Tkay Posted November 30, 2003 Share Posted November 30, 2003 Hi all. Well... i'm gonna write my story first. Here goes. ---------------------------------- 17-11-2003 I fell in love with a girl from my class after having a blast at party with her. Not just fell in love , but the kind of this-is-the-one-love. I cant stop thinking about her, cant eat, cant sleep, ... I'm 17 -turning 18 in 3 months- and i never had a girlfriend (so no kissing\sex either) The problem at that time was i just couldnt talk to her, not even on MSN 18-11-2003 Talked to her on MSN, but still having problems talking to her in real life. I just dont know what the say. People say u can talk about anything ,but seriously, i have no idea what to say. 19-11-2003 Wondering about the terms bodylanguage & eyecontact. hmm need some tips on that. 21-11-2003 A so called mate ,whitch i will call D. from now on, said to her on MSN that i liked her, but she didnt believe it and said something like "no he's just a suckup" .. cant find the right word in english so suckup isnt meant that bad. Intereseting detail: D. likes her too. 22-11-2003 Thinking about "makin my move" since she's going to pay attention to how i act around her from now on because she has a suspicion i like her. 25-11-2003 Talked to loads of people. One of her friends said this on msn (i will call the friend of the girl K. now) K: I dont know, i will be honest , i'm not sure if she (the girl i love- from now on called A-S) would even consider because you're in the same group as her (that means in school im always in the same class as her) , and i dont know if she thinks about u the same way K: but .. you never know.. who knows things work out anyway K: One of her major problems is that she's rather tall. If you're smaller then her you can forget about it (Im just about as tall as her... or maybe a centimetre smaller :\) 26-11-2003 Back to eye contact.. wondering where i should look when i talk to her,i find it hard to look in her eyes too long because i get ashamed 27-11-2003 I feel like an a**h***. I told her my friend D. who likes her also is just after her to have a girl, and doesn't really love her. A-S also said to me that she wants a boy who is as crazy as she is, who likes to dance and go out.... A few days earlier she said something like "I have fun with u at party's, you're not like some other boys who just stand still!" 28-11-2003 In the class german we had an exercice where we had to tell what we looked in a boy\girl. She said:funny,charming,sweet I actually am those,but so many boys are, and i'm really not sure if im a funny person (funny=humorous) 29-11-2003 Went out with her again. worst party ever. Some guys (also D.) got drunk and tried some kind of move on her, but she just ignored them and pushed them away, because she tought they had something up their sleeve (they were acting really suspicious) She pushed away most guys but talked alott to one who didnt made any move and she danced a bit with another She had absolutely no intrest for me :|. I think we made eye contact maybe twice in the whole night :| Later that day: talked to her on MSN. She's absolutely pissed at D. and the 2d one who she pushed away. Maybe i helped her getting pissed .. wel actually .. i DID.. by telling some non-so-true stuff. Like they made a bet "who dares to go the most far.. or something like who will kiss her first" ... but those were just rumours which i heard that night. 2 down, 2 to go? 30-11-2003 (today) I'm starting to feel really sorry. I think D. and A-S were actually getting along fine untill 27-11... she told all her problems to him and she told him stuff that nobody else knew. I have the feeling that she now tells me more stuff. But A-S is meeting D. again today because of school (they have to) and i'm scared D. will find out what i said. guess i just have to wait for an answer untill they get back later today ---------------------------------- Ok ... so i need advice on this story... I really dont know what to do... Also some opinions on what I did... Am i really that bad of a person!! Before you reply I would like to ask that you read the full story Thanks in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted November 30, 2003 Author Share Posted November 30, 2003 by the way .. the reason i wrote this in some kind of diary format is because this story was "live" on a dutch love-forum... but it isn't very active hoping to have more luck here. Link to post Share on other sites
