Author Aksion Posted October 8, 2009 Author Share Posted October 8, 2009 After reading and re-reading what you have said to me seibert, I decided to venture out and seek advice from a few female friends of mine that I've known for a while. Each and everyone of them told me the exact same thing you said to me more or less. So now, I just move on to that tough part you spoke of. I've already been doing things to pre-occupy myself. Spending a little extra time in the gym..hanging out with a friend..just little things to keep me outta the house until I have to sleep. I started going to AA -- even though I don't feel like I'm an alcoholic, I feel as though alcohol did help bring me to this point in my relationship with my wife. Now I'm just playing that 'waiting' game I guess -- to see how she reacts and what she wants to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 After reading and re-reading what you have said to me seibert, I decided to venture out and seek advice from a few female friends of mine that I've known for a while. Each and everyone of them told me the exact same thing you said to me more or less. So now, I just move on to that tough part you spoke of. I've already been doing things to pre-occupy myself. Spending a little extra time in the gym..hanging out with a friend..just little things to keep me outta the house until I have to sleep. I started going to AA -- even though I don't feel like I'm an alcoholic, I feel as though alcohol did help bring me to this point in my relationship with my wife. Now I'm just playing that 'waiting' game I guess -- to see how she reacts and what she wants to do. That's right, building yourself up remains a priority. Forget about her right now you and yourself is more important you need to remember she left you! not the other way around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aksion Posted October 9, 2009 Author Share Posted October 9, 2009 That's right, building yourself up remains a priority. Forget about her right now you and yourself is more important you need to remember she left you! not the other way around. I wish that forgetting about her was as easy to do as it is to say. Still wishing she would call/text/something. Link to post Share on other sites
WTFO Posted October 10, 2009 Share Posted October 10, 2009 I wish that forgetting about her was as easy to do as it is to say. Still wishing she would call/text/something. "F" that. Don't wait on her. You'll drive yourself crazy bro. Link to post Share on other sites
sadhubby Posted October 10, 2009 Share Posted October 10, 2009 plain and simple bro your wife is tired of the old situation being you and her. shes thinking all day about sleeping with the new guy if she hasnt already done it !! the more you pine after her she will justify in her mind the crap she is pulling. i would have her stuff ready to go when she got there help her put it into her car act as if nothing bothers you. let her know that if she needs something she can call. but dont bother to call her at all !!!!!!!!! when she figures out that the green patch of grass on the other side isnt so green maybe you will have a chance . she will remember that you were strong in the end and not some whinney push over.. if she does calll you and she will act like everything is ok ... oh hey how are you did ya need something ahh good to know thanks i gota run take care. etc.. you will know when the time is right to have the lets council this marriage talk it took me 4 months for that to happen so good luck my freind. Link to post Share on other sites
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