray nothing is wrong and that your husband is fine. I don't have anything more to say but to give you a couple of cyber hugs. Hope that will help a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
yharden Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 My thoughts are with you during this time. The worst is over, and he made it through; therefore, if he was fine after that he is most likely fine now. I know that still does not calm all your fears, but hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Natural disasters are frightening, particularly when you can't communicate with a loved one. I found an online media source, from your husband's country. They describe where some of the damage is. If you want, I'll post the link or PM it to you, but didn't want to post it, due to anonymity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Well I got hold of him finally after calling 28 times in a row - I got the call through. He said the radio is still telling them a warning is in effect. (I can't find much on the internet at all about what has happened there or any warning.) So he is going to go to his dad's house and says it is higher there. I remember it all being pretty flat and his dad's house is nearer to the beach. I guess the only thing I can do is be happy he is fine as of now and hope that doesn't change. Now if I could just find reliable information as to the warning issued and when this is all supposed to be over with. One of his aunts and two of her children are among the missing. I met her at our wedding - she helped get me ready, in the traditional attire, for the wedding. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Natural disasters are frightening, particularly when you can't communicate with a loved one. I found an online media source, from your husband's country. They describe where some of the damage is. If you want, I'll post the link or PM it to you, but didn't want to post it, due to anonymity. Please PM me the link TBF. That would be great. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Oh, IG, how awful honey! But how lucky that your man is okay after that. I hope you hear from him again soon! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Oh and thank you very much everyone. I replied in haste - so sorry. I do appreciate it - to all of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Link PM'd. Glad to hear your husband's okay! Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Glad he is ok. Let us know when you know more! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Glad he is OK IG. We live less than 1km away from the coast here and we were issued with a warning too, even though we are quite a way from Samoa. There has been ALOT on the news here about the situation in the pacific for obvious reasons and because there is such a big island population here, so I will keep a closer eye on it for you. Glad you managed to get through though. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Sweet relief! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 If people want to make a donation to help the relief effort in the Pacific, they can do here Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 we'll keep him and his family in our prayers for safekeeping, IG. Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 If people want to make a donation to help the relief effort in the Pacific, they can do here That's great! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Glad he is OK IG. We live less than 1km away from the coast here and we were issued with a warning too, even though we are quite a way from Samoa. There has been ALOT on the news here about the situation in the pacific for obvious reasons and because there is such a big island population here, so I will keep a closer eye on it for you. Glad you managed to get through though. Oh thank you sb! I really appreciate it. There is a very large islander population there - some of his family is there too but they aren't close with hubbybear. Incidentally he is reacting to this stress badly. He gets irritable and short under extreme duress. :mad: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 So the latest is we are at odds at this time. We had a pretty bad time of it all morning and the last conversation did NOT end well at all. It sucks. The circumstances suck. He is being the rarely seen OBSTINATE self centered, emotionally withholding JERK that he is fully capable of being to the Nth degree. Nothing I say is right. He feels alone and lost -- I ask him where he can go that is higher ground he says his dad's then I comment that I thought that it was all flat in that area and *WHAM* "I'm saying it's higher there and you say it isn't?!" -- mmmmmmKay. So I tell him to call me when he gets there and then I get "you don't even ask me 'How are you going to move your stuff? Will you have enough food there? Are you going to be okay there?' - NOTHING!!" But when I did ask something along those lines it is, "I am a Big Boy I can take care of myself. What you tink? I am a leedle boy playing around ova heeya?!!" I ask how his dad is and he says "He is fine! We are sick over AUNTIE and my COUSIN NOT my dad! You know dat awready!" DAMNIT. Trying to get off the phone didn't work at all either. Suffice it to say I hit MY breaking point and did not respond well to him. So it just deteriorated. He is like the little girl in the poem: There was a little girl, Who had a little curl, Right in the middle of her forehead. And when she was good, she was very, very good. But when she was bad, she was HORRID. If we do in fact make it through this I really think I need to apply for Sainthood. Link to post Share on other sites
Bearandsue Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 You were the first person I thought of when I saw the news..... I just hope he will be ok and they find his family. Don't worry about him being a little crabby. I think men just don't like to feel helpless. The big guy is just blowing off steam. You will be as right as rain in no time. Saint Island Girl:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
carvidep Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 So glad he's okay! And as for his hot temper, as you already said, he's got a LOT on his plate right now, and having his aunt and cousins on the missing list is huge. Traumatic experiences and losses can change a person at the flip of the switch. I learned that from first hand experience when I lost my dog a few weeks ago. My dad and I both became mad at the world, and spouted off comments that were completely uncalled for. Just let him know that you understand that he's going through a very tough time right now and that you're thinking about him. I can't guarantee that you'll get a nice "thank you" in return, but it may help him think a little more about what he says during your next conversation. And when he does say those nasty things, do your best not to take it personally. *hugs* Link to post Share on other sites
MSUE Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 IG I'm relieved to hear he is ok...I have to say i thouigh about you as I saw the news...hang in there...at least you can rest knowing that he is ok Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 IG- there has been another earthquake between Samoa and Tonga in the last few hours, but it was too deep to cause a bad tsunami, and no major damage was reported. The NZ airforce have gone out to help in the region, and there have been awesome aid efforts from here, which is great. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 IG- there has been another earthquake between Samoa and Tonga in the last few hours, but it was too deep to cause a bad tsunami, and no major damage was reported. The NZ airforce have gone out to help in the region, and there have been awesome aid efforts from here, which is great. Thank you. :bunny: He broke his femur in the last one that was 8.1 a few years ago...so not such good luck with those. And then the States kept reporting that no one was injured when many were. NZ is definitely more accurate. Thank you so very much for the head's up. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Thank you. :bunny: He broke his femur in the last one that was 8.1 a few years ago...so not such good luck with those. And then the States kept reporting that no one was injured when many were. NZ is definitely more accurate. Thank you so very much for the head's up. http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/870592/another-quake-hits-tongan-coast This is a little bit more detailed. I'm glad your hubby is okay! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/870592/another-quake-hits-tongan-coast This is a little bit more detailed. I'm glad your hubby is okay! Oh thank you CE. I am glad there is no new tsunami warning with this one. And he just rang. So he is fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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