Minus Posted December 2, 2003 Share Posted December 2, 2003 On 22-11-2003, I think you should have made your move. Honestly, I think she likes you. She says she has fun with you. Hell she even described you as funny,charming,sweet (FYI: Believe or not, a majority of guys are not). If you dont know if your funny, just pay attention to her when you try to make her laugh. Even if its the stupidest joke, and not even laugh, some girls still laugh at it. (FYI: I dont know why, but thats what I know from experience). On 29-11-2003, she probably didnt put interest in you, because you may have not put enough interest in her. All I can say is, if you really like her, go for it. Stop waiting around, because sooner or later, she is just going to think you like her as a friend only and want to remain that way. Also dont stare at her for 2 long, because that can be kind of scary. Just look at her and smile when your talking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 2, 2003 Author Share Posted December 2, 2003 Thanks Minus , i will certainly look into it! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 2, 2003 Share Posted December 2, 2003 there is really no such thing as love at first sight... this is infatuation, believe me i've felt this before, it's evil and tricks you into believing its true love yet it isnt. i felt like that too...couldnt eat, sleep, butterfly in stomach, and always thought about her, but after a week it slowly disappeared and i got over her. whether or not this is infatuation, just talk to her!! even thou she might night like you, you can always make a friend in the end Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 2, 2003 Author Share Posted December 2, 2003 Originally posted by monkey00 there is really no such thing as love at first sight... this is infatuation, believe me i've felt this before, it's evil and tricks you into believing its true love yet it isnt. i felt like that too...couldnt eat, sleep, butterfly in stomach, and always thought about her, but after a week it slowly disappeared and i got over her. whether or not this is infatuation, just talk to her!! even thou she might night like you, you can always make a friend in the end It could be true what u say honestly. I even think this feeling is slowly dissapearing, maybe its just that i dont want it to? Lets look at it as a purpose in life... tbqfh, i've changed into a "better" person since the day i fell in luv with her. I pay more attention to my look, did alott of shopping for clothes, even started doing some working out. I just feel better to round it up. I still love her, but not so much as in the beginning, and I blame it on not having enough contact with her. If only I could get to know her better.. BTW: I've noticed she talks less to me since 29-11.. the day of the party Not sure why... I'm guessing she thinks I lied about some stuff... will try to ask her to... instead of ending a conversation on msn with "xxxxxxx bye (k)" she just says "byebye" or something... might sound rediculous, but i think it means something :'( mkay my conclusions are try to talk to her more.. like monkey said. if only i would know about what... talking about school is pretty superficial Too bad exam period is starting 4 december by the way:for those who care: http://www.belgianparties.be/upload/roadshow/The_Last_Dance_3-Smeermaas_Lanaken-20031024/33.jpg the one on the left is me (the ugly looking blue t-shirt im wearing was bcause i had to bcos it was our "chrysostemos" party.. dno u if u guys know what that is.) the girl 2d from right (brown hair, black shirt) is her. I look like **** on that pic though ( *hopes that noone recognizes me* ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 3, 2003 Author Share Posted December 3, 2003 @Minus there's this teacher who we call "simba the lion king" (he looks like simba) and she said something like "when u have to kiss him u get a dicease" and i say "ye u turn into a lion" that was like in the worst joke ever did i pass? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 dude, i feel like a pervert telling you this, given that i'm at least 10 years than you - but you are a total cutie. i think you are approaching this situation without enough confidence. women, particularly hot women, appreciate confidence and well, puissance. you are *easily* good enough for her - you're very cute, expressive, and in love - there is no reaosn to hold back. this is an odd suggestion, but read the stories of men in love. try stuff from byron, or that 'neck-ring of the dove' from the 10th (maybe a bit later) century. read leonard cohen. learn that you have a right to be in love, and your feelings are rare and sooooo valuable to discerning beautiful women. women respect power. you have all the resources necessary for social power easily available - you just need to believe in them. cheers j Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 3, 2003 Author Share Posted December 3, 2003 Hi jenny. First: How do u know you're 10 yrs older? How old are u? Im getting the feeling ur not taking me seriously and i think u think im only 12 I -know- of myself that i lack confidence. Not really easy to just let it dissapear. 