b3nx Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 My girlfriend of a few months said I am not romantic enough. I was romantic to start of with but I am trying to save money and sometimes she will do things like candles and stuff and I will be so tired I will not react how she wanted me to and we argue. We both love each other but now I feel like I have to do something nice just to make it up to her... We see each other a lot and are having little tiffs every now and then but we get over it, we don't want space apart but we are so in love that we both get cut when we argue? What to do? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 My girlfriend of a few months said I am not romantic enough. I was romantic to start of with but I am trying to save money and sometimes she will do things like candles and stuff and I will be so tired I will not react how she wanted me to and we argue. We both love each other but now I feel like I have to do something nice just to make it up to her... We see each other a lot and are having little tiffs every now and then but we get over it, we don't want space apart but we are so in love that we both get cut when we argue? What to do? If your girlfriend wants you to be more romantic and attentive why don't you be that way then? That would really solve all of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Lol, I love it whenever a girl expects a man to think in her own over romanticized way, when the man doesn't even think that way. Would a girl be ok if I dragged her to a boxing match and there was blood flying around? Apart from important days like bdays, valentines day etc, where I was expected to make an effort. If a girl told me I wasn't romantic enough, I'll just fart in her face. Oversensitivity is an insecurity and coming from selfish needs. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Lol, I love it whenever a girl expects a man to think in her own over romanticized way, when the man doesn't even think that way. Would a girl be ok if I dragged her to a boxing match and there was blood flying around? Apart from important days like bdays, valentines day etc, where I was expected to make an effort. If a girl told me I wasn't romantic enough, I'll just fart in her face. Oversensitivity is an insecurity and coming from selfish needs. If going to a boxing match with blood flying around was important to you, then yes, she should oblige you and go with you. I think it's rather childish that your partner communicates her needs to you and laugh them off as jokes and act rude? Well, if you even do that. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 My girlfriend of a few months said I am not romantic enough. I was romantic to start of with but I am trying to save money and sometimes she will do things like candles and stuff and I will be so tired I will not react how she wanted me to and we argue. We both love each other but now I feel like I have to do something nice just to make it up to her... We see each other a lot and are having little tiffs every now and then but we get over it, we don't want space apart but we are so in love that we both get cut when we argue? What to do? See you cant start off romantic and then slow it down, you have to be consistent. Once you start the romantic stuff you have to keep it up, otherwise she'll think youre losing interest in her. You set a precident, and you have to keep it up. Dont take her for granted, she will leave if you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 If going to a boxing match with blood flying around was important to you, then yes, she should oblige you and go with you. I think it's rather childish that your partner communicates her needs to you and laugh them off as jokes and act rude? Well, if you even do that. How about two people grow up and not NEED things that are not essential to a relationship? Ie, I don't drag the girl to a boxing match, and she doesn't need me to sing "I will always love you" every week...... This is why so many relationships don't work out. Over needy people with unrealistic needs. Link to post Share on other sites
SilverChrome Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 See you cant start off romantic and then slow it down, you have to be consistent. Once you start the romantic stuff you have to keep it up, otherwise she'll think youre losing interest in her. You set a precident, and you have to keep it up. Dont take her for granted, she will leave if you do. Good one, boogieboy! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 If a girl told me I wasn't romantic enough, I'll just fart in her face. Well I guess sharing a body function can be considered somewhat of an "intimate" act. Keep up the good work. Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Well I guess sharing a body function can be considered somewhat of an "intimate" act. Keep up the good work. You have to appreciate my gentlemanly charm to get that joke..... Link to post Share on other sites
EcstasyX6 Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Lol, I love it whenever a girl expects a man to think in her own over romanticized way, when the man doesn't even think that way. Would a girl be ok if I dragged her to a boxing match and there was blood flying around? Apart from important days like bdays, valentines day etc, where I was expected to make an effort. If a girl told me I wasn't romantic enough, I'll just fart in her face. Oversensitivity is an insecurity and coming from selfish needs. It's not selfish or oversensitive to want attention from your man. Men want the ultimate; the main course. So do women, but romance is almost as important to us. If you want to continue getting filet mignon, keep up with the appetizers. Not that you won't get it, but it sure keeps us wanting to serve it hot. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 How about two people grow up and not NEED things that are not essential to a relationship? Showing your partner you care for them is essential to a relationship, going out of your way is essential, taking an active interest is essential. Doing something nice to light up their day because it's important to them, is essential. This is how you treat someone you value well. Ie, I don't drag the girl to a boxing match, and she doesn't need me to sing "I will always love you" every week...... If the girl cares for you, she will do it because it's important to you, and for that reason she will enjoy it. This is why so many relationships don't work out. Over needy people with unrealistic needs. It's not unrealistic to expect a partner to treat you well. If a woman likes romance and a man likes good cooking, there's nothing needy about them both giving that partner what makes them happy and feel special. But for you, and guys like you there are now trendy keychains available. WWFD? (What would a farter do?) Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 You have to appreciate my gentlemanly charm to get that joke..... You have to understand my penchant for sarcasm to appreciate my response:cool: ---------------------- OP, if your gf goes out of her way to light candles and create a mood- just go with the flow. Every once and a while- you be the one to light the candles and she'll be satisfied. Romance doesn't have to mean doing big things- it's probably the small things that your gf willl appreciate. You don't have to spend money to have an impact. A small gesture out of the blue that lets her know you are thinking of her will suffice. Expecting you to be a romance machine 24 hours a day isn't realistic. If she's pressuring you with unrealistic expectations- that's not fair. If you're trying to save money right now- surprise her by making dinner, or even ordering in. Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 Showing your partner you care for them is essential to a relationship, I agree with you completely. But again some people are over needy, hence why they can't make a relationship work. What they NEED in a relationship is unrealistic and there has to be a balance at some point. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 See you cant start off romantic and then slow it down, you have to be consistent. Once you start the romantic stuff you have to keep it up, otherwise she'll think youre losing interest in her. You set a precident See the part in bold, that's exactly what you did OP. You set the bar high for yourself and like boogieboy said, you now have to be consistent. My boyfriend isn't the romantic type, didn't even start out that way, but he does other stuff to make up for that. So of course I'm not gonna expect that out of him, but if he would've started off that way and then just kind of stopped, as a girl I'd be thinking what the f*ck happened here?!?!? I'd be wondering if he's just being distant, has he gotten tired of me, or is it just nothing. And I'm sure your girlfriend is having the same thoughts so talk to her and 1) reassure her nothing is wrong and 2) put in some effort to start back with the little romantic gestures. And remember romance doesn't always have to be pricey. Link to post Share on other sites
SilverChrome Posted October 5, 2009 Share Posted October 5, 2009 gestures. And remember romance doesn't always have to be pricey. Very true. Order in as D-Lish suggested then rent her favourite movie or the first movie you both watched together. Simple things like that can bring a lot of happiness to a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
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