Wicked Child Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Ok, so I'm currently dating around...Nothing serious with anyone, but dates here and there. Really just trying to find the right guy. The past few guys I've gone out with have become really attached really quick...Always saying things like "I think about you all the time" and things of that nature. I myself, have yet to feel this way about anyone I'm seeing. When this happens, I usually try and slow things down and explain that I'm not quite ready for anything serious, but I'd like to see where things lead. I'm brutally honest with men, because I don't want any kind of miscommunications and problems, so I always tell it like it is. I'm considering my options and just trying to have a good time and I let them know that. My issue...These guys want to occupy all of my time, and seem to be smitten almost instantly..Telling me sweet things I wouldn't even think to tell someone I'm just casually dating! (if you're not my partner, I am not going to spend every day with you, plain and simple...and I think that's reasonable) they go off on my supposed lack of interest and initiative. Personally, I don't think it's fair to carry on with someone if I am not as interested as them. It takes me time to open up, and some ppl seem to have a problem with that. I explain my idea that I don't feel comfortable if I can't reciprocate the same feelings, even though I may like someone. I think it's a perfectly valid feeling. I wouldn't want to be all gaga over someone if they are only gonna half a$$ it with me, yanno? Case in point, a gentleman I had met on OK cupid some years ago expressed to me "I want to take you off the market, and I don't care how long it takes, you're worth the wait." Now he and I hit it off wonderfully, had a couple dates. I really enjoyed him. When conflicting schedules and my lack of a car (not to mention distance...he lives about 90 min from me) prevented us from seeing each other but once a month, he went off on this tirade about how I am messing with him, and shouldn't have spent the night if I wasn't interested. He knew my story, my past, inside and out...Knew my reservations about him coming on extremely strong on our first date, and knew I wasn't used to pretty much being adored. He accused me of being distant, after I explained all this to him and he claimed he understood. This whole thing has been somewhat of a recurring problem with my dates as of lately....And I don't know if it's something I'm doing, or if I have poor choices of dates...Or maybe men are just pmsing all at once or something... The more I'm pushed toward something, the more resistance I have... It seems like if I express interest in anyone, they are so quick to try and slap a label on us it makes my head spin, and thus eliminates any attraction. So, what the hell guys? It's getting to the point where I am afraid to even talk to any of them cos I don't want to unintentionally lead anyone on...But I need to take things slow, man. I don't place my trust in just anyone, and I'm not one to get smitten easily. Maybe I just haven't found a person that makes me feel like that? I don't know. I'm sick of dating. Link to post Share on other sites
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