2d: Thanks for the tips. Im not much of a reader but i went trough about 10 forums "women respect power. you have all the resources necessary for social power easily available - you just need to believe in them." that line actually touched me(or moved me, my english is quite crappish). thanks @Minus there's this teacher who we call "simba the lion king" (he looks like simba) and she said something like "when u have to kiss him u get a dicease" and i say "ye u turn into a lion" that was like in the worst joke ever did i pass? I forgot to say she laughed I have the feeling that whenever we have a good conversation on MSN she talks to me in real life more too... so I'm making progress Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 Originally posted by Tkay It could be true what u say honestly. I even think this feeling is slowly dissapearing, maybe its just that i dont want it to? Lets look at it as a purpose in life... tbqfh, i've changed into a "better" person since the day i fell in luv with her. I pay more attention to my look, did alott of shopping for clothes, even started doing some working out. I just feel better to round it up. haha yea i did the same too i forgot to mention... did shoppping for new clothes, worked out at least once every day and started to read my drivers book (got motivated to learn to drive, but im normally lazy) yea after i got over her...i started to work out less and less and starting to slack off in finishing the drivers manual...im sure im gonna take the written test this weekend, must finish! yea even if u feel infatuation dont be clingy, it makes girls sick. just be the way you normally are before you met her and go do your own thing, have your own life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 4, 2003 Author Share Posted December 4, 2003 Originally posted by monkey00 haha yea i did the same too i forgot to mention... did shoppping for new clothes, worked out at least once every day and started to read my drivers book (got motivated to learn to drive, but im normally lazy) yea after i got over her...i started to work out less and less and starting to slack off in finishing the drivers manual...im sure im gonna take the written test this weekend, must finish! yea even if u feel infatuation dont be clingy, it makes girls sick. just be the way you normally are before you met her and go do your own thing, have your own life. Haha , that is just about what would discribe my changes!! i even wanted to go take driving lessons too. Are you sure its this? because I still love her etc... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 4, 2003 Author Share Posted December 4, 2003 http://www.geocities.com/mailrums/love-infatuation.html according to this im more in love I have the impression infatuation is just a desire, as in just for sex or something. -Ofcourse- a man thinks about sex. Nothing strange about it IMO. But it's not like whenever i see her i get a hard-on. I just get HAPPY from talking to her Infatuation is something like "i want her here now i dont want to loose her" like i have seen with that friend of mine. Im rather patient and im just trying to get to know her better and talk more to her Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 4, 2003 Author Share Posted December 4, 2003 Today we talked on MSN about the fact that we wanted to go to a movie today with our class. We didnt know what movie , so some movie came up. ( a stupid boring movie called team spirit2 , its about a soccer team ) I didnt really know what kind of a movie it was and she said "Didnt u watch Team Spirit 1 , or the episodes on tv?" i sayz : no she sayz: boring guy and i was like OUCH :'( 5 mins later she said "tell me something interesting" I had no idea what to talk about so i just brought up something about school The truth is , I AM a boring guy. Do you really think she minds? Or was it just for laughs? Yesterday she said -xxxx- again! But then again, today she didnt ARGH , im getting paranoia. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 Originally posted by Tkay Haha , that is just about what would discribe my changes!! i even wanted to go take driving lessons too. Are you sure its this? because I still love her etc... HAHA that goes to show that guys truly DO think alike! LUST = non-stop thinking of an individual SEXUALLY (cuz their physical hotness got into your head, and you wanna screw her) INFATUATION = Non-stop thinking of an individual (just cause you feel you guys have a lot in common and feel you've made a connection) (making silly futuristic conversations that the both of you will have in different events in the future...yes thats what happened to me) and LOVE is somewhere along the lines of combining the 2 OH yea...also when you finally lose those pesky feelings about her....let ME know so I know that I proved you wrong!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted December 5, 2003 Author Share Posted December 5, 2003 narrr nvm , im convinced im in looooooooooooove Link to post Share on other sites
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