longlegzs80 Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 How does someone like myself deal with someone such as my mom being a negative part in my life? She just like me is depressed, misreable, etc. And I know I have mentioned to her before that she should get some help or some pills to help with her mood swings and attitude changes. But, nothing is done. I won't take pills for myself because I will find other ways of dealing with my problems. But, since I live with my mom at the age of 22 and won;t beable to move out anytime soon, how do I deal with this? I want a change in my life. Complete makeover as to how I live, how I each, what brings me joy and what doesn't and weed out the negative people in my life. My mom is my biggest negative person who is in my life, and I can't take the misreable attitude no longer. WE have a lack of communication and don't talk like we used too. But, I really want some help to figure out what can I do as far as finding my happiness in life without negative people always influencing me and saying negative and hurtful things to me. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
moonspinner Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 How long before you can move out? I know what you are going through, I lived with a very negative, emotionally and verbally abusive parent and it affected all my relationships. The only thing I can think of, short of moving out, is expand the amount of time you spend away from your mom. Are you working, in school, do you belong to any outside organizations? How about your friends..If you don't have any or many of the above, I would start working on my mental and spiritual survival.... pronto. You sound like a sensitive person, easily affected by nastiness. I know its really tough, but you have to tune her down or tune her out. You can't control her, or change her, so forget that. Seek support groups...maybe you will find a resource that will help you get away from the situation a lot faster than you thought. Oh and p.s....no matter how hurtful this lady is to you, she still is your mom and probably loves you ..... perhaps in pain herself... Rise. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
MWkid19 Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 I can relate to how your feeling. My household growing up was just short of a complete disaster. There was a shred of stability in there but for the most part it was really bad. Why are you stuck at home? Are you going to school? I had to shut my family out of my life to be able to deal with it. It is actually worse for me to include them just a little bit than for them not to be there at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 That must be really tough Legz.....actually tough on ALL of you. I've never had to deal with it at home. I DID work with someone like that though. It drove me nuts! I'm negatively sarcastic....but I actually enjoy my own dysfunction. I guess all you can do is get into a financial position to move .....or keep flirting with that guy at work as a distraction!!! How is that going??? Link to post Share on other sites
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