just_bella Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 Should I seek closure or just move on. My ex & I broke up in the end of August after 4 yrs. He basicly wanted time to focus on school. A.K.A....he really want a break from us. And start seeing what is out there. It was over the phone due to the fact he lives else where for his school. So I've never really got closure from this break up. We talked & emailed, but still no closure. Basicly alot cowardly stuff about distance & need to focus on school. Still No closure from any of our talks or emails. I really want to resolve this face to face. But in truth, I am actually doing better. I have finally allow time to deal with things. Now all the pain, I once had is now gone. The rose color glasses are not tainted. I can now see the flaws of the relationship. And I have finally started moving on again in my life without him. I've realized that he doesn't deserve me. I was a good gf...i was attentive, smart, fun to be around, & always gave my all in relationship. I was the better person in the relationship. And now I realize he wasn't quite there for me as I was for him. I think he was lucky to have had those 4 yrs. But parts of me, wants him to see what he is missing out. Here is my question. I haven't seen him since May when he left for his current program. He is now down for the holiday break. I don't know when I'll see him again or have a chance. Should I contact him & try to get closure. Or just keep on moving on like I have been and still no contact. Link to post Share on other sites
greentea Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 [color=green]Hello. I think that if you are really over him and seeing him or talking to him won't make you hurt or desire him again, it will be good to have that closure. However, if you feel that things are not as stable yet, I think its better to just forget it and move on. With or without closure, end product is still the same - you are not together. [/color] You're lucky you realized you are better off without him. I am still dealing with mine.... Link to post Share on other sites
just_bella Posted December 1, 2003 Share Posted December 1, 2003 Thank you very much!!! I think that I should move on with my life without him. Closure or not it will not resolve anything. Esp since I feel like I am finally picking up the pieces of my life again. Why should I go and stir up all these emotions. And prevent the progress i have gain. I am finally at peace with myself & this break up. The pain & sorrow that were once there ....have slowly disappear, thanks to this forum. The people here allow me to understand & accept the pain. So I am taking the advice & taking care just myself. Thank you all for everything!! ============ Bella Link to post Share on other sites
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