LisaUk Posted October 6, 2009 Share Posted October 6, 2009 Hi all Just checking in, quick update b/c tomorrow is my b'day and the feelings of anger and sadness are raging right now. Sad b/c I remmeber this time last year and the ex taking me out for the day. Angry b/c he hasn't even bothered to send me a card, we were together 18 years, I didn't cheat, I didn't abuse him, he can't even be bothered to send a d*mm b'day card??????????????? Perhaps that is me being unreasonable, but I don't know, would it have killed him, really? What does it take after spending 18 years with someone to just send a card? Is that really too much to ask? That's how I feel, bit of a pity party going on here, tired form uni and lack of sleep due to coughing all night with a cold. Come on Lis, get a grip. :( Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted October 6, 2009 Share Posted October 6, 2009 Hi all Just checking in, quick update b/c tomorrow is my b'day and the feelings of anger and sadness are raging right now. Sad b/c I remmeber this time last year and the ex taking me out for the day. Angry b/c he hasn't even bothered to send me a card, we were together 18 years, I didn't cheat, I didn't abuse him, he can't even be bothered to send a d*mm b'day card??????????????? Perhaps that is me being unreasonable, but I don't know, would it have killed him, really? What does it take after spending 18 years with someone to just send a card? Is that really too much to ask? That's how I feel, bit of a pity party going on here, tired form uni and lack of sleep due to coughing all night with a cold. Come on Lis, get a grip. :( Hi Lisa, Cheer up, it's your birthday and you can spend it any way you want...do anything you want. I plan on spending my first Xmas 4 states away at the coast with my folks...son and I are looking forward to it. It can be much worse....your ex could sneak back into your life the day before your birthday proclaiming his undying love for you, then leave you a month later after pilfering the bank account and leaving you heartbroken and on a financial limb...count your blessings. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted October 6, 2009 Share Posted October 6, 2009 Thats right Lis, get a grip! I wouldn't worry about the birthday card, i got one from my ex and after reading it, I wished i hadn't. Just reopens old wounds i was trying desperately to close. Your B-day is a special day you should spend it with the ones you love and those that love and care for you. he treats you like sh*t he loses the right to take part. It's about you now! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 Lisa Tojas is right about the card. I had several myself, screws up the whole day. As to the cold, I have heard a good remedy is a glass of brandy, after a hot bath. I never tried it as I could never figure out how to drink a hot bath Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer Girl Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 I did not send a birthday card after 2 weeks of breaking up...... I had all kinds of plans for his birthday..... but in the long run.... what do you say?.... would it make it any better if he did send a card... would it have given you hope? Most likely..... and then what???? I can guarantee though he knew it was your birthday and thought about it.... but can't go there anymore.... It is hard sometimes going through birthdays, and holidays..... the memories are more prevalant... but a necessary fact of facing it...... as we cannot control one that decides to want to leave the relationship.... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 happy birthday Link to post Share on other sites
tryagaintoday Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 happy birthday wow, alphamale, you are good. Yeah, Happy Birthday, Lisa. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 Lisa Tojas is right about the card. I had several myself, screws up the whole day. As to the cold, I have heard a good remedy is a glass of brandy, after a hot bath. I never tried it as I could never figure out how to drink a hot bath Gallon :sick: That joke was awful! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 :sick: That joke was awful! TOJAZ Yep, but it still gave me a chuckle. Happy Birthday Lisa. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LisaUk Posted October 8, 2009 Author Share Posted October 8, 2009 I am so much better off without him, I knew he wouldn't send one, a small part of me hoped he would prove me wrong, but instead he lived up to expectations. I know what those of you who said about it being better meant, but to know he didn't even care enough to just wish me a happy birthday, I mean you send a co-worker a card for goodness sakes. Doesn't matter, truely. Just shows me what he is and will always be. Went out last night with my fellow students to a night club, had a fantastic time, few drinks, some dancing and the only time he entered my mind was when I thought how much nicer this birthday was than last year, when he brought home his work with him. Thanks for all the birthday wishes everyone, means a lot, sorry I couldn't get on here yesterday, I tried in the early hours after the club, (would have been amusing, was quite tipsy and very happy! LOL), but I was staying over at a friends and her internet connection was down :-( Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 Glad to hear you had such a good time for your birthday, nobody deserves it more. Sorry he let you down, but unfortunately as we are all learning, thats what walk aways do best just remember, your better off without him. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 I am so much better off without him, I knew he wouldn't send one, a small part of me hoped he would prove me wrong, but instead he lived up to expectations. I know what those of you who said about it being better meant, but to know he didn't even care enough to just wish me a happy birthday, I mean you send a co-worker a card for goodness sakes. Doesn't matter, truely. Just shows me what he is and will always be. Went out last night with my fellow students to a night club, had a fantastic time, few drinks, some dancing and the only time he entered my mind was when I thought how much nicer this birthday was than last year, when he brought home his work with him. Thanks for all the birthday wishes everyone, means a lot, sorry I couldn't get on here yesterday, I tried in the early hours after the club, (would have been amusing, was quite tipsy and very happy! LOL), but I was staying over at a friends and her internet connection was down :-( Get out there and enjoy life Lisa, that is what I am trying to do to....started accepting friends invitations out again...spent two weeks feeling sorry for myself....time to move on thanks to the ex giving me permission...lol! Link to post Share on other sites
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