confusdboy1677 Posted November 29, 2003 Share Posted November 29, 2003 What did i do wrong?? Please help me people. I've been going out with my gf for 10 months and unlike many others i do not regret the way i treat her and i totally believe i treated her like a princess. Anyways this didn't seem to pay off because she recently dumped me out of the blue. I am completley crushed. I love this girl with all my heart and i don't understand why she dumped me. I did everything i could have to make her happy and i never failed to constantly tell her how much i loved her. I love this girl and i just want her to be happy but at the same time i want to understand why she broke it off. She didn't even have the respect for my feelings to explain why and she just simply said it was over and she has been ignoring me ever since. Please if anyone thinks they have an explanation please awnser!! Link to post Share on other sites
Cass33 Posted November 29, 2003 Share Posted November 29, 2003 I think that just dumping you out of no where, has got to be the most rudest and hurtful thing to do. Especialy if you did treat her like a princess. She could hve broken up with you for many reasons, and well, i dont really know everything about your relationship, but maybe she did something and felt guilty about staying with you. Or maybe even she just wanted to explore things and other people. You probubly didnt do anything wrong, she just may have needed to do what she did for a reason that would hurt you, or a reason she couldnt explain. Dont put yourself down or jump to conclusions, everything will work out! Sorry agian about you troubles! Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted November 29, 2003 Share Posted November 29, 2003 perhaps you were too nice to her? did she treat you well in return? you've gotta analyze what you did because break-ups don't usually come out of nowhere... and while it could've easily been something you couldn't control, you wanna make sure you don't repeat your mistakes, if you made any. meanwhile, you may wanna read some threads that have "too nice" in their title... good luck, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
wakeboard_28 Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 Look man I know how you feel the same thing happened about a month ago. She said that we needed to break up. I asked her why and she says it was because of another person. Seeing as how your girl didn't even have the common curtosy to tell the lame reason she broke it with you then I would say good ridance to her. If there is one thing I have learned in relationships is that both people have to love eachother mutually. If you loved her and she didn't love you than you. If you would have stayed together you wouldn't and couldn't have been truley happy. I have not contacted my ex for over a month now and let me tell you what it has helped me in more ways than one. I felt the same way you did like everything I did amounted to nothing but I realized that it amounted to a lot. It made me realize that if she couldn't love me for me than why should I pretend to be somenone that I am not. Time heals a lot even a broken heart. Link to post Share on other sites
LearningEveryDay Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 Well I just want you to know, that I am also in a very similar situation. The past few days have been the most painful days of my life. However I have started to understand why girls treat nice guys in this way. 1. Girls dont like guys who call them everyday. Also saying "i love you i love you" is big NO NO (niceness/over caring turns into desperation) 2. Treating her like a princess is good "sumtimes", doing it everyday just makes u predictable. 3. Girls like a challenge, sumthing that in within grasp usually means nothing to them. This is why unfaithful guys (players) usually get the women, girls like to try making them stay true. So i really hate to say it but Players are on da right track in getting women, although with the wrong motives. And ladies will have to understand that it is nice guys that will give them a good and stable future. And yes you have to analyse what u did wrong. Sorri dude, i know how u feel. Link to post Share on other sites
wakeboard_28 Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 True dat! Nice guys like me finish last when it comes to dating/relationships. Girls seem to love a challenge nowadays. Nice guys are out there but aren't usually given the time of day. Link to post Share on other sites
21stcenturygirl Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 You are all wrong. Nice women will always appreciate a nice man. If a woman isn't nice then she will want someone who isn't nice either. There is no nice woman who won't love, adore and appreciate a man who is treats her like a princess. Like deserves like. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusdboy1677 Posted November 30, 2003 Author Share Posted November 30, 2003 I'd like to thank everyone on their opinions of my situation. After seeing what you guys had to say I realise that no matter how much i love this girl it won't make her feel the same way about me. I really wish she would explain to me why this relationship ended but there is no way i can make her so i guess it would be for the best if i forget it and move on. During the first 7 or so months of our relationship i really felt she loved me just as much as i loved her and i have friends that no her that totally agree. If love is such a great and powerful thing then how can u go from being in love and all of a sudden fall out of love?? Anyways I guess what im trying to get here is that even though i realize that it would be best for me to move on and get on with my life I still miss her greatly and have dreams of her coming back to me. Can anyone tell me what they think the likely hood of her coming back to me is??,and even if she does should i except her after what shes done?? Well heres the scenario, When we first went out she was extremly aggresive like she is in everything she does. She wanted to move very quickly and after some time she was already talking to me about getting married in the future and having kids. We stupitidly had unprotected sex at our young age(were both 17) and she ended up getting pregnent. However she ended up having a misscarrage and was actually Genuinley dissapointed because she wanted the child. How can u all of a sudden have no feelings for a guy you almost had a kid with for whatever reason?? When we were going out she would sometimes cry because she said she was scared that i would leave her, and she wanted to have my baby so if i left her she would at least have my baby, according to her anyways. Idk but i don't understand how this relationship from being so intense and passionate could turn into nothing in matter of seconds. Or maybe it was too intense or something like that. Anyways if anyone has any ideas i would appreciate a reply. Link to post Share on other sites
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